Hi i dont no how to start this i lost my partner of 7 years on wensday snd i really dont know how to start to deal sith it she was and is the love of my life and i feel so lost. and broken and really do not know what to do i do not want to be here with out her
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@Broken1980 I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s such early days for you and your head will be all over the place at the moment I’m sure. I lost my amazing husband 8 weeks ago so I’m not sure I have too much advice at the moment. Do you have family and friends for support? All I will say is basically take one day at a time, please look after yourself and definitely reach out on this forum whenever you need to
Hi thank you for your support 11i dont have a family that are the sort of supporting kind and as sad as it is no friends that would support this is also why it is has hard as it is with me being so alone my partner was my soul mate bedt my world and was due to marry in 2 weeks i have looked to get help as am considering suicide sorry i should not be saying this stuff your going through it your self sorry again
@Broken1980 please reach out to anyone who can support you currently, if you need to please ring the Samaritans please don’t do anything, it’s such early days for you right now and I know the pain is unreal but there are always people here to talk things through with you. Sometimes just talking through things with people who understand will help, if only a little, you are not alone x
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Thank you so much for your kind words
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I’m so sorry you have been thrown into this pit with the rest of us. At the moment your brain is screaming and fighting against the situation. Please call the Samaritans. Scream and rant if you must. It’s been a little over 4 months for me. I am a long way from dealing with this, I still cry every day, but I am much better then those early weeks. Read other posts on here. Post your feelings. We are all screaming. Just try and survive each day in those early weeks. The truth is when our partners die, the person we were dies too. We have to grow into a new person, into a new life. We don’t know who we will be or what will become of us. But each day we get closer to finding out. Good luck.
Thank you for your kind words it the worst time of my life as i am also haveing to deal with my partners side of family that had nothing to do with her for 7 yrs as did not approve of our relationship so out of spite they have gone and claimed next of kin and have over taken sorting my partners funeral out which she did not want all het final wishes which couples talk about are being taken away from her out of spite not allowing me her partner and soul mate of 7 years give her what she asked of me which is like i let her down
@Broken1980
Please hang on in there. We all have felt as you do now perhaps some do. I did. I lost my beloved hubby 6 weeks ago. I just wanted to die. I’ve still got a long way to go as we all have. Get on line and look for help please. Try these to speak asap. Shout text Remedy to 85258.
@Broken1980
You said her family had taken over the arrangements? Your partner will know what’s happening and her love even though she’s gone will still shine through for you. Even now. X
Thank you so much for your kind words my partner was singing to my a hour befor she died as you was a beautiful singer it hurts so much as i feel like i have let her down as couples do they talk about what we want if anything should happen to any of us but i have let her down as her family are not giving her the final wishes that she told me she wanted and i told them which there respons will despicable
Im in the same boat i lost my husband febuary 25 very raw i have no family left and no friends finding it really hard to cope with i cry every day and dont now how im going to cope.
I think that it makes it worse for us as when you have no one you can turn to it makes it so much harder you are the same as me so i do no it hurts so so bad x
Yes it does i dont now where to turn i feel your pain.xx
Am so sorry you feel like this to feel this pain is like no other i have not left our bedroom since this happened and i have one thing on my mind and that is for me to go be with my partner the thought of being on my own anymore is to scary and overwhelming xx
@Broken1980
We have all felt like that. Not wanting to leave the room and wanting to leave this world to be with our other halves. But do you realise you have actually taken the first step by coming on this site to talk to people who going through the exact same as you! I’d like to think that is your partner gently nudging you forward. Whatever the family decide remember only you and her knew what she wanted. And she knows and understands what’s going on I have no doubt love. Xx
hello broken 1980 first i want to say my heart goes out to you and you dont need to be sorry for how you are feeling it is a very hard path you are starting on i do know how you feel my husband of 47 years died over eight months ago from cancer and yes it is so hard but it takes time i wont tell you it gets easier because it does not but we learn to live with it and the pain does subside a little at a time try to tell somebody how you are feeling but know this you wont always feel as you do so try to get through this as best you can and you will get their trust me yes its shite this club we are in but we keep going and try to live the life our loved ones were not able to even though your partner is not hear speak to them i speak to davy my husband every night and tell him about my day even though its quite boring but it helps so my thoughts are with you take one minute one hour or one day as best you can
Thank you for your kind words and you stay strong you’re self what i have seen with coming on here and speaking is people like you’re self are the real angels going through what you are but can still try and help other people feel better i do not no people in my life that are like that as sad as it is to saythank you again
Im just trying to take a day at a time,i talk to him every evening i say goodnight to him outside under the stars, i do have a thing about robins being apart of a loved one near by it brings me peace.
Your be ok just take it a day at a time like me im heartbroken but i know my husband would want me to live my life like your partner would want you too be strong for her i now its easier said than done take care and be stronge
hi Broken1980 thank you for your reply i just want to say speak to us everybody on hear has your back as they say so tell us how you are feeling and if any words that can help you we will have them just be kind to yourself its hard we cant go back the way which is a pity and we dont know what the future holds so one day at a time just try to do something positive every day even if its just getting washed and dressed and just going outside for a few minutes it does help i have two dogs so i have to make sure they are fed walked and looked after that was davys job before he took ill but its mine now take care