I never thought id be writing this but i lost my partner of 17 years, three days ago due to alchol. We had two children. Im currently crying in my kicthen so my xhildren dont see. Im lost. I dont know how im ever going to move past this
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Sending you the biggest hug right now xxx
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So sorry you are here @Idontknow
Cry as much as you need to - it’s hard when there are your children around but you need to let out those emotions
Just a day or an hour at a time. Don’t be hard on yourself and accept help if offered from family or friends.
It does get easier in time.
Sending love and a virtual hug xx
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i dont know my thoughts are with you this is a crap time my husband died 12 weeks ago from cancer we had been together 48 years and yes it is very hard i just try to keep as busy as i can and cry often but its got to get better someday just tell people how you are feeling my sister has been such a help she listens to me which is good you can only take one day and every minute slowly
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@Idontknow I’m so sorry for your loss. It must be a huge shock. I lost my ex partner for the same reason 9 weeks ago. It’s so hard. I’m struggling however I’m able to function a bit better now than I could for the first 7 or 8 weeks.
I hope you have some support around you.
Are you based in Scotland or England? In Scotland I know of a charity that can offer those affected by this type of death (drugs and alcohol) free bereavement counselling.
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I lost my beautiful husband 3 month ago to pancreatic cancer he didn’t drink smoke or do anything that would make him vulnerable to this awful disease. I have 3 beautiful boys the youngest only 16. Barry was only 52 years old when he died. I really feel your pain and if you would like to talk im very happy to. I miss him more everything and when people say time heals, i don’t believe them because the pain just gets worse. Sending big cuddles your way X xx
Oh @Lesley1973, my youngest is also just 16 - I’ve got 3 older kids and they are all struggling so much as they miss their dad.
My husband was also fit and healthy, aged 56 and had a short fight with a rare aggressive cancer and it was all over in 4 months. Still struggling to take it all in as just didn’t see it coming and no reason or background heath history.
Life is just so tough sometimes. I’m so sorry you are here also but hopefully you can find some comfort here from knowing you are not alone. Xx
Thank you for replying to me my boys are 16, 20 and 23. Barry was only diagnosed 12 week before he died and the boys are utterly heartbroken as am i, he was the best Dad and husband. How do we move on from here, how are you guys coping? I am just so sad and miss him so much. Do you struggle to sleep then when you do fall asleep to get up. Im crazy angry that this has happened to my boys, i try my very best to support them but when im alone a crumble. Do you find yourself going back to things you said to each other just before he died. And how he looked? X x x
Oh my dearest, i understand, its horrible and its awful, how dare he die and leave you . My heart is with you, i feel your pain,.
One-day you will awake and feel a bit better, then a week or two later you will feel wee bit better. Take each day as best you can. My heart understands what you are going through and I love and understand your pain.
Lily
Such lovely words my friend, you have made me cry but not awful tear just happy to know someone cares. Sending cuddles X x x
Leslie my friend thank you. A big kiss and cuddles from me xx
If you ever feel like you need to talk please talk to me, my heart is also broken 
Thank you so much, means such a lot. Please feel free to talk and cry and shout and cry to me anytime. I don’t have answers but i have lots of love X x x
Leslie what can i say. It hurts, and its sad. When you lose your love, you also lose all those plans and dreams, the anger at him for dying and leaving me took a while to deal with i still feel lost, i dont know where i belong anymore. Stay strong my friend, my heart and love is with you.
You are a beautiful person and i will keep in touch but i would also hope you will too and find some comfort from me as i have from you. X x x
When did you lose your husband? X x x
Good night, sleep tight, we will speak again.
Xxx
I lost him 2016 we had been together 16 years, the best year’s of my life
I met him later in life i was 43. I had travelled around the world and thought i would never meet my soul mate. But yes, i did. What a wonderful time i had with him. I thought we had more time together, but no.
You should have had so much more time my lovely, i hope you guys created so many amazing memories. I am going to try and sleep for a few hours although i don’t usually manage more than one. I hope we can talk tomorrow, try and sleep gorgeous lady X xcx