Hello,
I just felt the need to reach out it’s late boxing day night and the first Christmas since losing my little baby in May. He lived a month. His name was Noah and he was a little beautiful who arrived at 27 weeks. He was an identical twin (the weaker one) weighing only 1lb 8 at birth. But he fought hard for a month with alot of difficulties including breathing and heart. He had picked up and was feeding better and as we had hoped improving and turning a corner.
But I awoke early one morning to hear he had gotten worse during the night by the time we got to reach the hospital he had just died.
I never got to hold him when he was alive only when he passed my beautiful boy.
I’ve been struggling alot these past 6 months after getting over the initial birth and loss of my little Noah.
Then bringing his twin home and caring for him, plus I’ve 2 other older boys. My whole world and life have changed. I yearn for him, I am reminded by him everyday in his twin Ben I’m seeing what he could have been. It’s like I’m haunted by him sometimes.
It’s strange dealing with life and death at the same time all the joys of birth are tainted and saddened.
I found myself numb alot and hard to bond with my little Ben but the months have passed and I find he helps alot with my grief. My emotions range from deep deep sadness, grief , joy, anxiety that something will happen the other twin, fear, anger I could go on.
I’ve also lost people who meant alot to me as they don’t know how to support me. I honestly think no one understands how I feel unless they have experienced it themselves.
I find people look the other way as they don’t know what to say to me.
I’ve kind of isolated myself as I’ve found people don’t support me anyway so I thought I’d reach out. I’m finding the festive season not so festive but I put on my happy mummy face and try my best for my boys. They don’t need to know I’m dying inside sometimes and the pain is unbearable.
Rosebud I can’t imagine how you feel but couldn’t read your post and ignore it. Just want to send love 
and hugs to you and your family xx
Thanks so much I appreciate that x
Hello Rosebud1,
Just wanted to reach out to you. I’m so sorry for your loss. It has been truly hard this Christmas time. So many sad emotions. You are not alone on here.
Thoughts and prayers with you
Mrsmac
Hello Rosebud 1
Sorry to hear you are struggling and feeling alone. Do you have the support of your partner as thus must be do hard with the little one?
You will find everyone supportive here as it is true, it’s like everyone varnishes and no one can understand the raw pain you are feeling.
I lost my son 13 weeks and 1 day ago and couldn’t do Christmas. Trued but gave up.
Thinking of you.
Talk away here and you will find most feeling like you do and understand.
X
I lost my baby boy Johnny 5 years ago …. Every year is one milestone after another that he’s missed. It doesn’t get any easier & nothing makes any sense … I’ve always tried to be kind so not sure why this has happened to me. I have 2 beautiful little girls but something is missing … it’s him x