Hi Frank, I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve lost your dad. It is very early days for you and it’s understandable that the grief feels overwhelming. It’s important to be kind to yourself, allow yourself to grieve, and to find outlets for your emotions, as bottling them up can make things worse - so do keep talking to your wife if you can, but also write things down here if you find that it helps. You are among people who understand here.
Our users are a very supportive lot, and I’m sure others will be along to reply soon. In the meantime you may find it helpful to read some of the other recent conversations in the Losing a Parent category. For example @Sam1975 has also lost their dad just before Christmas: Lost Dad 3 days before Christmas
If there is anything I can help with, or you have any questions about using this site, you can get in touch with me at online.community@sueryder.org.