@MemoriesOfUs i can imagine . He does sound like a useless bastard actually.
A bit like my doctor actually. The last thing she said to me when Baz was in her surgery gasping for breath whilst I was screaming on the phone was “ don’t worry Julie we’ll look after him “ ……….then he just died . I can’t get my head around that either 
@Ladysuisei6 that’s terrible
Had heart attack in her surgery
Not that there’s a good place to have a heart attack, but you would expect that would be the place with best chance or survival
Did they give you a medical breakdown of what happened and protocol followed
Hi lid77. I can relate to your post. I lost my husband last March due to metastatic bone cancer having spread from the prostate. He was only diagnosed in October 2020 but by then it was already advanced and had spread. He had had 6 courses of Chemotherapy but we were told that it was aggressive and not responding to the treatment. It was his wish to stay at home and so I gave him that wish. The last 2 months were horrific and the last 2 weeks particularly horrendous. He died in my lounge where he had been bedbound for the past 4 months. Even though i have put my furniture back and rearranged the room i still see him here everyday and i cant move on from that. I just miss him all the time and am struggling. I have been particularly bad since New Year and seem to have gone back to square one. This site helps knowing we are not alone.
@Lion1st sorry for your loss
I also nursed my partner through end of life at home - also in our lounge, as she couldn’t get upstairs - so I can fully relate
There’s no real comfort - it’s just difficult, every day’s a challenge
Hello Lion1st I’m so sorry for your lost what a terrible illness cancer is and for the families that have to watch there love ones go through it. My husband passed 1st May in A&E we knew he had Postrate cancer we were told it hadn’t spread that was 5 days to his passing he wasn’t well for a while as he suffered with terrible pain with very bad blood flow to his right leg on the day of his passing we had to call an ambulance as he wasn’t this making sense and as I’d seen this before knew he had a bad infection we were told he had a blood clot in his groin stopping the blood into his leg which had caused an infection result was told he had hour’s to live he passed away from Limb Ischaemia but was told if the leg hadn’t killed him the cancer would became they had done a full body scan in A&E and it showed the cancer had spread into his bowel bladder and bottom what a shock still haunts me to the way the doctor told me very cold
@MemoriesOfUs no because I’ve been far too traumatised what happened to discuss it with them . I heard him on hands free phone gasping for air and I knew something horrible was happening. I was at home. He only went because he fell downstairs and bashed his shoulder . It’s so hideous I’m blocking it out of my mind xxx
@MemoriesOfUs oh thank you - more compassion there than from my son . I appreciate your kindness.
Yes , life changed literally in a second ( he went immediately apparently that’s all I wanted to know ) . And my life has changed for ever .
Isn’t life cruel when irreplaceable love is just taken away . You will understand 
@dugaezero
I am sorry for your loss, its very difficult to watch the decline of a loved one and it never leaves you, I lost my husband last year and found coming into this new year without him even harder than last year and reading your experience I fear this feeling will never leave me, it’s watching the decline, in my husband’s case from diagnosis in December 2022 to May 2023 such a short time it just leaves you “empty” for lack of a better word, and after 47 yrs of marriage can you ever get over that!! I have my doubts.
@Ladysuisei6 I do understand all too well
Life is cruel - and hardest part is it just goes on regardless, without a moments pause
