I have just lost my husband and have posted once. Have a lovely reply from ? Sorry can’t remember the lovely ladies name. I hope to keep in touch
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Sorry for your loss , it’s 6 months since I lost my husband. Take everything slowly one day at a time . Eat , drink and sleep when you can grief is exhausting. Focus on one thing at time .
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I am so very sorry for your loss. It will be 10 weeks on Friday that my husband passed and it is like a pain I honestly didn’t think was possible! Please take extra care of yourself during these super early days. X 
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Hi there,
This is for everyone, we have all lost a loved one, so dont want to look like im leaving any one out, cause being bereaved is like something being inflicted on us, at any point of our lives, a daughter (in my case also a sister and my dad) its tough feeling like you live in a parallel universe, trying to deal with your loss, and navigating the present (the real world how it is now) without them. We can’t go back, only cherish the memories. It’s the Void of not talking, getting the text, planning for the future, their laughter, the ones you loved, and who knew and got you as a person xx
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I’m so sorry for your loss, talking to people on here will help you so much x
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I would like to say it gets easier as time goes on but it doesn’t . It 4 years and 3 weeks since my beautiful loving husband passed away and it’s still very hard ,almost impossible to believe it,I still talk to him every day and always will.Its not something you will ever forget, nor want to.Just take each day at a time, look after yourself, greave your way that’s the only way to do it.
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Hi Charlay
I am so sorry to hear of your loss you.are.so new to this and although people say it gets better well it does for some but not.for everybody and certainly not for.me I have also talk to.a lovely gentleman that lost his wife in the same.year as me and he feels the same as me how do we get over this i dont think you ever get over it but some people learn to cope with it better than others I miss my husband everyday and I wish he was still here buy uts no good wishing because I cannot change the past only look to the future whatever that holds for me this site has been my salvation when I had no one so I do hope you can find comfort on this site there is a lot of lovely people ready to.help you and I am one of them feel.free to contact me and I will be there for you I really do know what you are.going.though we all do take.care.of.yourself
Sarah
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It’s a different journey for everyone . I am at nearly 3 years and I still can’t get over it . You have to move forward as it suits you . I try and fill my days . At 58 I never expected this life now
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I can never imagine what’s going on or happening for you. It’s the worst of times and we all wonder how we are going to get through. Parent sibling daughter child ! There’s nothing worse and 3 in such close proximity it’s staggering. Wishing you lots of love softness compassion and ease through this time. Be the kindest and softest of person to yourself. And don’t put up with those persons who go are you over it now. It’s cruel not kind and they gave no clue. It’s the knowing and unknowing club. I used to be in the I did not have a clue one. Lots and lots of love be kind raw and true. Keep posting in x
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It’s three years since I lost the love of my life and although I’m in control of my life to I certain degree I feel utterly exhausted I have a broken heart 
that will never heal, time is just a word it means nothing, everyone who is on this journey will somehow get through, I hope each and everyone of you will get some sort of peace x
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I so agree with Blaise talking about the “Didn’t have a clue” club. It’s only since I lost my husband that I truly understand how it feels. I have some lovely friends who are on their own who are supporting me but I now realise that I didn’t really understand the depth of their feelings when I thought I was supporting them in the past! Being “broken hearted” is a term banded about but truly being broken hearted is a deep physical thing which for me anyway rises to the surface often in unexpected occasions. I was on a bus recently returning from a nice outing when suddenly I saw something out of the window which triggered a memory and if I hadn’t been too proud to look like snivelling wreck in public, I would have burst into tears there and then! As it was, I stifled the tears until I got inside my own front door and the flood gates opened. Sometimes it seems like you just have got to let it out. It’s 5 months now for me. But I can’t imagine ever regaining my full self. I miss my husbands laughter, fun and the joy of sharing those moments of silliness that comes from knowing each other so well that you can laugh out loud at the oddest things! On the surface I probably look as if I’m enjoying myself out and about but often it’s such a temporary feeling when deep inside I just want to cry. I’m hoping the temporary moments get longer. I certainly enjoy my friends and daughter’s company so much and appreciate spending time with them, I’d like to feel confident enough to do more on my own. It’s hard having been in a couple for 50 plus years but upwards and onwards must be the motto! Thanks to everyone who posts. Love to you all. X
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I lost my husband in January. I just feel overwhelmed and my grief is painful. We were supposed to share our lives together but here I am in my 50s trying to make sense of my life without him.
I was very fortunate in that we had some time to prepare but I struggle with a numbness that I don’t recognise from anything that’s ever happened to me before.
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Hi
My husband died aged 58 and I’m in the third year of his loss . I have many days that I can’t still believe I’m here without him . I too can’t believe I’m in this situation . Crazy as that sounds . We know this happens.
I write to him in a journal and include him in as many things as I can. I’ve had a go at painting a picture ( I’m no artist) and put him in it near to the grandson he never got to meet . If I didn’t do these things to take him forward in my life I would sink .
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Hi
My first time posting but this popping up in my emails felt like a sign
We lost our 11 year old very suddenly last November. I miss him so much
It was 5 months yesterday we lost him. Nearly 6 months since i last spoke to him as he was in ICU. This is so tough
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This is not a death but I’m grieving
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So sorry for you Charlay. It’s been just 6 months for me and I honestly can’t believe it. I’m not going to sugar coat the journey you have ahead. Just remember we are here, people who understand because we are or have been through it. First remember to eat and drink! Little and often because you need to look after yourself! Second lean on those closest to you. They are hurting too no doubt but take care of each other. I don’t think I’ll ever get over it but realise that you just learn to live differently. I always say that I play act every day when someone asks if I’m ok? But having lost our son many years ago I unfortunately know by experience that one day I will be play acting a little less. This forum is excellent and safe place to start because every single one of us has been there and still going through it. We truly understand. The journey is different for everyone so reach out, vent, let loose at the world! Whatever and whenever. My very best wishes to all 
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I am so sorry. The saying time heals all wounds is inaccurate but it does lower the intensity.
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Im so sorry, my 33 year old son died just before new year, a sudden tragic accident, its heartbreaking and i wish you comfort in the weeks ahead, take your time, cry scream and shout, whatever feels right for you, no paeent should lose a child xx
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My condolences for your loss. I can really identify with what you have said. My husband died last Saturday, 4.4.26 at St. Christopher’s Hospice, Sydenham, London. We were vegetarians (me a vegan), virtually teetotal and ate organic fruit and vegetables. We also did a lot of country walking that took us out of the house two days in winter and three in summer. We listened to information about cancer risk and managed to dodge all the ‘common’ cancers.
But fate had decided that cancer would part me from my beloved husband. In 2019 he went to his GP concerned about his increasing abdomnal girth. Fast forward to Guy’s Cancer Centre where they discovered a gross retroperitoneal liposarcoma, a rare cancers which they promptly dispatched to the Royal Marsden Hospital. It was there in February 2020 that my poor husband was ‘delivered’ of a two stone tumour in an operation lasting 6 hours. Most of his internal organs on one side were removed with the sarcoma. He ended up with only one kidney, etc. and his digestive system had to be ‘re-routed.
My husband was fortunate to go into remission for four years, but in January 2024 the scan revealed that the tumour had returned and had spread. Despite this he appeared healthy and managed to do all the things he had been able to do previously, such as walk 8 miles in hilly countryside and not be fatigued. This ended in November of 2025 when his health took a rapid decline. By the end of that month a walk of a mile would severely ‘wind’ him and he arrived home collapsing into the sofa unable to climb the stairs to place his jacket in the wardrobe in our bedroom.
He then developed a viral infection that developed into pneumonia for which he was hospitalised in January and February 2026. During this time he also had two operations to remove tumours which were blocking his internal organs and preventing their functioning. We had one precious month, March, during which he was home from hospital, but unable to mobilise due to cellulitis caused by an abdominal tumour obstructing the operation of the limph glands. On 30th March he had a crisis involving his lungs - again a tumour was responsible, was taken to King’s College Hospital, and thence to St. Christopher’s, where he died.
I still cannot believe that he that he is dead - it all seems so unreal. A nightmare from which I will wake - but it is not. It is cruel reality. I feel as if the ground has been taken from under me. I am rootless and flung into a maelstrom. I am grasping for something, anything, to hold on to. I am in fear, terror. The world is suddenly a very menacing place, and my love is no more.
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