Your dogs sound lovely , i know what a joy and comfort dogs can be at a sad and difficult time . We on holiday in a dog friendly cottage when my husband died suddenly
Oh gosh ā¦I did think it would have been awful if it had happened on holiday
Yes it was horrible
Itās hard, but very early days, My husband died at the end of May , aged 62, very suddenly, donāt push yourself to do things, Take time for yourself, treasure your dogs, mine helped save me, those walks alone in fresh air, you are alone but memories stop you from being lonely, cry when you need to cry..
My husband was 64 when he died , days before his 65 birthday , and a week before my 70 birthday . My dogs do help , I always feel better after I have been swimming
Do things really get any better? At the moment I canāt see how. I dread the evenings & the nights. Doctor gave me some tablets that help get me to sleep but I have awful dreams and wake up after 3 hours. Dread getting up in the morning because then I realise itās not just a bad dream, itās really true that my darling husband isnāt with me. I just want to be with him.
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We are all going through the same thing on here .
Sorry for you loss l know how you are feeling itās terrible no time of the year is a good time to lose anyone but l do this this time before Xmas is worse lm finding it harder at night
I feel exactly the same, I hate morning when you know its not a bad dream snd it hits you all over again, i feel lost and so lonely, the house is so quiet and I hate being like this, we were always together and did everything together, he was my rock snd now im scared and empty, my first Christmas and im absolutely dreading it.
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I understand how you fell baby cake I feel the same way. My husband and I did everything together .He was also my Rock , the house is so quiet without him. I will be glad when Christmas and New Year are over
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How horrible is this though, i hate being like this, i cry and just have no enthusiasm to do anything at all, its scary and lonely 
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I know itās horrible what we are going through. When I go out shopping and see happy couples together I feel so jealous
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Sherbet 10 I feel exactly the same, couples together and laughing Christmas shopping and i think that should be us still, its horrible feeling of loneliness 
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I feel like I have been robbed of the time we could have had together
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Yes i know what you mean, my husband was fit and well , it was so sudden and unexpected.
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Itās the same here , he never been ill . It was very sudden and a massive shock . He was working towards and looking forward to his retirement. Iāve hard Christmas cards from people who donāt yet know he has passed away . Itās been hard opening them , I not been up to doing Christmas cards this year hopefully Iāll feel stronger by Easter and will write to let them know
I wrote some Christmas cards out but it was so hard, crying while putting just my name on them, it was horrible and also receiving cards just to me didnāt seem right at all, I just dont want to do this at all .
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I know how you feel. I lost my partner over 2 years ago. I also have no children (no dogs either). I get very lonley and very axious about everything. I have never experienced anything like it before. No-one understands how we feel and we do not even have a family for support. I also have knots in my stomach. I am sorry to say I have no suggestions to help you - apart from letting you know that others are feeling the same which may be of some comfort Others finding keeping busy is important but even that is easier said than done. After all this time I still cry out of lonlines and anxiety. I try to occupy myself by doing jigsaw puzzles but some days even that does not work.
I am sorry to hear you have no family support or dogs . I really donāt know how I cope without mine .
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Itās not only Xmas itās my first birthday on 22nd without my wonderful husband but sent card to family with his name on to
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