It’s my first Christmas without my husband & my wedding anniversary 23/12 
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First Birthdays and wedding anniversary’s without your husband are hard . But this time of year they seem so much worse . Try to do something you enjoy
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Yes l will and you take care
Thank you
I lost my husband duddenly 3 weeks ago today and have never felt pain like this. I am crying all the time. My heart feels like it’s pounding out of my body and the shaking is uncontrollably. We too showed dogs for many years and achieved best of breed at crufts back in 1998 with a home bred shih tzu. The dog showing was his life and I felt so bad when I forced the stop due to how cruel some people can be in that world. I now have 3 chihuahuas and they are my one comfort at this devastating time. Your story just struck me as a very similar situation to mine. We did have Chinese crested for a while but never showed them. I hope for all of us in this situation that things will become easier. I know they will never be the same again. Xx
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I also it gets easier for us all , things will never be the same again that’s for sure . I surprised that people in the doggy world of showing haven’t been more supportive of you .
We have not shown for quite some time now and lots of people we knew in that world are no longer with us and those that are are so estranged now. I haven’t contacted anyone. I don’t want to project my misery on to people I am not close too xx
I’m so sorry but I feel exactly the same. I sleep a bit better now but I’m wakened by this horrible anxiety at around 6am . I get up and it lessens a bit but I’m very shaky. Still crying most days . I’m three months down the line after my partner’s sudden death. Evenings are better as I can distract myself with the TV. I just can’t see my life without him.
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I feelexactly like you xx
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I have never shown dogs myself , I have been to many dogs shows. The people who I now that show dogs ie Border Collie and English Setter always seem so supportive of each other . I understand how you feel
I relate to your message. I lost my partner nearly 2.5 years ago but still suffer with anxiety and sleep deprevation which leads to depression. I hate dealing wth life alone (I have no family). I have made some new friends (the old ones deserted me). I have tried councelling but it only gave me short term relief. It is hard living alone when we have been part of a couple for years (41 years in my case). We did not always get on but I still miss him.
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I am so glad you have made some new friends . All marriages have their ups and downs . Losing a husband or wife is a huge loss. As they are the ones we spend most of our time with . Am i still navigating my way through it . I also don’t sleep as well as I used to.
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I feel your pain it’s been just over 7 months for me. My dad is staying with me for another month, so I did put the Christmas tree up and some decorations, but honestly, I just want Christmas to be over.
I’ve been feeling very low these days. Having my dad here is lovely, but he can’t really understand the depth of my pain. Yesterday my uncle asked me if I was “over” Marek’s death already. I didn’t even know how to answer I’m not sure what answer he was expecting from me.
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Hi my husband was also fit and well. It’s brutal when those we love pass away quickly
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Two weeks has passed and it’s becoming real now…it’s horrendous
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Its horrible, its such a shock , i can’t help but feel its all a bad dream.
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I also lost my husband suddenly he was also fit and well . It’s such a shock it’s horrible
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I can’t wait for Christmas to be over with but then again he still wont be here after and anxiety kicks in again, its scary.
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I also want Christmas and New year to be over and done with . How ever you have chosen to spend the next 2 days . I hope it goes ok for you . I am having the strangest Christmas Eve . It’s so quite normal I would be out doing last minute shopping. And my husband would be doing last minute wrapping of Christmas presents . I won’t be in my own for much longer. My daughter in law and grandchildren are there way . To be followed by son when he finishes work
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Yes it’s my first Christmas Eve ever on my own….funny thing is I can’t seem to cry..I must be in shock…where are these meeting places to meet up people who have lost spouses? None around our area…there must be many people who have lost a loved one who would love to meet and talk. On this website are we allowed to say where we live? Is it all women on the site or are there men too
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