It is very hard , i try to act ok in front of people as they dont understand how hard it is, ive never been alone and its such a shock to try and manage, the loneliness is horrible, i have a neighbour that calls for coffee everyday and im so grateful to her, she lost her husband about 6 years ago but she is a stronger person than me with different circumstances, but when she goes the heart ache just hits me again
Itās hard getting used to being on your own after being with someone for so long . Itās good you have a neighbour who calls for a coffee and a chat every day . As she has also lost her husband she should understand how you are feeling . Keep posting on here thereās always someone who understands that will offer you support
Itās is a terrible time and no one knows what youāre going through unless it at happens to them l have a brilliant family but l try and be strong for them but l cry every day my friend calls in and rings me but like you said l feel worse when she gos
Thankyou so much, i will its good to talk on here knowing people understand how you are, my neighbour understands because she has been through it but she is alot stronger than I am .
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Dia, im so grateful of the company but its so lonely when she goes and quiet, i just sit and think I just want my husband back and start again where we left off, its so heartbreaking .
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Hi babycake
It is the same for me this is the first time i have lived alone i got married to paul left my parents house then with paul for 44yrs then on my own which seems so strange i have no nieghbours that invite me for a coffee i have this one nieghbour next to me a man and he keeps saying to me you need to come round for a coffee but he is on his own his wife passed away before he moved here it just makes me feel very uncomfortable so much so i do not go out into my front garden which is such a shame but what can i do not a lot so if you have a lovley lady nieghbour embrace that talk to her about how you feel if she does not mind and it may help you ireally do know how lonely it can be i am to so lonely with no one to talk to but on here .
I fully understand how you feel uncomfortable with your neighbour, i would be the same, I wouldnāt feel right at all, my neighbour is lovely and understand my emotions, im so sorry for you, do you go out at all ?
Iām come on here quite a few times though the day and sometimes in the night when l canāt sleep witch is regular so if you want to talk anything l will probably be here
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Hi babycake
Not a lot if i do not have to go out i dont i dont know why allmod this had to happen to me at all i just thought we would just plod on just like everybody else even althouth i knew paul was poorly i never wanted him to go this is awful feelong like this my nephew txt me today and asked if i would like to go out tomorrow i have said yes even although i feel like this and i and know i am.not feeling right in myself just scared to go to the doctors.incase they say i have to go to hospital about.my heart i know i should go but dont want to .
Sarah
Thanks Dia, it all helps and great to know thereās others out there to talk to. I too am struggling with the loneliness in the house. Just miss Ray so much, he brought so much energy and fun. Now thatās all gone
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I make myself go out but itās a struggle seeing couples outā¦senior couplesā¦just like my hubby and I were five weeks ago. He was 69 like me but looked 60 and he was so funny too and really welcomed people. My 70th on the 19th and Iām dreading it ā¦Iām going with a friend but I should be with him
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Yes know how your feeling donāt go far but did go to my local town today abd lm looking at couples together and l feel like my husband should be here with me he didnāt go far because he had COPD but always tryed to come out on a good day
I feel like you when I see older couples out , it so unfair
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I fully understand that seeing other couples is so hard, i look and think it my husband should be with me, its a horrible feeling and I hate this being on my own, we went everywhere together and now im on my own, I just want him back and start where we left off.
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I dont sleep alot either, i just hate how everything has changed now, nothing to look forward to, we had holidays planned and now thats all gone too
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I know the night and weekends are the worst l go up to bed early and put tv on but donāt sleep much if you ever want to talk lm awake most nightās
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It is the nights, i hate it snd its cold and goes dark so early which makes it longer, I just canāt adjust to being like this, I miss my husband so much I just want my life back to normal with him. I got invited out tonight to bingo where me and my husband used to go but I made an excuse and said I wasnāt well because I have no interest to do anything without him now
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I know lm supposed to be going out tomorrow night only to a club that is just across the road from me every one is saying family and friends you need to get out l said l was but lm getting a panic attack just thinking about it so
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I to had holidays planned this year which I have had to cancel . The nights and weekends are the hardest . Itās hard to adjust to being on your after being a couple for so long ..
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I also get panic attacks at the thought of going out, i want to socialise but not without my husband by my side if you know what I mean, nothing is the same, I just have no interest at all and having to put on a brave face is all too much.
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