My lovely husband of nearly 60 years died in June having suffered with dementia for six years. I was lucky that he remained calm and very kind.
I was worried that I was still so tearful after six months, but having read other comments about this, feel reassured that I’m quite normal.
I am finding it really difficult to remember him as he was before he had dementia and I’m grieving over those lost years too.
I wonder if anyone else is in this position.
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband, @Dingwall. If you do a search by tapping the magnifying glass, you can read posts from people who have lost loved ones to dementia. I know that @Lonelygirl1 sadly lost her husband to vascular dementia. @Pat91 also shares their experiences on this thread. Perhaps you can connect with them.
Keep reaching out - you are not alone.
Thank you very much Seaneen,
That is helpful.
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I lost my husband to dementia 2 years ago and I still am totally bereft… But I do remember him when he was well and had dignity and wasn’t confused. Like your husband he was calm and kind and accepting of his situation. Unfortunately I found it emotionally very difficult and was always in tears and we were very isolated as we were in and out of lockdown. ii is a dreadful illness and hard to watch as our loved ones become so different. You are in my thoughts. I was married for 54 years and just can’t get over the loss of him. I wish i could but i think about him all day and miss him so terribly. I find it hard to go to any place where I have been with him…even the shops because it hurts so much.
Hello,
I really identify what you say about shops. Often I want to sit down in the middle of the shop and cry!
When I was shopping I would often buy a little treat to share but no longer. How can something so small provoke such strong emotion. I wish you well.