Thats beautiful Marina xxxx
You boy is watching over you xxx
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Oh my goodness Iām so sorry Deborah but as the others say, you donāt need a negative atmosphere around and it is very early days for you. He obviously doesnāt deserve you and you deserve better.
Michelle, I am sorry the inquest has been delayed ā¦ that seems very cruel but I hope you get the answers you need.
When Gemmaās inquest was held, there was a young reporter from the local newspaper. He said that it would be reported as āit was in the public interestā
I was so cross and upset so I pointed Coren out to him who was crying and asked him if he thought that was really true and if it was fair to Coren and his little brother?
When we arrived home, the clerk of the court called me to say that the reporter had asked him to let me know that it would not be going in the paper. I was very grateful as I did not want Charlie to see it. xxx
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Drar Victoria,
We have also had bad experiences with the press reporting on things that they feel are for the public interest, when the inquest does take place it will probably be over 5 days so we will have no choice then, I am so glad that the reporter changed their mind as its so cruel for a grieving family, take care xxx
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Dear Michelle,
You are right ā¦ it is cruel and I feel for you so much. We do find strength from somewhere to face all this and I am sure you will for Mattās inquest when the time comes.
I took a photo of Gems with me to the court and the coroner said no one had ever done that before. She spent a little time looking at it then put it on the table. I just wanted everyone to remember that she was our beloved girl and not just a case number, although they were very caring towards us. Much love xxx
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Dear Victoria ,
I had already thought I might take a photograph with me as with all that will go on and talk of what happened etc they may just see the name and they need to know he was our precious 22 year old handsome funny loving Son emphasized textemphasized text
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Matt and his lovely girlfriend Livvy 
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I tried to post a picture of Matt with his girlfriend but couldnāt do it not very good at this will keep practicing 
xxx
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Oh Michelle he is lovely ā¦ so handsome in his uniform. You must be so so proud of him. Iām glad you are taking a photo of him to the inquest as it helps everyone remember that he is your beautiful son and of how much he is loved by you
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Thank you for your kind words he was such a character always making everyone laugh, his Army pals said he was always the first one to welcome them when they first joined so caring they are always messaging us and sending funny videos when they come across them, we are all so incredibly proud of him thank you xxxx
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Hi Michelle
I attend inquests all the time as part of my job. I work in the legal team for a mental health Trust. It would be good to take a photo of Matt although most Coroners that I have come across are very sensitive and empathetic towards the families and they do appreciate that the person was loved and a member of a family. 5 days is a long inquest to endure and I feel for you. Hopefully you will get the answers that you seek and justice for Matt. I am going through the same thing myself as we are convinced that there should have been a crash barrier in front of the fence that my daughters car went through. Maybd she would still be here if there was. In any case we can prevent it happening to someone else.
Much love Deborah x
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Hi Deborahā¦What an aspiring post and hopefully helpful for others that are having to go through this procedure ā¦I have to say when we had Christians inquest the coroner and everyone else concerned were both sensitive ,caring and helpful in everyway and tried to put us at easeā¦When it was over the person that had been guiding us in the process came over put her arms around me and gave me a massive hug and whispered in my ear just how sorry she wasā¦ xxxx
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Hello Michelle,
I feel for you to have the inquest delayed must be so hard. It seems that you me all of us here are standing on the edge of the black hole pepping in. We can only hope that by us all chatting on here we can pull each other back. I understand that you feel you have to read the witness statements I know like you I would want to know everything. Sam died of a brain tumour when he was 34, he had been living in Sweden with his wife who is Swedish, in Bromma just outside of Stockholm, building a life but his employer sacked him because he thought he was a drunk as he kept passing out and his speech was slurred. He was at the tube station and this time collapsed completely and they took him to hospital there, where they diagnosed what was wrong. He came home to tell me had another seizure and could not fly back, so Mathilda came here. They operated here and removed 90% of the tumour which gave him another 4 years of life. He went back to snowboarding, and living life to the full. I think he knew it was terminal but kept up a facade of he would get better to protect me. That would be typical Sam. Maddie I am so sorry youāre not well, I will send you a text.
Love to all
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Hello Deborah,
I agree with Marina, what an inspiring post and so thoughtful of you to care and explain to Michelle, We all try so hard on here to help and support one another.
With love
Helen
Such a handsome guy and so smart in his uniform
xHelen
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That looks lovely Anne, I have Samās urn here in the other room, and I always put flowers and change his picture and light the candle at night.
With love to you
Helen
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Hi Deborah,
Just read that you and your husband have seperated, with what you have gone through seperating will be a walk in the park. And as you say now the negativity has gone, you dont need someone like that. I know from bitter experience my first husband was a complete a**hole, he had an affair with the bookkeeper in our small business and ran up debts like there was no tomorrow, so much that I lost the house and had to go personally bancrupt. With the help of Geraint (my eldest) and Sam we managed to get a little rented house and start over. Some 20 odd years later and Sam was diagnosed I allowed him to come to John and my house but when Sam was slipping into coma he came into the house ranting and raving and John had to manhandle him into the kitchen to keep him from making too much noise. Even then after he had calmed down I still allowed him to see Samā¦Looking back I wish I had never let him anywhere near Sam!! Post again Deborah, there is a saying you can catch a thief but you canāt catch a liar, you can concentrate now on you, and your daughter and grandchildren, they are the ones that will support you and you them, baby stepsā¦xxHelen
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Thanks Helen. I do feel better without him here. He also ran up debts and made me make financial decisions that I wouldnāt have otherwise made so I am still out of pocket. Fortunately I moved last August and paid off my mortgage. As I lived in London I got a great price for my house and have quite abit left over. I am financially secure but would give it all up to have my daughter back. I know that canāt happen. 
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Hi Deborah,
Thank you yes its going going to be a big inquest and we are up against the MOD, its been a long journey trying to get answers as Matt had an accident but the medivac plan was not good and the outcome we feel would have been different which is hard to accept, our Coroner and his team are very nice and I feel he is a good man very fair and he is used to dealing with the MOD, it means so much that you have reached out to me you have got to look into the crash barrier not been in place as we want justice for our children but also donāt want someone else to lose a loved one, well done for showing your partner the door there is no room for someone like that in your life only positive souls who love you and put you first take care my friend and stay strong xxxx
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Hi Helen,
Thank you for your kind words of support I am so sorry for how Samās boss treated him how awful for him when all along he was so poorly 
I am so glad that you did get to see him living and doing things that made him happy for those 4 years but the pain is still so intense wether you know they are ill and its terminal or they are taken suddenly the pain is the same for all of us there is no good way of loosing our precious childten and at least we all have each other and we all know how each of us feels on this horrendous journey, sending all you lovely ladies much love
Michelle xxx
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My heart bleeds for you and others who have to face an inquest. It must be unbearable. I just canāt imagine.
I hope you find the strength to get through and get answers and justice dear girl.
At least we all have each other.
With love,Kate xx
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