Thank goodness we all have each other to lean on Maddie.
Others don’t really understand. Think that was a bit harsh of your son in law. Sarah will be hurting too.
We can’t do right for doing wrong sometimes.
Sending love, Kate xxx
Hello Kate why is life so hard at the moment ?Iknow Sarahi is suffering losing her sister ,but I cannot talk to her .i love that yo can talk to Jemma .what would I have done without you lovely mothers xx
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Dear Maddie, it is hard. I can talk to Tiffany about Gemma but hard to speak to Louie. My sister has cut contact with me since Gemma’s service and I can not talk to Tiffany about that but it is different for you and you need to talk about Dawn. Maybe she finds it frightening and maybe you have to let it go for a while?
I have found that Tiffany and I have a very different relationship since we lost Gemma.
Why does life have to be so complicated?
Much love to you xxx
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Hi Victoria ,life is so completatedits more than we should have to cope with . I know everyone dess as la with grief in their own way .Sarah husband Matt blames me for her having to take anti press ants ,he said every time I ring her and say I am down she cannot cope .He just wants the Sarah he married happy .Bit I told him what about me . I xcant even talk to her about Dawn,.Hes virtually saying I need to get on with life .i have tried to be more upbeat when I see Sarah ,but he now has said perhaps I ought to remember I have another daughter But he forgets who did all the housework last year for 6weeks when Sarah couldn’t walk …and babysits at the drop of a hat .We-are only please to help out if needed .maddy xx
Dear Maddie, we struggle every day with unhappiness and I think that some people find it too difficult to talk about loss … maybe like your Sarah and my Louie and we have to try and respect their silence which is hard. I know Louie loves Gemma as much as Tiffany does but just finds it hard to talk about what happened.
When we lose a child it also upsets the balance of our family but we all try to do our best and sometimes just muffle through somehow. xxx
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I also think that your son in law is being very harsh and that is the last thing you need xxx
Hello Kate
That is a given, Lisa placed it there without a shadow of a doybt. I am so pleased for you.
xHelen
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Hi Maddie,
He needs to be told, exactly what youare feeling, Sarah too. I suspect Matt wantseverything back to normal (before Dawn) and it’s him that can’t cope. Like Geraint needed to be told when he started laying down the law about my friend Dee.
I’m on the end of the telephone if you need to. Im halfway through Tower Bridge at Sunset so as soon as its finished I’ll pop it in the post.
xxHelen
Hello Deborah,
I am please you’ve got some signs, our loved ones will stay around us, I know when in the past I’ve had words with Geraint (Sam’s older brother) I feel Sam around so strongly.
Love
Helen
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Thanks Helen ,Sarah has said mum why don’t you start up a local group she thinks it might help me .buy I don’t want tone in companion with the local group she said mum it will not be like that I will start it up for you pehAps just a few for afternoon te a I don’t know if I want to do it I just think it get me off her back but she seems so committed to it .what do you think ?xx
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Dear Maddie, I hope you are feeling brighter today. It sounds as though Sarah is trying to help you. Do you think you are up to starting a group? I think lockdown is making everything worse for us as we have no outlet. It will make a difference when we can go out for a coffee or for lunch. As soon as we can Bill and I will come down and we can have a nice lunch together. Can’t wait! 
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Oh Victoria I would like that more than anything cx
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Hi Maddie,
Give it a go… and if it’s not for you then at least you’ve tried:-
If you simply cannot understand why someone is grieving so much,
for so long, then consider yourself fortunate that you do not understand.
Perhaps, your son in law as I thought before, it could be that Matt is not coping.
With love
Helen
Hi Victoria and Maddie,
Yes agree as soon as lockdown is over maybe we can all get together. We are going to Scotland where Kate is so I’m meeting up with her.
Love
Helen
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When are you going Helen ?are you flying or driving? We would love to join you for a couple of days x
So excited to be meeting up with Helen and her party. Would love to meet you all at some point when we are all able to travel.
With love, Kate xx
Hi I would love to join you. I can fly or get the train. I’m really struggling today. Haven’t had a drink since Sunday but have now opened a bottle of wine. My daughters inquest has been postponed as highways England couldn’t attend on the date. Really feeling the loss today. She died on a Thursday. My daughter is on her way over I feel sorry that she has to care for me xx
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I would love to meet up too all together … just imagine how wonderful that would be
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Absolutely!xxx
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