Hello Victoria, so glad you had a relaxing day Would love to see your photo as the Orb could be Gemma walking with you that’s why you were feeling so calm Did you ever see the medium? We have just been in the garden most of the weekend as the weather has been lovely…We did manage to have a couple of friends over for a cup of tea ,the first for months .Has anyone else been or done anything this weekend? With love Maddy xx
Hi Maddie, this is the photograph. I’m glad you have had a nice day. Just before I took the photo my ex sister in law (who I don’t really have contact with) sent me a photo of Coren, Gemma’s son, when he was little. That was very unusual xxx
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Wow Victoria , that is amazing never see anything quite like it . Xx
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Dear Victoria ,
That is amazing and is definitely your precious daughter 
thank you for sharing as I have had a very tearful day but this has really moved me .
Much love to you all
Michelle xxx l
Amazing Victoria xx
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Dear Michelle, I’m sorry you have had a tearful day. I am usually very tearful at Easter as it was Gemma’s favourite time of year (and mine). Gemma loved Easter. But this year I have felt different, calmer and almost happy somehow? I am glad my photo has helped you. Much love 
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Incredible …It was definitely Gemma with you…especially as it came through in a photo with photography being Gemma’s passion. xx
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Dear All, I hope it was Gemma … there were so many links … she loved Easter and being outdoors (particularly woods), the photo of Coren and as Marina says, her passion for photography. I guess we have to be grateful for these moments xxx
That’s amazing! Some things we will never understand.
Our perfectly little human Lisa had to leave behind is a constant reminder of her beautiful Mummy.
Love to all. Kate xx
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Oh my god is that Lisa?She is beautiful . I don’t know you Kate but I find it harder to look at the photos when they were babies or growing up . But saying that we have just picked up an hour ago of a cd our friend has just done Dawns wedding in Disney World Florida 1996 and although I want to see it I know I will be crying my eyes out ,just like the wedding as it was so beautiful and the setting was amazing and Dawn was so happy I bet the weather is terrible in Scotland we have just had some sleet showers .Maddie xxx
This is Brooke Lisa’s little girl.xx
We have had snow and sunshine on and off all morning. Atm we have sunshine but no doubt it will snow again today.xx
Hi Kate,
Beautiful little princess 
Love Michelle xxx
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What a beautiful wee angel❤
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Struggling so much just now. I seem ok during the day, I see friends or I keep busy with decorating but as soon as I have a bath at night I’m depressed and tearful and I miss Scott so much.
I know everyone is the same and that’s why I know I can come on here and you will all understand. I just still can’t believe this is my life now without him, I just don’t see much point, it’s all ruined x
Anne
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Anne it is so hard to come to terms that we have lost our beloved child. It hurts so much it takes our breath away. I still cry at night too 20 months on. All I can say is that the good times will eventually be more than the bad ones. It just takes a long time.
With love, Kate xxxx
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Dear Anne, you have been so brave and strong across the last few weeks it is no wonder that you will have a bad few days. I am so proud of how you are coping.
I think we all have bad days and when it happens to me I just think that tomorrow will be better. I wish I could wrap my arms around you and give you the biggest of hugs. Do you talk to Scott? My GP told me to talk to Gemma and it does help. In the early days I would be rabbiting on to her all the time. Initially I would be a little tearful but would feel calmer afterwards.
Much love to you xxx
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Hi Anne
I am exactly the same. I am trying to keep busy by doing gardening and helping my mum with her garden. When I’m on my own I cry constantly, in the car or at home in the evenings. Like you I still can’t believe that it has happened and I cry for her loss of life and for all the things that she is missing out on. My life holds no meaning for me anymore and seems totally pointless. I am keeping going for everyone else’s sake but not for mine as I couldn’t care less if I live or die. I think of Kathryn constantly day and night and am crying just writing this. The pain has gotten worse not better and reading everyone’s comments that you can have some good days I wonder what that means. Do you cry less or can you ever smile again or find joy in anything. I feel like a robot, I eat, sleep, clean, shop, watch TV with no thought about what I’m actually doing. All I think of is her. It is a blessing that we have this site to share our experience and that everyone understands the horror that we now call life.
Deborah xxx
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Hi Deborah, I’m sorry you are feeling so down. Your loss is very raw. The feeling that you are just existing, not living, feeling empty and nothing having any meaning. These feelings are very normal. It’s a very difficult road to travel. I cried every day for 3 years, it’s so so hard. Crying helps relieve some tension and you are allowed to feel however you like.
My love to you and everyone here
Chris xx
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Yes Victoria, I talk to him and I can hear his voice answering me. It does help but not in those moments of despair where I just miss him and the pain is unbearable.
Thank you for your support its so appreciated
Anne xx
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