My thoughts are with I am so sorry for the loss of your boy. Hugs Maddie xx
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So sorry for your loss Jonathan. We are all here for you, we know your pain. Deborah xx
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Hello Jonathan92,
Welcome to the âclubâ its the only expression I can use really there isnât one of us that would want to be on here but here we are and as Linda said our love for them keeps us going. It is the hardest thing in the World to do but we have no choice, take care and keep posting.
With love
Helen
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So sorry for the loss of your precious son. We have to keep going and it is never easy but we have others who need us and love us too. It is they who keep us going xxx
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We lost our youngest Lisa in July 2019. She had just turned 31. Left behind her wee girl, then just 3 and a half and her devoted partner Jamie. We were all totally broken but somehow, through the pain and tears, we are all learning to live again. Not the same people as we were, but at least we can enjoy family time with our eldest daughter, our granddaughter and son lin law.
The pain Jonathan is like no other but you will get through this awful time. You have your memories which can never be taken from you.
Sending love and keep in touch with friends here. We are the only ones who truly understand.
Kate xxx
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Hi Kate I am so so sorry for your loss Jonathan was our only child and had no children I am really. so upset that heâs going to miss out on so very much I am so glad for this web site itâs going to help speaking to people who feel just like me.stay strong linda.
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We are all here for you Linda, 24/7. We all help each other through the meltdowns.
Take care and keep posting.
With love, Kate xxx
Dear Linda,
Am so sorry for the loss of your precious son Jonathan 
we have also lost our son Matt May 2019, we do have two daughters but still grieve for his loss and of the life he would have gone on to have, take care and welcome to this awful club that no-one wants to be in but itâs such a comfort to talk to others who really and truly know how you feel, take care and keep talking.
Love Michelle xxx
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Hi Michelle Thank you for your lovely message, I am so sorry for your loss of your son Matt my heart truly breaks when I hear of some else kissing there child I am also grieving for everything Jonathan will not have a wife and children and all those happy memories we will never make together he was my best friend as well as my son when do you start to come round a little we have had so much pain my husband had a stroke just after Jonathan died and then I was made redundant i think now the last one was a blessing as I wasnât coping very well I am still not i find it very hard to go out sorry i am telling you all this please take care and hope to hear from you soon Linda x
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Dear Linda,
I am a but farther down the road than you, and like you Sam my son was also my friend we used to laugh and joke together. It probably was a blessing to be made redundant. I like you found it too hard to cope and left work. We are all here together âin a clubâ that we wouldnt wish to be but we also understand and have experienced every emotion you will go through. I do belive that those we love never leave our side Jonathan will be by your side and tucked safely in your heart.
With my love
Helen
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Linda, its a truly dreadful time for you having lost your child. That alone is the most devasting event to have to deal with. Then your husband having a stroke as well! You must be exhausted so being made redundant is a blessing I think.
You need time to recover. I didnât really take time off as we run a b n b, or did should I say. After the funeral I just carried on as normal and worked my backside off. Not resting or giving myself time. So after the season quietened down I was drained of energy and mentally exhausted trying to cope with complete meltdowns at times, then putting on a smile for guests. I should have just cancelled all the bookings and curled up in a chair with a drink and big box of tissues.
It does get easier to deal with but I still cry a lot, we all do here on this site. We cry for our children and all the Mumâs here who have become close through this site. We cry together and it helps to know that others feel the same.
There is no end date, sadly. Our grief is here to stay. We just get a bit better at carrying it within us.
Never feel bad about putting your honest feelings on here. We all know how complex grief is. Nothing shocks, nothing is judged. The lovely people here have been at my side since six weeks after we lost Lisa. That will be 2 years in July.
I hope you can feel the love from us all.
Kate xxx
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Hi Linda
Itâs been six months since I lost my beautiful girl. The ladies on this site have been a tremendous help to me and without their support I donât know if I could have come this far. I cry every day as I miss her so much. She was a friend to me also. The pain is awful but it does ease a little over time. I can function on robot mode now instead of just lying on the sofa. Our lives will never be the same again without our beloved children but they would want us to try and live some sort of life. Iâm crying even writing this and trying to figure out how Iâm going to get through another day without her. Please keep posting we are all here for you Deborah xx
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Hi Linda,
You have been through so much on top of the loss of your precious son 
am so deeply sorry for you, your Son will be so proud of how you have managed to keep going as our friends say he will never leave you heâs with you always 
keep posting donât hold back we all truly know how you are feeling, time doesnât heel but you learn to live alongside your grief, talking to other Moms on here helps so much as sometimes when the pain is unbearable you come on this site and knowing others are going througg it with you and will be there to help you up if you stumble on your journey , it does help so much only others who have lost their beloved children can truly understand what you are going through take care friend and keep posting
Much love Michelle xxx
oh Kate Thank you your mind words have made me cry God love so our children taken too soon Jonathan would never leave me but the power that be had other ideas i donât feel strong enough to say what he died of but I hope by keep coming on this site with so so many lovey people and beautiful words I will get stronger Thank you again sending your a hug Linda x
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Hi Deborah I am so sorry for your loss Jonathan was my life and my very best friend we had a great relationship we laugh act daft, cry together he was my beautiful boy and always will be i would put a picture on of him but I donât know how my pain wi 'll last a life time until we meet again Thank you for your kind words they mean a lot linda
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Hi Michelle Thank you for your kind words I am finding things hard i donât want to go out in case I see someone e i know because every time I speak about my beautiful boy I cry and I donât want to put my misery on to other people I am crying now as I know it sounds really silly but I canât help it please look after yourself Linda
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Linda,
It doesnât sound silly, I didnât go to the supermarket for about 6 months and even now I donât go to my local one I drive further as I donât know anyone, I have enjoyed covid as it allows you private time away from everyone, no one can come to your house, talk about your boy all the time he is still your son and will always be with you, if anyone doesnât want to listen or offer you comfort drop them donât bother with them, make new friends who will understand you like we do, you need to talk about him all the time and true friends will get that you donât have too share how he passed I havnt shared how Matt passed its not required but when we are ready we will but no rush, try to be kind to yourself, sending you a big hug
Take care love Michelle xxxx
You can find my story back in September 19. Itâs too painful to type now but I managed when I joined this group.
We have all had terrible trauma, every single one of us.
With love,
Kate xxx
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Dear Linda, my heart goes out to you and wish I could give you a big hug. I didnât go out for weeks after losing my daughter in case I saw someone. I still get panicked about it. Recently I bumped into someone I knew in the supermarket ⌠she asked how my family were and I just said âoh fine thank youâ. Simply because I knew I would get upset. We learn to say whatever is easiest at that moment.
Michelle is right when she says it doesnât matter how we lost our children ⌠we have very sadly all lost our precious children and understand the agony.
We build a new lives for ourselves, slowly and step by step. But we will carry on and we have our precious memories xxx
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Hi victoria
I am sorry for the loss of your daughter i thought there was only me who was like that itâs so seeing people i saw a friend from school at asda a and I hid behind my car and Iâve know her all my life as our families are good friends i really donât know at the how I though each day as my husband had a stroke not long after Jonathan died and I was made redundant all in about six weeks itâs been so so hard Thank you for your kind words and I hope to speak soon take care
Linda
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