Hi Kate
I am the same jonthans is also to painful to write at the min my heart goes out to you
Take care
Linda
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Dear Linda
Iām so sorry to see youāve joined us in grief and loss.
I lost my younger son Henry in October 2019, shortly after his 30th birthday. We all understand your pain my friend.
Let your grief out when it wants to come outā¦I never ever believed Iād be able to enjoy life again but I am finding some peace at last. The people on here are life savers I promise youā¦full of compassion and love.
Keep in touch with us all and tell us about your wonderful son when you are able.
Big hugs
Purple
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I found this poem recently- I hope it brings some comfort
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Dear Purple and all dear friends. Today has been a groundbreaking for me.
This morning when Brooke woke up she climbed in beside me. Grandad had taken the dogs out. We cuddled up and chatted about this and that but she wanted to see videos of when she was younger. I have a couple of my old phones by my bed which I look at to see photos and videos with Lisa.
Normally I am in tears. So today we were looking through the photos and Brooke said she wanted to see some with Mummy in them. So we watched and she was quiet but then said, ā I miss my Mummy so much but she died Granny. I have the best Daddy ever though and you and Grandad, Auntie Jemma and Uncle Alan. Mummy still loves me though doesnāt she Grannyā? Well I was speechless. This beautiful little girl seems so grown up and switched on. I didnāt cry or even feel anything but love and admiration for this little one.
I really feel Brooke has shown me the way forward.
Of course I assured her that Mummy will love her forever even when she is a grown up.
Wonderful child.
With love, Kate xxx
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Oh Kate what a wonderful grandaughter you have in Brooke . She is right she has a the best grandparents Auntie Gemma , and Daddy , Hugs Maddie xx
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Kate that is so lovely. My daughter didnāt have children but was very close to her niece and nephew. They ask from time to time if Auntie Kathryn is in heaven and do I think that she is missing them and loves them still. I have reassured them that she will always be with them and will always love them. It breaks my heart Deborah xx
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Dear Kate
Wonderful We can learn so much from children. They accept life and itās ups and downs. They donāt seem to dwell on thingsā¦there is so much going on in their little heads. Bless them.
Having such a loving family and you as a caring supportive grandmother will be such an emotional hug every day.
Iām starting to be able to talk about Henry now without that āpunch in the gutsā feeling. Slow steps.
Much love
Purple
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Yes, I know that punch in the guts feeling so well. You will remember my posts from a couple of weeks ago meeting someone I hadnāt seen in years. Having to explain and relive is horrendous.
With love always, Kate xxx
As Purple said, kids can teach us a lot. They live in the minute and they donāt yearn for the past, just look forward to whatever exciting things are ahead. Even if itās going to Macdonalds drive through on a Wednesday with Daddy after his work. It is a special treat for her ( not for me I have to say).
Be kind to yourself, maybe plan something to look forward to. It does help. I was so excited about taking Brooke to Jemmaās last weekend and now looking forward to Jemm coming up for Fatherās day.
Sending love and hugs,
Kate xxx
Kate, that is so lovely. Purple my elder boy Geraint read that poem out at Samās funeral, it makes me cry even now but it is comforting as I know he isnāt far away
With love
Helen
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Thank you Victoria. It is now 14 months since my daughters passing in April 2020 but then it is her birthday last week in May. I think I lit candles and said some prayers to her and my mum and dad who have also passed and I ask them to look after her in heaven. The rawness of it can pass after my 14 months but it can surprise you by coming back on a day. She was a friend to me and I miss that.x thanking you so much for your reply. I think I also became so tired and our feelings and thoughts can drain us at times. At least with lockdown being eased a bit it helps too. Best wishes and Iām sorry for your loss of your daughter too. Take care.xx Jane.x
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Dear Victoria, your granddaughter is awesome. What a brilliant smile she has. I am sure she is a big blessing and comfort to you and the family. Best wishes to you.xx
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Dear Helen
I came across the poem in my uncleās prayer book. He passed away last November and was like a father to me.
Iāve only just got it together enough to sort through his things. Iām sure he and Henry are watching over me.
Iām glad it has a special meaning for youā¦bless Geraint having the strength to read it at Samās funeralā¦how brave when heād lost his brother 
Love and hugs
Purple x
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Such a special day ā¦ we are on holiday on the Isle of Wight. Maddie and her husband came over and it was so lovely to meet up again. I know we never wanted to be part of this club but amazing that we have formed such lovely friendships. Looking forward to a bigger meet up later
in the year! xxx
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Yes Victoria , what a lovely day we had with you and Bill . We had a lot of laughs , and such sad memories talking about Darling girls. None of us wanted to be in this club , but thank God for Sue Ryder , that we have all made such lovely friends . With love Maddie xx
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Lovely photo ladies! How special to be able to meet up like that and share memories whilst making new ones.
And - itās sunny 
Purple x
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Maddie and Victoria you both look beautiful 
such a lovely photo it would be so lovely if we could all hire a big house for a weekend and talk , cry, hug, drink nice wine and go for long walks, if only would be so nice
Have had date for inquest its 18th Oct in Oxford 5 to 7 days so please not anytime around this date if possible 
Sending much love to all
Michelle xxxx
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Dear Michelle, I am glad you have a date at last ā¦ will be thinking of you. I live only 8 miles from Oxford xxx
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Hello you two,
Lovely photoā¦Maddie Iām looking forward to july let me know when and where please
Xxxh
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That would be lovely!, I am sure we could find a lovely place for us all to stay!xx
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