Loss of our son aged 27

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So true.xx

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Hi , Marina , you are so right all you dear mothers are the only ones who truly know how each other are feeling Like you with Christian passing in December, Dawn will be gone 5 years iDecember 11th. . And the pain is still just as raw. as I ever. The worse thing is people and friends try and avoid mention her . Which hurts so much Wiith love Maddie xxx

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It’s so true Marina, no one knows the pain that we feel. Maddie are we still going to meet up with others in October still? Or have I got that wrong xx
Deborah :heart:

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Dear Deborah,
It’s so hard I know to live with the knowledge that your precious daughters death could have been avoided, yes it is of some comfort to know that another family won’t suffer the same way and this is a testament to you and your family for fighting for the barriers to be installed so you should all be proud for this :heart: We were told that also after Matt’s death lessons were learned and changes were implemented but why do these people who have the power wait for a tragedy before they do something and why did we have to loose our precious children for lessons to be learned. I know we don’t want anyone to suffer our loss but you can’t help getting angry sometimes but as soon as I come on this site and read others sad stories it helps me so much so big thanks to all for keeping me grounded and helping me to fight on :heart:
Much love Michelle xxx

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Hello Deborah yes we are trying to sort something out . So sorry you have been so sad lately . It’s been such a terrible time for you . With love Maddie xxx

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Thanks Maddie. We have all been so distraught. Hope to see you soon x
Deborah :orange_heart:

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Hello Kate, Deborah, Purple and Victoria asnd all in this club,
yes you’re right it will always hit us square between the eyes,like you said Purple about Japanese food. Deborah Kathryn would be so proud of you to keep fighting and eventually getting the barrier. Marg2, yes it is incredibly torturous to see someone you love go downhill all of us on this site ask one question…WHY
with love
Helen

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Dear All, we all struggle so much with the “whys” and the “what ifs”. It’s hard enough coping with our loss then thinking how things could have and should have been very different. It will forever be agony thinking of Jo suffering cancer aged 30 and being so scared, the uncertainty of it and being worried for her little girl and husband.
Our darling girl left us 6 years ago this coming Monday. I didn’t discover this site until 18 months after losing Jo. In that time I’d tried coping, tried struggling, tried counselling, tried pretending during the day and giving up at night. Once on the site, I began the process of unravelling by listening and sharing with others, realising people felt the same as I did. We have a mutual understanding of each other and know we have that support whenever it’s needed.
I am feeling sad and anxious as the anniversary approaches. It’s how I expect to be but I know I’ll come out the other side on Tuesday.
She is in my heart and mind each and every day and I know she will be waiting for me.
Love Chris x

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Dear Chris,
Such wise words thank you for sharing :heart: will be thinking of you Monday as you remember your precious daughter :pray:
Love Michelle xxxx

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Dear Chris such apt words. I will be thinking of you on Monday. Stay strong, much love
Deborah xx

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Beautiful words Chris, as you say each and everyone of us helps each other. For me for the moment, I am not too bad, always thinking about Sam he never leaves my mind or heart the same as you all. I am looking after the twins as they have just started school so for 2 weeks they go part time, and by the end of the day when they pick them up I am exhausted and fall asleep in the chair. Look after yourself all of you. Our children are locked safely in our hearts and when the time is right they’ll be there to greet us. Love helen1e8ef345-1|375x500

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Beautiful words Chris, as you say each and everyone of us helps each other. For me for the moment, I am not too bad, always thinking about Sam he never leaves my mind or heart the same as you all. I am looking after the twins as they have just started school so for 2 weeks they go part time, and by the end of the day when they pick them up I am exhausted and fall asleep in the chair. Look after yourself all of you. Our children are locked safely in our hearts and when the time is right they’ll be there to greet us.

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So true Chris. In our darkest moments we all have each other to reach out to. What friendship we have gained through tragedy.
Love to you all dear friends.

Kate xxx

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Beautiful children Helen. We are so lucky to have them in our lives.

Much love,

Kate xxx

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Dearest Chris…My love and thoughts will be with you on Monday.
I am positve our children walk beside us for how could we have come this far without them to guide us through such pain.
With love…Marina xxx

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Dear Helen…What lovely children…you can see the happiness in their cheeky little smiles.
You are so lucky to have them.
With love ,Marina xx

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Dear Helen,
Your grandchildren ate adorable, I have a similar photo of my twins with big brother Matt and this reminded me of it, such happy days, if only we could turn back time but we have so many happy memories :heart:
Love Michelle xxxx

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Beautiful! Xxxx

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Photos are so similar. and beautiful . Yes if we could only turn back the clock . Maddie x

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Dear Michelle and Helen, as Maddie says, the photos are so similar and both so beautiful. Sometimes it’s best that we don’t know what is in the future for us. But such precious memories :sparkling_heart:

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