Dear friends. Before Jamie and Brooke moved to their new house, Lisa’s dressing gown hung behind the bathroom door.
Her make up lay on the window sill above the sink and her hair brush beside her hair dryer.
I know Jamie felt comforted by these things and I would hug and smell her dressing gown each time I visited.
All these are now gone from sight. Not sure if they are gone but I guess so. So hard for this beautiful boy. Wonderful Daddy. Bless his heart.
With love, Kate xxxx
Dear Donna
I’m so sorry you’ve lost your lovely boy and then your husband. And so young too. My heart breaks for you 
You are amazing my friend…carrying on for your other children… it’s so hard and you’ve done it for so long.
You’ve joined us here now and we know your pain…if only we never…
we’re here on the journey together.
I lost my son Henry in 2019 and I still weep and blame myself for things that as you say, rationally are not anyone’s fault.
The people on this site are also amazing…. we share our grief and all understand that it never leaves us. Someone said it’s love with nowhere to go…
Keep posting.
Big hugs
Purple
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Dear purple thank you for your kind words
I hope you are doing ok
We all have them days when the loss overwhelmes us, it’s just finding ways through them I know. I was very low when I posted but I am feeling better now. I had a good chat to my eldest son and it helped lots. Sometimes venting and a good old cry does us the world of good
Sending you lots of hugs and happy thoughts xxxx
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So so true thats crazy thank you for sharing Deborah take care love zoe x
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Hi all .my friend and me have gone to dorset .my friend has just lost her mum .we are in a chalet facing the sea in a little place called eype .i am surprised how calm i feel when we arrived a Robin greeted us on the steps.
Then last night a butterfly appeared in the kitchen it was mad. My friend has been many times .when i went to sit on a chairthere was a book i couldnt believe it was david Attenborough .my sams favourite .i feel a sense of peace looking at the sea .i cant believe this time last year sam was still here this messed up life .we do not expect to loose our children… ive now just seen a shooting star .some magic here i hope sams with me xxx thank you for all your support big hugs zoe x
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Dear friends. Life is just so unfair at times.
I have said before that I get tearful dropping Brooke off at home after a weekend with us. I just want to see Lisa at the door, arms flung wide ti scoop up her beautiful child. The tears flow as I drive away. It was Brookes first riding lesson on Saturday. Her Mummy would be so proud.
Zoe, you were saying about signs, the butterfly the book and a shooting star. Well when the tears were flowing down my face driving I was waiting at a roundabout and my old car went past, the one I gave to Lisa the year before we lost her.
Strange isn’t it.
Love to all.
Kate xx
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Dear Zoe,
Sam, couldn’t tell you any plainer that he is around, so many many signs from him to tell you I’m here mum looking after you. He would be so glad that you made the trip to Dorset that was why he let you know in no uncertain terms how proud he is of you.
Love Helen
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Hello Kate,
Life is strange and here we stay until it is our time, when that time comes Sam will say you made it then Mum, and Lisa will fling her arms around you and you can both watch and be so proud of Brooke.
Love Helen
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Hi Zoe , I am so pleased you are exsperiancing a few signs from Sam I am sure that must be from him . He is happy for you tt you have managed to get away . It sounds like it is doing you a bit of good . There is nothing like being by the sea to make you feel calmer . When we go to our favorite place in Cornwall , I always take a little heart filled with part of her , a framed photo and a candle , so she doesn’t miss out on anything. I hope you come back feeling a little bit calmer to know Sam was there with you . Late beautiful photos of Brooke , yes Lisa would be so proud of her, she is growing up fast . Take care everyone love Maddie xx
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Victoria i hope that sorting your loved ones possessions has helped you to move on and hopefully in time help to give you strength to move on . If you face other traumas?
Yes it hurt me having to sort my wifes clothes etc was very hard.
But now i know that she is happy in heavy with other loved ones.
Mainly her mum and dad our son Damian and baby Becky , who only lived 50 minutes .
I have just taken some deep red roses to my wifes grave. . I still love her deeply and now tell people that i ammarried to an angel in heaven xi wish you and everyone in your family peace, love and eternal hope .
Keith xxx
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Oh kate how mad is that your old car .bet brooke loved riding take care much love xx
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Thank you Helen .i really hope ge is with me …wish i could hug him .im glad i came . Thank you for your lovely words always much love xxxx zoe xxx
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Thank you maddie . Yes i have his photo and his cuddly dog he had since he was 2 .i put his fav aftershave on him . I hope i go back with some peace . Big hugs love zoe xx
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Hello Marina
My heart feels sad for you . I can sympathise with you not wanting to part with Christians clothes and other things?
What you are feeling is natural
Because we may feel that by disposing of our lived ones things is getting rid of them. Which is what i did all those years ago
I can see myself actually doing it now , but the clothes are on a different bed!!
I have bought 2 new beds since christines death.
But i speak to her and blow her kisses every night when i go to bed!!
Thanks for your kind words about me. I am simply trying to use my life experiences, to help others who are facing the new journey on earth alone?
What you say about having to let Christians clothes and computer items. I hope that when it happens you have the strength to carry on? I have gone through many phases in .t life since my wifes passing to heaven!! Best wishes i am happy that you find my words kind
Hugs keithxx ps i dont read the messages?on this site very much now. So please dont think i am ignoring you. As i wouldnt do that . Hugs keith xxx
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Dear Zoe,
Am so happy that you have had all these signs from your precious Sam, Matt was also a big fan of David Attenborough, a couple of weeks ago my hubbie went to Windsor and visited Matt’s Army Barracks and his memorial , that evening he asked me to come out to see the Nassa space station and we then saw the most lovely shooting star, we know Matt was letting us know that he was happy his dad had been to his Barracks, the signs just let us know that our children are by our sides always, much love enjoy your break you deserve it 
Love Michelle xxxx
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Dear Kate,
Lovely photos of Brooke 
heartbreaking when you have to drop her off knowing Lisa couldn’t be there to greet her but the sign was Lisa letting you know she is always there and will always be watching over her precious Brooke and always by your side 
take care my friend xxx
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Thankyou. It’s so hard foe all of us. Soon to be 3 years for you and I.
I do get comfort here, even helping other parents here is a help to ourselves I feel.
Much love, Kate xx
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Kate,
That is so true, it’s 5 years for me, yet seems like 5 minutes, yet I know Sam would be mad at me for getting maudlin. In May of 2016 Sam finally told me another tumour had started straight away I said I’m not going to Portugal then I want to be here with you. He went absolutely mental with me, saying I’m not worried about it neither are the Dr’s I knew that wasn’t true and I fell apart. I went because he was so angry at me for even saying I wouldn’t go but I rang him every day twice a day and couldn’t wait for the 5 days to be up…when I had rung for the umpteenth time he said for God’s sake mum give it a rest!! He was so kind and loving he just wanted everyone to carry on as normal but how can you?
love Helen
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It’s hard to believe it will be 3 years, you are so right about how trying to lift others actually helps to lift you, sometimes I feel so low and when you visit this site and realise we are not alone and then a new member joins and you just want to take their pain away or at least ease it a little by sharing our experiences, when I see pictures of your grandchildren on here or hear about signs others have had it really does help lift me
Sending love and hugs to all xxxx
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