Loss of our son aged 27

Losing a child
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Hi Jim, my thoughts exactly and a few more Marina xxx

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Act1. I think it’s the ones who you were best friends with that act the strangest. It’s a proper eye opener that’s for sure

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Hi I’m sorry to jump in on your conversation, I lost my son in dec 2009 he was stillborn and then I lost my dad 5 years ago to lung cancer, and I have been asked and told am I over it yet or don’t you think you should be over it yet :pensive: it’s so sad and heartbreaking and like you said @Jim10 it’s the people that are closest to you that become the strangers, an sorry again for jumping onto your conversation xxx

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No worries Lorraine. We are all here for the same reason

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Thankyou Jim xx

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Lorraine, don’t apologise, this is our conversation, your conversation, it’s for everyone who needs it.
Love and virtual hugs
Ann x

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Thankyou very much ann, love and virtual hugs to you too xxx

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dear Jim,

I’ve encountered that too, my friend or so I thought of 30 years, and people who I knew in passing go out of their way to avoid me in supermarkets etc. Yet I suppose I’m lucky (if that’s the right word) Jason (Sam’s best friend) always stays in touch and so do Fuss as Sam always called him as his first name was Sam as well others as well and if I need anything doing IT wise there’s Jason and Danny his other friend. When we went tp Jason’s 40th Sam F was there and came straight over and hugged me and said please don’t stop smiling that smile is Sam!! As for my famous four as I call them Sally, Jan, Jean, Sue are always there at a drop of a hat coffee afternoons, shopping and holidays. When we went to Scotland all of us on holiday, Kate met Jan Sue and Sally. So thinking about it yes because of all of them Sam stays around.

Love Helen

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Hi Lorraine,

Your’e not jumping in, and yes some thoughtless people think like that. Here is a poem that sum’s it up: -

JUST SO YOU KNOW
I cant stop grieving just because you believe it is time for me to move on
I can’t stop hurting just because you don’t understand the piercing pain in my heart
I can’t stop my tears from flowing just because they make you feel uncomfortable
My heart is not suddenly mended just because you believe I have grieved long enough
I will grieve the loss of my loved one for the rest of my life, just so you know!!

love Helen

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And you can’t tell what will suddenly get to you again, when you were thinking you were ok for a bit, then you’re crying into the washing up bowl because you used to use that coffee pot with HER!

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Thanks Helen this site is so full of lovely caring and understanding people, that poem sums it up perfectly xxxxx

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P.s hope the day has been kind to you all xxxx

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Hi Helen, I think those words say just exactly how each and everyone us feel and we will for the rest of our lives. Why can’t people understand that losing a child is losing part of yourself… Take care Marina xxx

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Yes Helen seem to be crying a lot lately , why wouldn’t be . We have lost our beautiful children , and that is our life now . We have good days and bad , it’s yes comes in waves . But I still feel like I am sinking . Maddie xx

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Me too Jim. We now have precisely 12 friends here in our Village who are there whenever we need to talk, be silent, walk together.
Everyone else, apart from dear friends far away, have been deleted from our contacts. We don’t need them do we.

Much love Jim, glad you’re here.

Kate xx

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Hello all deAr friends , I hope you are all having a peaceful . Easter . Yesterday was lovely , as had our Grandsion and his girlfriend if 4 years round for a meal . It’s so lovely seeing them , as since Dawn passed we don’t see much of family at weekends or bank holidays . It’s only because forget are all doggie sitting as Sarah is in Spain . Sarah has been keeping in touch , with updates and photos . She does deserve a holiday as first one since covid . But I know I am a grandparent now , but always had holidays with her and Dawn . But now not included , I know I have had terrible rows with her and her husband that cannot be repaired , but I feel so bitter . Dawn would never had been like that . 2016 the year Dawn passed we were all planning another Florida holiday for 2017 . But it wasn’t meant to be . Life is so hard . Maddie xx

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Dear all, I have Covid at the moment and therefore not able to see any of my family
(at Easter … I do pick my times!)
We will all be missing our children today. I miss German so much at this time of year but I still talk to her in the quiet of my mind and find this helps me. When my dad died and I was upset, my aunt put her arms around me and said ‘don’t worry darling … he’s not very far away’. I found that so comforting. I hope we all manage to celebrate Easter, my favourite time of year, in our own way. Sending lots of love dear friends :heart:

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Love to you too dear Victoria. Yes, we miss Easter egg hunts of years gone by. We miss our lost children so much. Tears flow when I walk the dogs in the forest. The silence apart from the birds, clears my mind so I can see Lisa clearly in my mind. Sometimes her image is hard to find.
Love to all Mum’s and Dad’s here.

Kate xx

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Before Katherine passed I had a dream of a family gathering and she hadn’t arrived yet but then someone said ‘Kath’s here’, and she looked lovely, fit and healthy and blooming, a bit younger, probably in her 20s.
After she passed a friend from student days sent her husband some photos no one else had seen before, including one just as I dreamed.
I had it enlarged and framed and now it’s the one I say good morning and good night to.
Like you I miss her in this lovely Easter time, she would have been here in the garden with us. When I feel ‘wobbly’ I send her love, love, love, and thanks to ‘whoever’ for letting us have her in our lives.
Nothing can take away the love :heart: love :heart: love :heart:

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Dear Acts, gosh so extraordinary. There is so much that we don’t know and can’t understand but we have hope of seeing our children again. I love how you are so thankful for the time spent with Katherine and you are so right … nothing can take away the love. That lasts for ever :heart:

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