Awwwww I haven’t tried making cakes my 16 year old can isn’t it nice to have been taught things off our loved ones
Me dad is talented too he used to do love seats with wood bikes decorate the house brings back a lot of memeories
Hi there. I know how you feel about your mum’s ashes. If it was her wish to be scattered around the roses then perhaps that’s what should happen. Perhaps your brother’s could have a small amount in a keepsake urn. That way the majority of the ashes would be with the beautiful flowers but they would have their own tribute to her?
When my son died in February 2022 he was 25 years old. I scattered his ashes between two young trees at the crematorium but I kept a small bag of them. Some are now in a memorial pendant and some in a ring, both of which I wear all the time. I still feel that he is ‘whole’ in the place where he is resting and I can look at the jewellery and feel him with me all the time.
Would something like this help you all??
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My mum was a seamstress when she was younger, when my kids were born she started making all their costumes for dress up at school, she knitted when they were babies she done all her own decorating and any DIY that needed doing her philosophy was why ask a man if you can do it yourself, she’d tile, lay carpet, lino etc she was amazing only stopped decorating when she hit her 80s, I’m no good at using a sewing machine, I decorated my 1st room 2 years ago my talent was art, I’d help the kids with their school projects or I’d make their cakes etc, we each have our talents mine was self taught apart from the decorating that was from helping and watching mum, although I can paint.
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Hi
I think im gona have mums ashes around the rose trees in the garden of remembrance, a ring or pendant isnt for me but thank you for your suggestion.
Your mum sounds like she was very talented and i love her quote " why ask a man when can do it yourself". She was obviously very wise cause doing it herself was proberbly quicker than asking a bloke.
Well i went back to work today just like i said i would, it was emotional and hard, i had to push myself to go in, but i did it mum, just like you would of wanted me too.
Hugs to all❤️
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Well done Louise , that’s a big step forward , going back does help get your life back in check , best wishes
I feel your pain totally understand as I lost my mum suddenly on new year’s day. 83 but still independent and fairly fit and mobile. Complete shock when I found her just sitting asleep in her chair and when I rang 999 they told me to administer CPR. I seemed to hold things together before the funeral but since then I’ve experienced panick attacks. Dr has now prescribed Sertraline only started today so will see if they help. Sending love 
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Sorry for your loss, I’ve been taking medication for my anxiety I was also given antidepressants but was scared to take them I’m going to start tonight see if I can sleep through till morning and hope that I don’t get any side affects as wasn’t really well at the beginning with my others there were some side effects that last over a week x
Hi titch7674
That must of been so hard for you to do, CPR on anyone would be traumatic but on your mum, how brave and strong you must have been.
I think i went into auto mode before mums funeral, totally in bits for a few days then something just kicked in an i had to get it all sorted so just was kind of emotionless/numb. Since the funeral ive found it hard again, my emotions are all over the place, only last night did i cry myself to sleep again, so i do know how your feeling. I hope the pills will help you my lovely, be strong.
Hugs❤️
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That’s my fear but I just though I need to give them a go as I couldn’t have gone through another day like I had, I literally thought I was going mad, not helped that I suffer from tinnitus and I feel that’s got so much worse these last few days but I’ve also been full of cold so maybe that would subside soon. I just feel I need some clarity in my head and some quiet time to try to process things but I feel so rotten with this cold and ringing in my ears it’s making it worse 
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It’s weird as I’ve had ringing in my ear it started the day my mum passed away, I never suffer with my ears but it’s just buzzing and popping all the time it’s annoying.
Hi Lisa how are you feeling? I’m very up and down. Eventually had a decent sleep a couple of nights ago but think that was just because I was utterly exhausted. Not so good last night though and think the anxiety is what affecting my ears as well as cold so not easy to try to switch off
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I’m feeling quite empty at the moment I have nothing left to give I’m exhausted mentally and emotionally, had my second session of counselling yesterday got a lot off my chest that had been weighing me down a lot of anger, trying to get in touch with the drs to get one of my medication changed it’s a joke.
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Awww hope you get sorted at the doctor. I’m only on day 5 so hoping my anxiety will lesson once they’re more into my system. X
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