Let’s hope the palliative team will take over .they seem to be able to get things done
You know your husband and what he needs
Xxx
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I hope I’m not taking over the thread, will try and keep it brief
Today was intense, ambulance called 4am as he was in pain again. Paramedic dosed him up, but I totally let rip about the palliative team, which resulted in an urgent assessment mid morning. Morphine finally arrived at noon. Night sitters also arranged, which is a relief.
Spent the entire day with him (not actually married, and live apart but only 5 minute drive away). Only just got home! Good thing I know how to administer morphine (did that for my Mum previously), but the carers will be doing most of it.
@Chucky81 I can appreciate how tough it must have been for you. Did you care for your husband at home, or was he in a hospice or nursing home? Either way, it’s a vicious illness.
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Thank you it was. I did care doe him at home till the end as he wanted. Had carers 4 times a day for the last 4 weeks. We had pallative care team involved and they were amazing
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Partner has reached the active dying stage, syringe driver in place now, and once that’s there its only a matter of time.
Feel very numb right now
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Its so hard I felt the same. Sending love
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Thinking of you Plutorising. Not an easy road to be on…
Sending good wishes your way xx
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Hi Plutorising sending you strength and hugs.
I hope your partner goes peacefully 
Wishing you all the best
Tom
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He’s still here, now on 40mg morphine on the syringe driver, 40mg!! That’s enough to knock out a rhino! And he’s still asking for oramorph every 2-3 hours. Also on high sedatives and anti-nausea meds.
He rallied over the weekend too, but now reverted back and even worse. Been a brutal week, had to stay overnight myself the other day, when the night sitter cancelled. Was giving him morphine by the hour and had to call the nurse out. Been doing “shifts” with his kids to watch him, can’t be left on his own.
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Hi Plutorising, it brings me to tears hearing about your poor partner. I am so sorry for you both and his children. I hope he leaves peaceful. Thinking of you and sending hugs.
Wishing you strength
All the best
Tom
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So sorry to read this. Sending love its so hard x
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Thinking of you Plutorising, it’s such a terrible time for you and your dear partner’s family. Sending you lots of strength, as Tom said xx
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A couple of days ago my heart was shattered again when I had to have my dog Willow put to sleep she struggled for a few days. It was such a hard devision but the right one she was clearly in pain. She can go be with her dad now
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Hello Plutorising, just read your post, im so sorry for what you are going through, 
sending prayers your way May God give you and the family the strength you need during such a difficult time. Sending you hugs , may God bless you 
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So sorry to read about your lovely dog Willow. It’s so difficult when our darling pets depart, they’re such great company in times of sadness.
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Thank you they really are and give yoy a purpose to get up
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He passed away yesterday
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Dear Plutorising, I am so sorry you and your poor partner have had to go through such pain and suffering. At least his suffering is over now and you have done everything you could to make his end the most comfortable. Your love for him which we have witnessed here, must have been a great blessing for him. Thinking of you now and sending you a big hug
Wishing you all the strength you will need.
Tom
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His was a tough one, he had lost the ability to talk in the end, and he was completely bedbound. He did have a rally, but then a sharp and vicious deteriorating, before losing consciousness. His active dying took 4 days.
I don’t even know what his last words to me were. I know it was something lovely, as he held my hand and kissed it afterwards, but the words were nigh on impossible to decipher as his facial muscles were paralysed by then.
It’s why I changed my profile pic. He passed away only days after knowing that Arsenal finally won the Premier League after 22 years which made him happy 
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We are all here with you… No words can describe what you are going through… There is a place with a tree in my town… I was under the tree when they called that my most beloved husband died… No words can describe the pain… nothing… Every time I walk that way, it’s the worst nightmare!
Hugs from Janka
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I fully agree, no words can describe it.
For me, this is the second partner I’ve lost. I had a previous partner who I lost to suicide around 20 years ago. I went into shock when we were given my current partner’s prognosis, it was sheer disbelief that I was about to go through it again, but a terminal illness this time.
2 partners gone, and I’m not even 50 yet. Both parents gone as well. So I’m both orphaned and widowed (unmarried though) in just under a year! “Unlucky” nowhere near covers it.
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