He will be waiting for you June .
Thats why we can carry on because of that knowledge.
Its not very nice here today weatherwise. Very windy.
Was going to potter in the garden but maybe tomorrow
Have to find somethimg else to do,
Love Sandra xx
Hi Sheila Sounds good to me just waiting for my Amazon delivery. Have ordered a smaller one , its a bit large for my ear.
I ll give this one to my grandson, surprised he hasnt got one . Hes such a tech head lol. Although Im getting there myself.
Sent my son a text this morning using the headset.
He was pleasently surprised .
Love Sandra xx
Dear Sheila and Sandra
I’m not being funny now or anything and I don’t mean any harm but the two of you have obviously got such a good relationship that wouldn’t it be better if you privately messaged each other about your amazon purchases and such ?
Because every time it pops up on my phone that there is a new message in the lost my husband thread I go and have a look thinking it might be something that will help me in coping with my grief and then sometimes it is something totally irrelevant to me like the stuff this morning
I don’t mean to sound harsh or to be intolerant bits just that I expect there to be some sort of emotional content in the posts but it’s all about headsets and ear pieces and Bluetooth and stuff
Perhaps the lost my husband thread is no longer the best one for me to participate in
Hope you don’t mind me saying
It’s just all the posts about material stuff is upsetting when the grief is still so raw and that’s not to diminish your own grief in anyway because I know how much you are missing your husbands . So I’m not saying not to talk about gadgets to each other but could you not do it on the forum for everyone’s consumption …private messages for your own
Love Romy xxxxxx
Hi Sheila Its the plaitronics explorer 55. Sounds very similar with clear plastic hook.
Have set it up.got two now but will give the other to my grandson.
Sounds to me like your sons are a little bit jealous Sheila of your knowledge.
Love
Sandra xx
Dear Romy This is the first time I have gone off the subject of grief in the 8 months I have been posting here.
It was just a chat that carried on a bit.
In fact this is probably the first time that I havent actually cried whilst either reading or posting.
I am realistic in knowing that the tears will never stop.
Its just that Sheila and I had something in common to discuss and she had more knowledge about it than I had.
We do seem to have a lot in common and I do enjoy reading her posts .
In no way did I mean to upset anyone or to diminish the importance of this forun.
I apilogise if I did that because wasnt my intention
Love Sandra xx
Dear Romy I am quite happy to private message Sheila
Love Sandra xx
Dear Sandra and Sheila
Thank you both for your understanding
It means a lot
All the stuff about technology was making me panic because my head is in a different place at the moment
So thank you again
Enjoy the private messaging about technology
Love Romy xxxxx
Dear Romy its not a problem.
I didnt realise it would upset anyone.
We will private message about technology from now on.
I know its a living nigjtmate that we re going through , I just felt a little distracted for a while,
Love Samdra xx
Dear Romy, Sandra and Sheila…and everyone else!!
I hope you don’t mind my joining in your conversation!
One of the things about this “journey” of ours is that each of us is trying desperately to find some advice and comfort to help us and make us as whole as we can be. Each of you have very valid viewpoints…this site is wonderful and I would have been completely lost without it but perhaps conversations about daily life issues are misplaced within these threads. I have long wished that I could find a site where I could post and ask for help in practical things like this but there just do not seem to be any…sites like gransnet etc are good in their own way but do not provide that innate understanding that we need! Perhaps we could ask Eleanor if it would be possible to create a new heading for day to day issues and then we could happily converse away with our new friends, solve some of our queries and so relieve some of the stress we all live with without inadvertently upsetting each other.
Take care x
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A good point Amelie’sgran. There is of course the ‘General Chat’ heading…
Sending love to everyone on here. Xx
I don’t know where you live Lonely but I’ve found the terracotta pots, although much prettier than plastic, can easily fall apart if they get heavily frosted and I’ve lost a few because of that. I now take mine into the greenhouse and/or wrap them round with bubblewrap until spring warms up. Some of mine are quite old and I love them!
Jacqi xx
Hi Ladies I find some of the plastic pots look pretty good now. They wont last forever though but are much lighter to lift.
Glad to hear you Jacqi. Havent heard you for a couple of days.
Hope youre as well as you can be.
Love Sandra xx
Hi Sandra
Hope I haven’t missed anything but there were so many emails I couldn’t face reading them all - I was feeling unwell Friday and Saturday and then did some gardening on Sunday - maybe I shouldn’t as feeling grotty again today but at least the garden is slightly better!
Next door neighbour causing problems by hacking our lovely clematis to bits just before it flowered. It’s on our fence (always will be ours as Iain put that section up many years ago) and I already told her to leave it alone. I’m hopping mad and was intending going round but didn’t feel up to confrontation today. I try to avoid things like that but am upset about it as it was beautiful last year and Iain loved it. BUT it’s our fence and our plant and she has no right to touch it. Neighbours.
Hope you are well and enjoyed your holiday overall without too much stress. I know how difficult it was at times.
Love Jacqi xx
Dear Jacqi I know how tiring gardening is now for me anyway. Just told my gardener not to come anymore I will manage it myself.
Brave words when youve got a bad back. Lol
I can do mowing and weeding with the hoe but I wanted a border finishing off and he didnt do it.
My daughters coming tomorrow . She will
do the digging and I will rake and throw everything in the bin.
Is that a montana clematis. I had a montana rubens at the other house. It was beautiful at this time of year.
Neighbours. When I had all my shrubs pruned, I spoke to the neighbour and he said Im not happy about that shrub being cut down.
Its a lacecap hydranger. I said it will grow back and he said not til the summer.
The gardener said hed moaned to him about it as well.Flippin cheek it was mine.
We did have a nice holiday which was upsetting as well but I did what I wanted to do, which was scattering some more of Phils ashes.
Hope youre feeling better,will.private message you soon.
Love Sandra xx
Hi Romy,
It was so good of you to point people to another site or messaging.
I have been thinking the same thing but couldn’t find the right words to explain my thoughts without upsetting anyone, well done.
I like reading all the messages but I too can’t cope with technology that is overwhelming. I can hear Paul trying to help me and me panicking, just as though he’s still here.
I still can’t watch TV so have the radio on all day and read.
As to the ready meals, I’ve discovered M & S Plant Kitchen meals. They’re not very popular so are often reduced! Good for me!
My little cat shares my healthy yogurt and now won’t let me have mine til she’s got hers. It’s not good for her, apparently, but she loves it.
Struggling a bit this week as everyone has other things to do and I’m trying to fill my week with things to do.
Hope you’re coping,
Love, Chris
Hi Jacqi I have private messaged you
Love Sandra xx
Dear Chris
Its lovely to hear from you on the forum and to hear how you are doing
I’m like you . I need to fill my week with things to do
Got to sort out stuff with UK solicitor about Spanish wills tomorrow as there seems to be a problem with inheriting the villa in Mallorca me and Mark jointly own with my in-laws . There’s always some problem or other to sort out
I’m going to see the bereavement counsellor tomorrow afternoon at the hospital and hope to see my friend who is very ill with breast cancer
So that’s tomorrow for me . A bit of a mixed bag of emotions
Sending you and the cat big hugs
Romy xxxxx
Hi Chris it is a. Hallebfe to fill the days with stuff
Most days I am very busy - but I hate weekends and find Fridays specially dificil!
Have you plans for Easter? Good Friday is Jack’s birthday. So we are all getting together, making a BBQ ( he lived having BBQ s on his birthday) then I panicked! Now what ??? I did panicked - cobtaxtetny sister asked if I. Plus go there Saturday, a dear friend asked me for lunch on Sunday and on Monday will go to one of my daughters.
I need company! I love my moments of solitude but I can’t be alone for 3 days.
I don’t remember , do have dogs?
Hope you find stuff to keep you happily occupied
Sadie xx
Hi all,
I’ve just written a long reply and then managed to accidentally delete it so will reply tomorrow.
Good luck tomorrow Romy hope it goes well
Love Chris
Dear Chris
It will be the third time since end of November …so don’t have appointments very often
The first two were cancellations and offered to me at short notice . Because I’ve got used to there being big gaps between one appointment and the next when I was offered weekly appointments I turned them down and the counsellor said she would offer me monthly ones
So we’ll see what happens tomorrow
I’ll keep you posted
Romy xxxxx
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