Lost my mam and dad 13 days apart.

[LauraLou24]

It’s all still very raw at the moment for me, i lost my mam suddenly on the 11th november she was only 63. My dad died on the 24th november, he was 78 and had a great life but had been poorly for 10 years. I’ve had such a bad weekend constantly crying and upset. Feel like i’m going crazy at times and i just don’t want to do anything what am i meant to do without them both xxx

[Seaneen]

I’m so sorry to hear this, @LauraLou24 - how you’re feeling is completely understandable.

You might want to connect with @Poppy50, who recently posted about losing her dad and who is now facing the loss of her mum. You can read her thread here:

Losing parents close together

My dad died in August after being terminally ill. I’m still trying to get my head around it. I’ve only cried about 4 times and am just going through the motions. I’ve now found out my mum has cancer and she doesnt want any treatment. She’s still processing the loss of dad. I feel miserable and just want the world to stop. Life carries on and thats what Im struggling with.

Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.

• Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
• Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
• Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
• Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,
Seaneen

[LauraLou24]

Hi seaneen do you know if you can set up texts for multiple people who have passed? Thanks for replying back to me.

[Seaneen]

You can do, if you use two different email addresses to sign up twice. I know that’s a bit of a faff, but you can then get texts for both your mam and dad.

I hope that’s helpful

[LauraLou24]

Thank you

[Annie139]

Hi
I’m new here and I’m sorry to read your post. I can completely relate to how you feel. I lost my parents this year, 16 weeks apart. My Mum a few weeks ago.
Emotions wash over me and I find myself tearful at unexpected times.
I’m getting through the days by staying at home(I’m retired) and avoiding people. It’s maybe not healthy, but one day at a time is all I can compute just now.
Sending you support.

[LauraLou24]

Oh annie, i can totally relate. I have to go to work and walk the dogs but that is the only time i really want to go out. Otherwise i don’t want to see many people and normally i’m an outgoing person. Big hugs.