I am sat at my computer and finding it hard to Write this. I lost my wife in October last Year she was my rock and my soul mate. We had been married for 17 years but had been together a lot longer. I am finding it difficult to cope. My life has a great big hole in it My partner was the most caring kind person you would meet; She got me through some tough times. She was in Liverpool Royal after having a fall at home.
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So very sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel. Hope you can get as much support as possible around you.
I find that I need people around me who are just prepared to be around without expecting me to talk.
I’d been with my wife 24/7 from her first diagnosis in 2021 until I finally lost her on New Year’s Eve - the hole left simply cannot be filled.
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Thank you for your reply I am sorry to hear of your loss. I was with my wife every day she was in hospital. I was on my way to see her when she passed. I have support from my church and close family and friends. I miss her every day been told to try and go out and do things which I enjoy. We where both into our photography so am trying to get back into this
Take care xx
@1233 I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my wonderful husband 5 weeks ago. He was only 56, taken far too soon , and I too spent every day at the hospital with him. It’s very early days for us both but all I can advise is take a day at a time and look after yourself, our loved ones would want us to. I’m trying to keep myself occupied, I try to get outside as much as possible, nature is a healer for me, or at least a little distraction for a short while, and with Spring coming I’m sure I’ll be in the garden a lot. Use this forum, so many wonderful people in here when you feel you need to reach out to someone, always ask for help and know that you’re not alone, take care
Today I’ve found the strength to try and sort out my partners pensions. It feels like I’ve just been hit by a truck all over again. I pray each day for this pain to get less . I really feel I can’t go on. I long for sleep and when I wake up I’m disappointed because I don’t want to. He made people promise to make me live my life. Im finding it so hard. It’s a nightmare I’m living.
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I’m so very sorry you’re going through this. I know it all too well.
I hope you’ve got someone to reach out to for support. If not, keep visiting here. If nothing else it occupies another 5 minutes of the day!
Thank you for your advice. I wish I could take all of our pain away or at least make it easier for us all. X
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Hi I am also trying to go out a lot more both we where both intro our photography so been going out with the cameras
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I went out for lunch and a walk round the park with a friend today.
Currently sitting surrounded by photographic equipment. It was one of my husbands many hobbies. He was well known for collecting every piece of equipment possible then losing interest. I have to sell a lot as I will be putting the house on the market later this year as it is way too big for me. Most of it is hardly used. Last night I cried buckets going through it all but today am calmer and beginning to catalogue it all. Neither myself or my daughters are very interested in photography which is sad 
My partner for some reason collected watches and horse racing figures. I honestly don’t know where to start. So I understand how you feeling love. I’ll have to do it soon hard though it will be. Take a deep breath we can do this. X
Yeah I will do it. Been looking online at prices as don’t want to get ripped off.
I have part plastered a wall today which is a first, will smooth and finish tomorrow. Then I will have my first attempt at wallpapering once properly dry.
Next job is to sort shed and garage. If Makita make it we have it. Will keep some and daughters will have some , but not the big stuff like table saw and circular saw. X
Good. Hard but we have to do it love. Now I need to find the strength. X
We do indeed. I do things when I feel I have the strength and then don’t beat myself up too much on the days I don’t . Hope you find the strength to do the things you need to do x
Thank you. I will try. Everyone says day by day. Of course they are right. You just can’t see yourself at the time. Xx
So sorry for your loss my partner died from a heart attack on the 28th December last year. If you want to chat please do
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Hi it’s almost a year and a half since I lost my wife, soulmate, best freind and the love of my life to fucken cancer.
Life is shit everyday, every second and minute without her, every organisation that I contacted for support has never contacted me again, is it because I’m a man? because all women would be fully supported and men no longer count because we should man up as we don’t greive.
What do the men out there think how their being treated, that will be very interesting!
My husband had 12 pairs of binoculars. Was only planning on keeping 3 but have only cleared 5. The first weeks I was on a mission. Clearing so much. Determined not to leave my children with such a task when I am gone. So much sold on eBay, Vinted, given to charities and thrown. You would not know it if you saw my house. I’m 4 months in now and have run out of steam. Having trouble motivating myself now.
Hi Debsie 1,
This site is great because everyone here knows your pain and you have a sad story to tell of your special man to tell no matter how painful. Just take a step back and remeber this special man and stop selling his things you will only regret this in the future, we all wanted to do this, but trust me it’s totally wrong. Tell us all about your special man and times please, we need to support every loss that’s what keeps us living and going in life and that’s what makes this community special Tags1
Totally get that Debsie. I don’t want to leave my kids with loads to sort out either. They have first refusal on everything but I have to downsize house and I can’t take everything with me. Decluttering lots of my stuff aswell. I am a hoarder and the house has 45 years of clutter. Just sent loads of soft toys to a charity that gives to less fortunate people.
Flo56 your a star and a very brave lady, god I admire people like you so strong, but always remeber there’s always something that reminds you of your special time and you can’t find IT’ so take special care please. Just don’t rush find it and I don’t need to remind you that life’s too short Tags1