Unfortunately there don’t appear to be any of these Sur Ryder groups in North East England.
Sorry just seen your message I sorted through his footwear and sleepwear to take to charity shop. It’s hard as you know I just keep plodding on it’s all one can do. Wishing you peace
@Numb1
He’ll love. Go on line and type in for bereavement groups in your area. Or ask at your local hospitals. I’ve found quite a few haveu them but for some reason they don’t seem to be very well known. Let me know if you find anything please. X
Good luck.x
Hi Tenpin
Thanks for the suggestions.
I’ve found one place that does groups of 10 for 6 weeks which might suit. I don’t think I want one to one counselling.
There are no Sue Ryder ones up here but I’ll try the hospitals in the near future.
A lot of men find it difficult to open up, I’m one of them. I agree, men are shit on the shoe of society. I lost my wife over two years ago left my with three young daughters. I know anger as you do.
@Numb1
Good that’s a start. Hopefully there will be some others. If you do go I’d be interested in how it went and how you feel about it all if you don’t mind.
Good luck. Xx
@Bear 13
I don’t think men are shit on a shoe love. I can understand your anger at your loss. It must have been hard with 3 young ones coping with their grief as well as your own. I don’t know you but I’d like to put ‘well done’. It can’t have been an easy task. Xx
Tenpin, I’ll let you know but it will be some time before I can get in.
@numb 1
That’s a shame it’s gonna take some time. It now that it’s needed. This is my bug bear there should be more places to go. This is life. It’s happening to everyone. X
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There should be more support for bereaved people until this happens to you you don’t realise the impact it has on a person. I lost my husband we were together 50 decades suddenly very little support I have received x
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@Jojan
I’m sorry for your loss. And you’re right as I put before there isn’t enough help. I called my doctor which I had to wait for a call back. I explained I’d just lost my beloved hubby how I was feeling. She asked me what I thought she should give me!!! I have sat on line googling what help there was. I was even ready to travel to another town if it meant just anyone giving me not only help but some understanding of what I was and still am going through. Im glad for this Online chat. Today has been a bad day. I feel as if I have gone backwards not forwards. I can’t wait to go to bed and pull the covers over head and hopefully if sleep comes it will bring some peace. For a few hours at least. Xx
Tenpin unfortunately going backwards is part of the journey. But having a bad day doesn’t mean tomorrow will be bad. Yesterday was bad for me. I think I was just so tired. Grief is very tiring. I had to take meds for my migraine so I slept well and today was a sunny day and I felt better the moment I woke up. Tomorrow who knows. If you have to take a day to yourself just do it. I do hope you will feel rested and more able to tackle the day ahead tomorrow.
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Hi Debsie1
You are right. Grief is very tiring. I am constantly tired. I think it is not physical, but a mental and emotional tiredness that just wipes you out.
Luckily, my work are incredibly understanding and are allowing me to do whatever i am capable of at the moment, which is brilliant for me. I can’t go back on normal hours because i am a wreck still.
I agree, one day is ok, the next day rubbish, but i have read about grief, and i understand what is happening. It doesn’t make the pain any less, but at least i know it is normal to be this emotionally wrecked.
I know that i will move on, but it is still very early for me, and i have to let all this happen to me. I will never stop loving or missing her, but i know she has gone and not coming back, but i also know that we will be together again, when my time comes to an end.
@Debsie1 @Jacrobthorn
Thank you both of you with your sound advice. As you say grief is tiring. Today I found it hurt to cry. I felt so weary and fed up with myself. I just didn’t know what to do. Like you say I hope tomorrow is a better day. Xx. Thank you loves.