My beautiful lady passed away only 37 years old we have got a 4 year old boy.
No one around me can possibly understand how I feel and I can’t see any way forward.
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So sorry to hear of the loss of your love of your life. That’s so young and life is so bloody cruel. I’m sure someone on here can relate and hopefully you have some good support around you. I lost my husband 6 weeks ago he was only 44 and we were on holiday. I’m speaking to a few women who have lost through the same way as I did and it helps. I hope you find someone that can bring you some help and comfort.
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Sorry for your loss Helen.
We arrived back from our holiday on the Sunday. My partner was admitted to hospital on the Monday and died the following monday. All too fast . Whenever I walk into the house I expect her to be there and when I realise she isn’t it breaks me
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Hi sorry for your loss also, it’s so hard isn’t it. I brought my husbands ashes home yesterday and weirdly was quite comforting. I’m quite spiritual and I feel him around me a lot. Hope you have good support around you. I find talking to people on here does help a bit.
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Thank you for your kind words.
At the moment I just keep wandering around the house all Jens things are here and I just cant bring myself to sort any of them out.
Im in a real bad place today
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Yeh i felt comforted having his ashes back at home too, its where they belong isnt it ? So many times in the day i look at them just to feel him here ! And his lovely blanket and dressing gown which comforts me too xxx
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10 months down the line i not sorted any of my husbands stuff out … they’re staying where they are for now xxx
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I literally feel him touching me. He knew I hated my feet being touched but now I love it when I feel it. I talk to him like he is here too. I’ve still got some of his clothes in our wardrobe but I’ve put a lot in the spare room too. I’m planning on going back to work in 2 weeks and thought I could do it before then but I don’t think I can yet. Sending hugs.x
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Yes i think i can feel him close too still … i believe their spirit lives on …in your heart … amd theres so much we dont know or understand about it even in the bible it says - there are more things in heaven and earth than we know xxx
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So sorry to hear that but talking to people on here, I’ve found, is a great help as everyone here understands what you are feeling. xx
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I cant bring myself to wash her pyjamas. I can still smell her on them and I sleep with them at night
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yes i can still smell my husband.on his blanket - he used it a lot when he was poorly …its so comforting isnt it ? And i take it to bed with me too to wrap myself in. Actually its around me at the moment as i watch t.v. i find it very comforting xxx
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Yes I’m same wear David dressing gown not washed it , it’s coming up to 10 months cloths stil where they always been , started back to work last week on phazed return was very emotional got upset a lot but nobody seemed phazed by it just going with it not putting myself under any pressure take care all x
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I’ve been offered a phased return, how does that work? My works have been great but I think for my own sanity I need to be busier and around people.
I work for nhs it’s for 4 weeks first week work 25% second 50 % third 75% week for back to 100% but can be extended at discretion of your line manager with nhs you get full pay while on phased return hope this is helpful, yes it’s a distraction don’t change it but keeps you mind elsewhere take care x
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Thank you, my sick paper is up on the 12th so I think I’ll speak to my boss about this. I’m in on my own everyday and have no family near me. I think it will do me good to go back.x
Yes Helen do what’s right for you , the first day will be hard I’m sure hope all goes well good luck x
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What you’re going through, what you’re doing, We’ve all done, are still doing. I sleep with his hoodie, the ones he wore often and was wearing the week he died.
You are at the beginning of a long road. I know it’s hard to hear and you want to hear it’s gets better and it does but it takes time. You won’t be healed but you will learn to live with it.
Life is unfair and cruel and we’ll never know why they didn’t get to live and we do.
You’re son needs you but take time to cry and scream and let things out. Take all the help that offered. Take each day an hour at a time and don’t focus on the future, on what’s lost, it won’t help you right now.
Be kind to yourself and reach out here if you need to. We understand.
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Yeh wise words … doesnt always work leaving the past behind… i have been pretty low in the last few days. I been feeling sad without him. Im trying to focus on the future and im going abroad with my daughter and granddaughter in 3 weeks time … definately needed tbh ! But i do miss him so much at the moment … i hate absolutely hate living by myself. So glad i have my gorgeous puppy but still i miss talking to my man xxx
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Yeah, totally get it. I’m fine till something goes wrong. I just miss the sharing life, it was definitely easier.
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