@Mist2 yes I think there’s a perception that after dying suddenly, a person will look tranquil and at peace . I know my Baz was vaguely aware of what was going on so I couldn’t see him . I was being treated for shock afterwards.
Actually I couldn’t go into the garden afterwards, which is partly why I’ve moved to a flat . I kept seeing Baz everywhere and I found it scary not comforting 
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I would dearly love to know why all these men who were not elderly and seemingly fit have sudden death from heart attacks…you even hear about it daily in the news. In this day and age and medical advancement what is going on?
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@Sarlyn it is very strange now you’ve mentioned it, I hadn’t thought about until
I read this, makes you wonder what’s going on, we were both full vaccined
Against covid, lots of people have conspiracies about that but makes you wonder 
I think we had 4 each of them over the years!!
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I would love to say more on this but can’t because it goes against community guidelines as I have already been told I can’t talk about it sadly
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@Ilovehorses the visitation sounds amazing 
I’ve only had 2 dreams about mine since he’s gone, the last one I couldn’t see his face but I’d ran over for a massive hug and he said sorry, 
I really want to believe this was him coming to see me, I’d like more though but nothing yet,
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Hello all,
I just wanted to share my experience, albeit with my dad (not my partner).
We lost my dad to a cardiac arrest. He was fit, healthy and well, as far as we all knew. He was slim, active, never smoked or drank alcohol. But he’d been going to primary care about this phlegmy cough. They only ever investigated him for lung conditions.
It was ‘cardiac cough’. He had a blockage in a blood vessel, and the phlegm would appear when he’d been physically exerting himself or when lying in bed at night. The phlegm was actually blood cells from the heart flowing back into the lungs.
My friend’s dad also had ‘cardiac cough’ and was only investigated for lung conditions. Until a chance encounter with a GP who suggested he needed cardiac investigations.
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@Sarlyn i would love to listen but we don’t want to break any rules 
I didn’t realise how common it was until I came on here, I’ve been that wrapped up in my own and thinking it’s only me,
Mine too. He was 75, and we knew he had heart problems, but he was also very fit, and we thought the medication was controlling his symptoms. He’d gone out to help a friend do something, and I was just wondering why he was late back when the policeman knocked on the door; that moment goes round and round in my head on video loop.
Still having trouble believing he won’t just walk through the door.
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@Burgled that is so scary! We just assume the professionals know what they’re talking about and doing!! I’m actually astounded at how many wrong diagnosis there are
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I did warn my parents, after my school friend’s dad died from pancreatic cancer and being fobbed off at the same practice.
But when I googled his symptoms I had no idea that they could be fatal… I thought it was more of an annoyance for my dad, and that it may have been linked to his allergies. Bless him, he ended up self medicating with antihistamines and vitamin D, because he was getting nowhere with primary care .
He was 76, and being seen by a ‘trainee clinical practitioner’, not even a GP. Bloody scandalous.
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I posted this so people would pay attention to the heading but sadly unable to have the discussion I would have really liked to have had
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From my perspective, we know that vaccines can have side effects. My friend in her 30s had a stroke after hers. So it should be OK to talk about it on here.
But in my dad’s case, the cardiac arrest was caused by a blockage.
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And, may I say that this is a helpful topic, as I’ve been hanging out in the ‘losing a parent’ topic, where I only came across 1 other who lost their dad to a cardiac arrest.
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@Burgled I had my post taken down as it was about vaccines stating not able to discuss but agree it would have been a helpful discussion
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My husband had a 3 meter fall 20 months previous and smashed his elbow to pieces. He was never the same. I think the fall definitely masked his symptoms. Xx
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Thank you
So sorry for your loss, too.
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You’re fine living in the UK until you become poorly, and then who knows what lies in store. Even private care seems a bit rubbish.
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@Ilovehorses i am also sorry to read about your husband…I’m also 57 years old. Life indeed is unfair and cruel…big hugs xx
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But even when you can say goodbye irs equally heartbreaking @Sarlyn … youre never really ready for it you know 
xx
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@Deb5
Of course it’s equally heartbreaking I absolutely agree and nobody is ever ready to say goodbye, however for me having the opportunity/chance taken away is the worst part of my grief. We all have different views given our own experiences
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