I have also found it very reassuring. I have a lot of very random things popping into my mind usually very detailed and seemingly unrelated to previous thoughts. So thank you. X
Hi Janet, think our brains must be having problems processing everything we’ve been through,sort of on overdrive. Still, it’s nice to know we’re not alone though isn’t it. One less thing to worry about! x
Hi Jane
That comment made by your friend, don’t be too harsh on her. No one can understand the emotions that go through us. I can relate to your friend as many years ago a neighbour lost her husband. I saw her a month later as we travelled to town and she was crying all the time. I remember thinking he’s been dead a month why is she still crying. Thank goodness I kept my mouth shut and now can’t believe I thought like that. I was just so ignorant at what loss really meant. We live and unfortunately learn.
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No Pat I won’t, I know it was just unthinking and not meant in any way unkindly, it just threw me xxx
You are welcome! We all need a smile right now.
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Thanks Ann, we certainly do! Hope your day hasn’t been too bad despite the weather. xx
Hi bjane
Not too bad a day except that my daughters and I were trying to sort out all the paperwork the solicitor needs for Probate. What a job that is on top of everything else and I am not at all in the mood.
Ann, it’s sheer hell and I feel for you . The trouble is you have to deal with all that stuff when you’re at your lowest ebb and not really in any state to do it or want to. Have you signed up to Tell Us Once I think it’s called. It will notify various people for you, a bit less stress and hassle. I went to the bank to try and sort out internet banking, as Malcolm had always done all that, and they were lovely, sent me home with all the information and I haven’t done it, can’t remember any of it! My brain wasn’t working properly at the beginning, only now after 4 months do I feel I can try and sort it out. Don’t try and do too much , just what you need to do for the moment, unfortunately it’s going nowhere and will still be there when you feel more up to it. Thinking of you x
Morning,
Sorry to come in on the thread but, but I had the same my Husband did the same I had no idea,but went onto my banks website and all the details were there just had to wait for letter with password and security code and it was simple.
Belieive me I am simple.
I did tell,us once think it was called when I registered the death and they did everything with Council Tax and state Pensions then got all the replys done.
Love to you .
Here is a link to tell us once
Hi Samella, don’t be sorry. Thank you for that, think my brain’s up to it now, was just on autopilot earlier , not really taking anything in properly, just in shock and numb. Will get on with it now!! xx
I have to tell you, rightly or wrongly, I still have our joint account open. Nothing in it but it’s open. Couldn’t bear to close it so didn’t tell them. David also had an account with another bank which I did close. xx
I love you Crazy Kate, you make me feel normal!! 
xxx
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Thank for another sensible and comforting reply. Yes, I did use the Tell it once facility and it is good. The problem now is finding the information the solicitor wants. Like you, my brain has stopped functioning which is why my daughters are helping me so much. The ironical thing is, a few tears ago, I did all this stuff as executor of my friend’s will and had no problems with it. Now, presumably because it is about my adored husband, I am about as much use as a newborn baby!
Thank you Samella. It is all so difficult to do anything with a woolly head, isn’t it? Luckily, I did internet banking so that hasn’t been a problem and the accounts are sorted. It’s the info for Probate that is the problem.
Thanks for that. It’s a good site. X
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Hi makitagirl lm here if Do you want to talk any time yes 50 years and 52 years is a long time I love my husband Dearly like you yes I know what you mean about your son you love him but he can’t replaced your loving husband what part of the world are you from?
Patricia48 I am from the USA. What part are you from.
With this virus I do nothing but sit in the house and think and cry all day. I am so lonely. Went out to dinner yesterday with a friend who also lost her husband. We talked and enjoyed dinner all the while wishing our husbands were here. We can only dine outdoors as our restaurants have not opened indoor dining yet. I visited my son for a little while but still had to come home to an empty lonely house where I still see him in every room. It’s heartbreaking. I have no desire to do anything by myself. I guess we can only take it one tough day at a time
Here’s thinking of you
Just a thought for the ‘tell us once service’ . I went to them, filled in all my husbands details, car, Passport,?driving licence, tax etc, a couple of weeks later a payment came from the DVLC. The car tax had been refunded and I as driving around in an untaxed vehicle.
Hi I must have been lucky as this service was done for me automatically when I registered his death. Had to deal with bank, investments and pensions but nevertheless a big help.