Sadly, I have to agree with you. But we need to live in hope xxxx
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@bjane all we can do is hope because what is the alternative? I am just going to have to get through today x
sorry Jane, but my question is “why” why do we have to live in hope? In hope of what? We all want the one thnig we can’t have ever again, so our hope is pointless.
I don’t want to upset you, as I think you mean well but I don’t have any hope for the future, and I’m not sure I still want to be here
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Dave you’re not upsetting me at all, I feel pretty hopeless at the moment too, have felt it really badly the last couple of days. So what I hope for is to somehow come to terms with what has happened and for one day the pain to be a little less. That’s all x
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I feel the same as I don’t think the pain will every go away. I try to get thru one day at a time but its hard and very lonely. I just keep the hope that one day we will see each other again. I miss him more than I can say.
I feel for all of you
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No, don’t think it will Makitagirl, mine seems to have got so much worse in the last few days. Can’t understand why, it’s 17 weeks tomorrow and feels worse than ever. Just finally accepted the situation I suppose. though I’m still thinking I’ll tell him something before I remember. Sending love and sympathy xxx
It’s 10 months for me and it has not gotten any better. I feel very lonely without him . This virus doesn’t help either. I feel like I’m losing my mind I seem to talk to him all the time even though I know he is not there.
Love to all in this time
This virus is definitely a contributor to our madness and loneliness it’s so isolating and makes us feel stuck and out of control. But it is reassuring in a way to know we’re not alone, others are feeling the same way. . We need a bit of normality back, life has changed so much for us and it’s so hard to bear. Take care xxx
I’ve had a rough day too. It’s our wedding anniversary coming up in September. Old cards will go up to remember the day. We tried to get a group bbq going for 13 of us,but couldn’t because of the ‘ rules’ , Instead we are going to a restaurant . Lovely you might think, the meal is the day after our anniversary and I’ll be the fifth person on a table, all in a line. no one opposite me, everyone else with their partners, I’m afraid I’ve just cried all evening. Steve passed away 16 months ago and it doesn’t get any easier.
No it doesn’t get any easier. I can’t even go out to dinner as we only have outside dinning and reservations are hard to get as not all restaurants have outdoor dining. I sit hear everyday thinking about him and see him everywhere in our home. It’s tough. I am so miserable.
Oh it’s just unbearsble isn’t it? Our anniversary was at the end of July and I bought him a card, from the place where he always bought mine. Crazy but I didn’t want him to think I’d forgotten him. As if!! I went out for a meal with my son and daughter in law, my “bubble”, and felt it really badly, the odd one out surrounded by couples. I just wanted my man by my side and cried my eyes out when I was by myself afterwards. This is truly a living hell for all of us xxxx
I to have a son and daughter in law. They try to help me but it’s not the same. I know he misses his father but it’s not like the missing that I feel. I did everything for him. I miss the closeness of him and our life together.
I know how you feel and I feel your pain
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It’s just comforting to know someone else completely understands. I saw a friend today and we were comparing a similar ailment. I lightheartedly said maybe it’s because of all the tears I’m crying and she looked mortified. Oh no, she said, you aren’t still crying are you?Well that set me off then, doesn’t take much does it? Sending you a big hug
REALLY?? What’s the saying? Who needs enemies with friends like that? I am sure many of us will be crying for a long long time. Whatever your body needs. So you cry as much as you need to and knickers to your “friend”!!
My thoughts are with you. X
Ha, like that! Thank you Ann! Knickers indeed! Just not understanding, she wasn’t meaning to be upsetting, she is in fact very kind, just not getting it. Think we have to go through it to realise what a seismic experience it is. Thank you for making me smile xxx
Family & friends mean well, but don’t appreciate the intimate moments we had together, those times we will never talk about to anyone. I lost Junenn10 weeks ago, and it hurts s much
Your absolutely right. My friend lost her husband 2 years ago and I had no idea what pain she was in until I lost my husband. It is truly a tramatic experience. You have to go thru it.
Bless all of you xx
And you too Makitagirl. So nice to be able to talk to people who understand, especially when you can’t sleep! xxx And you’re right Dave, no one understands that closeness or realises how much we miss it. It just adds to the pain xx
Dave you are so right. Lost my husband 10 months ago and it has not gotten any easier. Sitting home all day during this virus all you do is think and see them everywhere. Things always pop in my mind of us in a restuarant eating dinner or on vacation somewhere. I think about it l the time.
Thinking of everyone
So reassuring Makita girl to read about places popping into your mind. That happens to me a lot, I suddenly get a picture in my head of a place we liked to visit and then almost a little video, walking around that place together , yes and where we went for meals. I actually thought I was starting to go a bit mad , it’s such a relief to know others have the same experience. Hope you have a good day today and the wind isn’t too bad with you. Wild here!x