They say time heals all wounds and I lost my mum August 23 and I still have my emotional moments. So I don’t know how to answer that! I don’t want to give a false promise that it will get better or put a time period on it either. I don’t want to and I can’t!
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I lost my husband October 2023 and still sit here crying and can’t get my head round anything and miss him so much
Take care x
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Hello @Harriet4Bill
I’m into 17 months since my darling wife died in hospital after 10 days of unconsciousness after a massive stroke in her care home. She had vascular dementia for the previous 5 years.
I many ways I’m fortunate that she wasn’t killed in an instant ( one day here next day gone) as I had time to adjust I suppose to her deterioration. But, but, I lost her all the same as a loving caring wife and I miss her every day as we were married for 33 years. She became a stranger to me as she failed to recognise me.
But death is death no matter if it’s anticipated or sudden. And you lose all the firm ground of a loving relationship. The support goes and the world carries on.
I wonder often now what death is like and now read loads of books on the subject trying to understand what she went through and derive some comfort from knowing, maybe, that she didn’t suffer too much at the end.
There are very few ways of comforting anyone in our position and I find I just have to plod on into each day hoping by minute degrees that it’ll get better
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I have to say that I cant imagine anything worse than the sudden traumatic death of a partner. One minute talking to them, a normal afternoon and evening and then collapse. No chance to say goodbye. Two traumas how it happened and husbands death. Nothing can prepare you. I am so sorry for everyones losses here x
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Almost 21 months in, one day I am full of hope, the next losing the will to live - back and forth - I hate life without my angel! I can literally say every breath I take I miss him so terribly 
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They say it’s like being on a rollercoaster the only thing is you can’t get off and it hurts
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Pam 14 I lost my husband may 1st 2023 and no it doesn’t get better you just learn to put on a face for others and keep your thoughts and feelings inside because people do get fed up hearing it, thats why these forums are so good we don’t have to put on a face we can be open about how we really feel as we are all in the same boat, so to speak.
Today was a tough day for me, it was our 49th wedding anniversary, I went to the cemetery to be with my husband, I hadn’t been able to go recently because we had lots of snow till a couple of days ago and I got up and it had all gone xxx
Take care everyone xxx
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Jol
Have you serched Sean Ford if you have him come to do reading in your home he charges £25 if you can get 5 people he does your reading for free , i had him to my home think thats why he picked so much up with my husband, im going to book him again
I’m in Yorkshire and would like to meet up friends are lovely but still have their loves and don’t understand.
Im between leeds and harrogate and there are some other yorkshire folk on here. Yes my friends are still lucky enough to be in couples. Where are you? Maybe we could all suggest a convenient meet up
Heartsand x
I would love to meet. I am near Leeds, Harrogate, Skipton
@Littleburty
North, South or West? 
I’m in East Yorkshire i can travel to meet have literally nowhere else to be. My husband was my life and I have no children, no work and no meaning to my life so if anyone in same situation it would be lovely to meet up .
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Same as me but I’m in Nottingham.
@Littleburty
Ah, I just gave away that I’m really an off cumdon there didn’t I, leaving out East .,.
But in my defence I’ve been up here 35+ years.
I’m currently grounded till my car gets fixed and hopefully passes it’s MoT re-test. Can’t even get to the train station.
I’m in Yorkshire too. Availability not that easy at the moment but keep me posted x
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I’m in Norwich ,Norfolk ,in the spring ,I could do with a break,nearer the time
I could do with a break and book a couple
Of nights in a hotel if you liked to perhaps
Meet in the day ,sightsee a bit ,like the train station there ,No reasons other than a chat and become a bit more human again for a day ,maybe become a pen friend ,nice to get a letter or card in the post,I have had a few since my wife passed away in November last year,been ,
Lost ,sad angry,grieving all the time ,seeing ,people together and I think why not me ,my was was just lovely"…
I’m to old now to start a new life ,everyone I know says I’m not ,but I still talk to my wife ,embarrassed myself once or twice
Suddenly sobbing ,for no particular reason as well,keep in touch on here maybe?
Pegg
Whoops ,just realised what I wrote ,I meant ME! Couple of nights in a hotel ,not you and me ,we can meet then in the day ,share some time ! So sorry for the misprint ,!
Pegg
Sorry for your loss they say times a healer not true it’s how you manage to take the grief with you grief is love with no place to go it’s been 18 months tomorrow I lost my fiancé suddenly July 2023 not a single day goes by I wish he was still here he had everything to live for only 51 2 daughters of his own plus I have 2 aswell he was a DJ loved his music 
etc I wish I could just pick him from the stars and give him a hug again yours is still fresh so it’s processing your loss dealing with being on your own again I hope you have family to help support you I couldn’t say goodbye as his family wouldn’t allow it but find comfort your husband will always be with you xx
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Harriet 4bill
We all understand how we all feeling its so hard and even family and friends around but still feel so lost and lonely , im on my 6th section of counciling which is rubbish to honest all he tells me is to reach out to friends to talk about how im feeling sick of telling him they dont want to know anymore they change subject ! Think they carnt understand but why would they they still got husband’s, so ive decided to just keep my pain to myself in future,
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