I took Andrew to donnington park . He said put some of him there but I couldn’t split him up so my son and I put him in all the places he was happy there
Jol that’s what i want to do eventually we used to go on some lovely dog walks i want my family to come and scatter Chris’s ashes then maybe go out for lunch as a sort of memorial but just can’t face it yet .
I will scatter Steve’s ashes at the crematorium or have them put in the ground when I’m ready at least I can go there and be with him 
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If i can’t scatter Sue’s ashes at her favourite beach. When i sorted out my own funeral a couple of weeks ago. I got put in that we would scattered together still on her favourite beach.
I’m sorry that you’re going through this. I’m at six weeks also. Try to take it a day at a time. I think we need to do what we need to do to get through it. I’m dreading his birthday which is at the end of June.
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Hi, Sadly birthdays, weddings and other special occasions will always fill us with dread. Its over 4 years now since losing Val and I’m still in bits most days. It was her birthday last Saturday and I went to the crem with our 3 daughters. Lots of happy memories, but lots of tears. Just wish we could turn back the clock to happier times. Take care
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I know how you feel and sorry for your loss it’s coming up to 2 years since I lost my fiancé he was only 51 and we only had 3 years together wasn’t all plain sailing but was out years my best friend is getting married jujy and I’ve been invited I know I’ll be emotional on the day but theornis another woman going who is alone aswell so she has put us together he would have been her DJ if here but his friend is doing it instead I feel over whelmed every day and haven’t stopped crying since that day of summer 2023 he will never be replace and I have no intentions of another relationship he would have wanted me to go out and enjoy life but I have always spent time with him especially DJ weekends and bank holidays are the worse
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This feeling that I’ll never have another relationship resonates with me. How could you ever have again what you’ve lost.
It’s 2 years since she died but 6 years since she went into a home not recognising me. So I lost her actually back in 2019 for good. And every couple I know has it coming one way or another and I’m sad knowing the heartbreak it causes.
My only hope is that I’ll eventually live without the rawness of feelings, that I can remember my Bridget and when I do remember the times we had I don’t get screwed up inside and my eyes start to prick.
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I feel the same its been over a year and i still feel such grief i miss my beloved so much i cry everyday. Today was my birthday its not the same without him being here . He always wished me a happy birthday on the morning of my birthday . It hurts me my beloved not being here 
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I’m sorry to hear about your loss. My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimers at aged 55. My dad brought us up as my mum died when myself and my sister were young. Every time my dad declined it would be devastating but we would get used it it before his health declined again. He was 67 when he died. I can only imagine how difficult it has been for you. I hope you find some peace as what you’ve been through is just awful.
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I lost my husband 18 months ago to cancer. He died at home in our bed and I looked after him. Life can never be the same. We met at 17 and were married for 48 years. I am lost and cry a lot. Difficult to know how to ease the pain. You have to experience the loss to understand. My brother and mother died in the last 2 years so I’m grieving all 3 as we were very close. I hope you find some comfort in life.
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Taking it day by day is very good advice.
It is 14 months for me.
On some days it might even need to be getting through the morning, then the afternoon and then the evening.
It is what ever helps you.
Can I also add, be kind to yourself.
I read something yesterday,
think about how you would treat a friend or relative if they were in your situation.
Treat yourself in that same kind, caring way.
Take care x
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So very sorry.
That is so much to deal with.
People who have not experienced this cannot fully understand our pain.
Take care x
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Hi, i am very sorry for your losses.
I lost my Dad on Christmas day 2024. Then my wife on the 25th January this year.
If you need to rant or ramble feel free. It had helped me.
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Hi Rose Garden,
I got told by my counsellor, that i need to give myself ,some of the love i give to my wife.
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I’ve been given a book by a dear friend of mine called “ the boy, the mole, the fox and the horse” . Classed as a children’s book it has advice in there that helped me a lot
“ often the hardest person to forgive is yourself “
“ being kind to yourself is one of the greatest kindnesses”
I recommend it.
Peter
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I have not thought of that.
Such good advice, very touching.
Thank you
I love the work by Charlie Macksey who created that.
I watched a documentary about him.
A very nice and interesting man.
I’m on my own at a national trust garden. It’s a bitter sweet visit as it’s one we used to go to regularly.
To be honest I’m not sure if I’m pushing myself too hard. I imagine me and Bridget here together. She loved this place so much and it’s hurting knowing she’s can’t be with me. So I walk around in the beautiful scenery and watch couples young and old and feel alone.
But I’m sure she’d like me to be happy and content. But I can’t have what we all want - our love ones to return and take up where we left off. To be a couple again and love one another.
Peter
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Hi, thats how i feel when i do Alnwick Gardens. The first couple of times,i was in tears. The next i just thought whats the point without Sue. Went for a coffee and a sandwich and felt sick.( not the sandwich fault). Just sat on my own and seeing everyone around me and thinking i used to be like you, happy and content.
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