Sending you love and hope, it will be 2 years in October since my husband died. 
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Maisie7
I feel the same as you. It is coming up 3 years for me in August since
Keith passed.
Never stop thinking about him. That’s the price we pay for our love for each other.
The loneliness is so difficult for us all even when we are with other people. Seeing other couples holding hands, chatting and enjoying the moments together.
Hope you are finding a little joy on holiday with your dog even though you wish your soulmate was with you.
I’m going on holiday next month.
It scares me as I’m travelling alone until I meet up with family when I’m there.
I’ve never gone to an airport on my own and travelling on a plane alone. I’m sure I will be ok. but I think we lose a lot of the confidence we had when our soulmate is not around.
Hope you find some happy moments on your holiday.
Take care. 
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Well done Julia i wouldn’t be brave enough to travel on my own i really miss my holidays abroad Chris and i went twice every year.
I am going on a coach holiday to Whitby with my sister in July, who is also on her own. I can’t say I’m looking forward to it.
I just want my old life back but i know that’s never going to happen. Xx
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Sadly it doesn’t! I will be thinking of you on the 8th July and hoping your trip will help you get through the day as it did mine . Yes I do believe they are always watching over us 
Take care x
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I totally get how you feel 
I miss my husband and soulmate every single day, miss our moments together. Those happy memories have helped me to carry on each day for the last three years.
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Yes, regrettably our „old“, happy life won’t come back in this world.
It’ll be back once we are reunited with our beloved soulmates in Heaven.
Then we’ll be together with them for all eternity.
Until then we’ll have to soldier on, knowing that our beloved ones are looking out for us from Heaven.
God’s blessings to all of you!
Kind regards - Joe
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I really hope that’s true Joe. I couldn’t cope with not ever seeing my darling Ray again
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The astounding thing is, every couple has to go through this. One of you has to die before the other, and yet people do manage it. I think you’re right. The grief never goes but the painful scar heals over with time. Has to!
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Dear Peg,
you definitely will meet Ray again and then you will be together for eternity.
Kind regards - Joe
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Lost my husband to pancreatic cancer too in may 2024. Such a cruel disease and so quick, 3 months from diagnosis and he was only 61. We had been together for 40 years and he was all I knew. He was, is, the love of my life and I have just navigated the second anniversary. So hard without him.
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Hi Sandie
You’re so right, what a cruel awful disease pancreatic cancer is. I lost my beautiful kind Ray 8 months ago, only 6 weeks from diagnosis. Even though he was ill beforehand for a few weeks, going to his GP who dished out antibiotics like smarties. 3 visits to A&E too. His father also died of pancreatic cancer but he got more time than Ray, he was 67.
I’ll never get over his loss. He was my Ray, my everything and I’m distraught every day.
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@Julia12 you will be absolutely fine at airport and ask for help if you need to . It is 3 years for me too . I go out as much as I can but it’s not the same as with my Andrew . Have a lovely time away xx
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Barbarap
Think we all want our old lives back. Keith and I went on lots of holidays together. I am grateful for all of them and the happy memories we made.
It’s just you know you will never be able to do that again and make more special memories.
This is just a strange different life we are all living. Putting on a brave face as not to hurt our friends and family.
The loneliness the empty chair , bed, car…..
Today I went to a friends house for lunch. Her husband was there and we had a lovely time together.
The 4 of went on holiday together and had such happy times. Now someone is missing, Keith
so no more holidays together but I enjoyed my time with them today and we talked about Keith. Some people don’t do that.
Hope you enjoy your time in Whitby. We spent many happy days out there eating fish and chips and having a fun time.
Glad you have a sister. My brother died 3 years ago, he was 59 ,just before Keith.
Take care and thank you for your reply.
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Hi Peg
So unfair isn’t it? Such lovely people get taken from us. It’s like your life has been ripped up and you need to somehow piece your bit back together without them. We plod on a day at a time but it really is a marathon. They say the greater the love, the greater the grief and I think that is true.
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Totally agree Peg, life changes so much when you lose your partner. It’s tough being the one left behind, I don’t think my husband would have coped well had I passed before him. I know he used to worry about that. The harder you love the harder you grieve and nothing can prepare you for that. Sending everyone my best wishes.
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Jol
Thank you for reassurance.
I do things and have been on holiday with family and a friend.
Just not on my own.
I worry about coping with everything. It’s just the thoughts.
I know I can do it.
I was always the one who organised everything with Keith( he called me his social secretary) and with family and friends.
Just lost my confidence in myself.
I can’t believe it is nearly 3 years for me. Lost in the strange new life.
Keep busy!
It’s the only way to cope.
Thinking of everyone and hoping a bit of joy on this Sunday.
I was going to continue jet washing the drive but a friend rang and said did I want to go for a walk Yes please!!
She came back here and sat in the garden afterwards. It’s so much better with someone with you.
She lives in an apparent with no garden. That’s hard. I enjoy gardening and I’m happy to share my garden with anyone.
Hope everyone is ok and managed some sleep tonight.
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Think I forgot to press the reply arrow on my post to you. A bit late. Sorry another senior moment.
Take care.
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Barbara
Sent my sorry to the wrong person.
Didn’t get much sleep last night. That’s my excuse. 
Hi, Totally agree with you about loss of confidence, I’m exactly the same. When Val was here we shared everything, admittedly she was better at some things and me at others, but we got thru together. Now approaching 6 years on I’m still lost. Dont do much, lack of interest, no energy, even the smallest things seem like mountains now. Until a few weeks ago I hadn’t been out alone since losing Val and plucked up courage to go to the cinema. Seemed so alien, tho done it again since. I’m going away next weekend ….its a 6o’s weekend …..looking forward to it in a way but dreading it in other ways. I just know I’ll go to pieces when I check into the guest house alone. Anyway, I know I need to do it sooner or later, so hoping all goes well. Take care all
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Good evening
I have hated Sundays since Chris died everyone seems to be doing things together going out and about but we are on our own. I will never get used to this life it’s so lonely the best part of me died with him. We were together for 52 years I don’t know how to be alone, i know i will never be truly happy again.
I just hope i don’t live to be too old .
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