Everything you say is so true.its been over 12 months since losing my dear wife so unexpected and suddenly one sunday afternoon here at home.She was my world, my everything.Losing her has torn me apart, part of me went with her, what ls left is a shell of what i once was,everything seems to have lost its meaning and purpose now.Every day feels like groundhog day, just plodding on, going through the motions.I know i will never get over losing my dear wife.we just have to do the best we can with this life we have now.its the sad, lonely empty life i find so hard without my dear wife beside me.You are so right the greater the love, the greater the grief.
I agree with everything you’ve typed except for the Sundays. Every day is the same to me long and lonely. I’ve forgotten what happiness feels like. If I could sleep a bit longer in the morning it wouldn’t be as bad but my anxiety wakens me early. I’m eight months down the grief road now and I really need some respite.
Norma i can relate to every thing you wrote
It’s been 20 months since Chris walked out of the door and never came back he had a cardiac arrest. It doesn’t get any easier i suffer with anxiety i am often sick in the mornings i take medication for it but it doesn’t always work . It’s the waking up and facing another long lonely day .
Take care sending love xx
Thank you Julia for your kind message.It is so true what you say.We try to live each day but the hapiness our loved one gave us has now gone and what remains is our broken heart.a heart that can never be mended.I feel the loneliness is the worst too.i have never been alone in all my life , previous to marrying my dear wife i lived with my dear mum and dad, now its just me, its horrible, everything about my dear wife i miss, her companionship, her kindness, her care and most of all her love.She was my world, my everything.I have lost both my parents , my dear wifes parents too but nothing feels like this, nothing can ever prepare us for losing our dear loved ones.I hope you are ok and coping the best you can. Take care Julia, thinking of you too.
Your description of the despair, the sadness, the broken heart reflects my feelings perfectly.
We won’t experience true happiness anymore, the pain and the sadness will fade into the background somewhat as time passes but they’ll be present for the rest of our lives.
But we will be reunited with our beloved wives and that reunion will be for all infinite eternity.
Until then they’re looking out for us from Heaven, feeling the love we’re sending up to them.
Thank you so much Joe for your kind supportive messageIt is so true what you say.To be honest the thought of my dear wife waiting for me in heaven until its “my time” helps to keep me going.Thank you again for your kindness.Take care.
I know how you feel - I try to carry on doing all the things that we used to do together at weekends. So far..so sad and so lonely but still keep doing in the hope that one day it will be less painful..
Lost my dear wife 5 years ago and until now I have not been away anywhere either with anyone nor alone. But this weekend I went to the Whitby 60’s weekend to see if I could still face things. It was so hard, just driving there alone, when before we would be laughing and joking was really stressful and on arrival and unpacking alone was also really hurt….I’m not ashamed to say I was in bits and floods of tears. It just wasn’t the same anymore….I love the 60’s but my heart just wasn’t in it. Got home earlier to familiar surroundings and felt so much better. Miss her so much
George, this is what i fear i would find so hard.My dear wife and i often went to Whitby and Scarborough and on the NYMR railway to Goathland and Pickering.We cant drive so we always used buses and trains.I just dont think i could do it George, i so admire you for going.One day i may try but i feel it would tear me apart even more than i am now.We did everything together and so loved our breaks by the coast.Take care George.
Hi Brummy, have some good memories of trips on NYMR together and before heading home this morning I made my “pilgrimage” back to Goathland for old times sake to re kindle some fond memories, bitter sweet moment thinking of us on the trains….strange that I know such things are going to upset me but feel I have to do them. Take care mate, we’ll get thru somehow
I’m missing my love even more each day. I try to go to our places, sometimes I’m able to smile and sometimes I can’t avoid the tears. I’ve always been a positive person, but lately I’m full of anger for everything that has happened to me since the last year and it’s so overwhelming that I desperately need to find some peace. I sacrifice all of my suffering to God every day, just to be sure that my most beloved husband is not suffering, not even a second… The path to heaven is very narrow and I want to be there with my love as one again forever…
Janka
Hi Janka, sorry to hear you’re struggling. I’m very much like you, I had my own business for over 30 years and was so confident, meeting customers, suppliers etc all day every day….I could have a conversation with anyone. Now I’m just the opposite, my confidence has evaporated away. I rarely go anywhere and when I do I feel that I need to get back home as soon as I can. We’d all like things to be as they were but sadly that’s no longer the case and we have to lead another “life”. People often say things like “ Val would want you to be happy” and I’m sure she would, but its really so hard to accept that she’s gone and not coming back. I’d love to be happy again. Things happen in life that just seem so unfair . Hoping that life gets a little better for you soon…..it’ll take time. Take care
Dear George,
this is exactly how I feel. I had a day off and despite my effort not to think about my misery and my trying to enjoy a sunny day in my lovely garden, I ended up crying so much that I was shaking… then I go to work to feel better and when it’s done, I can’t wait to come home to be hidden from this cruel world which doesn’t care… This forum helps me a lot!
God bless you!
Janka
Hi Janka, my condolences for your loss, I’m in the same position. Shed so many tears as I miss my husband so very much. It’s 20 months since he passed and doesn’t seem to get any easier. I think I was in denial for a long while now reality has kicked in, the sadness and loneliness is difficult to bear. It does help coming on here and makes you realise you are not alone in this sadness. Sending you my best wishes.
