I am 59 Gra was still in hospital when it was my birthday he rang me at 6 oclock to wish me an happy birthday. Hugs jo xxx
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Thank you so much Rose 
xx
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Ditto…He was my world…my everything… 
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It is so hard, I wouldn’t want to live that long either without my husband, cause this now is just an existence not a life at all! We all feel like that whether its men or women but I feel younger ones will be able to move on with their lives in time and rightly so they deserve to be happy again and I would wish happiness for them xxx
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My youngest Grandchild is 6 weeks old the day she was born i cryed i told my son it was happy tears i was so grateful and happy for another Grandchild but the tears was because my chris wasnt ere to enjoy her he was one in a million husband dad grandad missed so much
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Our daughter was pregnant with our first grandchild when my husband died unexpectedly. He knew it was a girl but never got to see her. Utterly sad about that as he was so looking forward to being a grandad. Our grandchild arrived early due to the shock of our daughter losing her dad. Very sad .
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Hi,
I know how you must be feeling,our great granddaughter was born two weeks after my wife passed,it really is heartbreaking.
Lots of love Ron.
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All of us feeling the same loss. I too feel like I’m just ticking over. My husband and I used to kiss and tell each other we loved each other all day long. Held hands when ou and went everywhere and did everything together. People say let the tears come it’s healing but for me I find the emotion is overwhelming I fear I won’t be able to breathe. This urge to have him here again …….well you all know. How are we supposed to cope?
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Exactly. My lovely wife and me were always hand in hand, whether in the shops,out for a walk, anywhere and like you would tell each other how much we loved each other morning, noon and night and now when I see couples holding hands I feel so envious, even jealous I suppose. Dont go out much apart from shopping but as soon as I get back home I just feel suffocated and fall to bits. This was our home, but now its just a place to eat and sleep. Its so hard on your own. Please take care
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Morning @ George73
Just though send message of support.
Losing someone special is so hard, especially when you have spent most of your life together
My husband passed away suddenly, Jun 23, aged 63, leaving me on my own after 40 years together. I have kept myself busy volunteering joining exercise class boules all to get me meeting others. I am also in bereavement group locally. Look to see if there are any in your local area. This group has been a great support to me over the past 16months.
I hope that you find something to help grt through the days ahead.
Take care
Lynne
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Treasure the memories George, not everyone gets to have loving relationships like we did. Although it is so bloody hard I wouldnt not want to have spent those years with Gra. It was 13 weeks on Sunday since I lost him and I miss him beyond believe. He was such a kind loving manband every day I got a kiss and we told each other every night hiw much we loved each other. He was 16 yrs older then me I am 59 but the age difference never mattered. Hugs Jo xxx
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Pam14, I had my 72nd birthday last month, the first without my Phil. I have friends in my village who rallied round and we went out for lunch. 12 old ladies in the pub restaurant but they helped me get through a tough day. I hope you have friends like that to help you through 
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Unfortunately I don’t have friends me and steve just liked are own company x
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We mainly enjoyed each others company . I do have a few friends that are coming back into my life now
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Carly i really feel your pain and loneliness and i lost my bestie over 2 years ago and she was the strong one and would know how to get me through the hell and my husband was my carer and my son is 20 but is autistic and bad anxiety and he was meant to go back to college 
but he is struggling and he’s had meltdown and I’ve got really stressed and mad about everything and i want to sit and feel sorry for myself and i hope you find something to do and get something out of life. Sending hugs 
to you
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Hi Judy, It never rains but it pours as they say. I can fully understand your issues with coping with so much seemingly going wrong all around you. I’m going through the same thing having lost 4 really close people in just under 2 years. Lost my wonderful wife of 47 years , then my friend who was our best man, then, lost my stepdad and then another friend. As soon as you try to pick yourself up along comes something else . Theres times when I just want to be out of it myself, cant see the point anymore, but just exist day to day and do what I can…seem to have lost all my confidence and drive. Hope you can soon see some light at end of the tunnel . Take care
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Why does life keep kicking up when we are down, i lost a really close friend in April then my husband and my dog in June.
Why does it seem some ppl sail through life without nothing going wrong and others just get all the s**t going . Hugs Jo xxx
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George 73
I can’t begin to imagine how you feel after losing so many relatives and friends in such a short time.
I’ve only lost my husband - 10 weeks ago today - and I’m totally lost. I don’t have any family of my own (stepson and stepdaughter). They are supportive, but not mine. They have their own families. My life has no purpose anymore. Bill gave me a reason to live - we did everything together and now he’s not here there’s no meaning to anything. I can’t summon up enough enthusiasm to do anything 'cos he’s not here to share things with.
After 10 weeks (which I guess isn’t long) I feel worse now than a few weeks ago and there are certainly more tears because I just miss him so so much.
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Every word you say is so familiar. I feel just like you,at one time I’d always be on the go doing this, mending something, choosing stuff together etc but now, like you say I too cant see any point to doing anything. I literally have to force myself to get on with things, but really not bothered one way or another about it. I have three daughters who all live quite close and strangely if they need a job doing or help with something I’ll go round and help, but as for things in our house, cant be bothered. Weird that isnt it. My days seem so long too and I’ve fallen into the habit of snoozing quite a lot, think it just puts me in a different place where I dont have to cope and make decisions. Really hope things improve for both of us soon. Take care
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I too have to push myself to do things
I’m always thinking I’m going to do that tomorrow and never do it
Now I’m not having my grandson it’s even less for me to get up for x
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