Hi sorry for your loss we have to get up and face the days as hard as it is. You go to bed in my case no sleep probably about 3 hours and it’s starts again I want time to go forward so I can get some relief from all our emotions
Take care x
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Hi Sarah
I read your post and wanted you to know that I do that too! In fact, I have just posted that I have been looking through our holiday folders. I don’t know whether it helps. Like you, doing that reduces me to tears, and yet it makes me feel closer to him in a way. I think we are learning how to grieve and maybe we need to sort out what is best for us. You lost your husband in March. I lost mine on 30th May and it’s a hell on earth being without them, isn’t it?
I wish you all the best.
Hi Kathryn,
I get that awful panicky feeling in the morning too. My life partner died back in November but the panics continue. I wish they would stop. Like you I find it helpful to get out of bed, but then I make myself a cup of tea and read for a while with my cat (who is very empathic and purrs a lot to cheer me up. ) I am not sure what the panics are about, but other bereaved friends have also mentioned them, so perhaps they are part of the grieving process for some of us while we are finding out who we are in this strange new world without our loved one. I am getting help from a homeopath, but I guess, if we feel we need extra help, we find whatever is right for us. Take care of yourself. It’s a hard journey to be on.
Florence, that made me cry about your caring little granddaughter. How wonderful and how much she must have loved him.
I feel your pain x
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Good morning Susy .I lost my husband of 40yrs a year last April .The pain never goes away but it gets lighter.Family,friends & pets help soften the hurt.Keep your precious memories in your heart.Being able to talk helps as well.Your
partner will always be with you in whatever you do.Take care.x
Hello Peaceful spot, that is so reassuring to hear that the pain actually does get a little lighter.To those of us whose loss is raw and more recent it feels like nothing will ever improve. Like you Suzy I feel panics and also a sick feeling that comes from nowhere, must be our bodies reacting to all the pain inside them. The support on here really helps. xx
I’m really sad too, I lost my wife to ovarian cancer and July, 8 weeks ago. We were together 9 years, I’m 62 and she was 58. It’s fair to say I’m broken and in shock. My friends seem to be living real lives around me, where I am a shell of a person just going through the motions. Her last set of clothes a soft shirt inside one of my old sweaters has lost her scent. That’s so sad. All we can do is keep inching forward. We have no choice. A friend told me that the pain we feel is all the love returning into us. We were very lucky to know such love.
I’m on my own too … understand
A bank holiday without them is pretty bleak isn’t it. Malcolm would refuse to drive anywhere on a bank holiday and we always used to tease him about that. Trying to make myself smile at the memory. Love to all who are feeling it today x
Morning,
I won’t say good, as most but as most on here it probably is not.
Anyway is it Bank Holiday? Every day seems the same old ritual trying to get through the next hour, until bedtime then maybe sleep wake up start all over again.
Sorry for a misarable post but this seems to be the norm now,most our lives at a standstill ,what is the future without Loved ones who knowes.
Sorry again,for being such a,pessimist.
Take Care .
So right Samella. each day is just get up, try to do something useful, then go to bed and it starts all over again. Not a miserable post at all, think we’re all feeling it, I am today. Even a lovely little cat purring on my lap can’t stop the tears this morning. Like someone said on this forum, was it Jonathan or Kate, grief comes in waves, we’d just drown if it came all at once .Trouble is you never know when those waves are going to strike. I’m finding it hard to get round to doing anything today, should be posting a photo of my cat but can’t seem to get myself together. We’ll get through this somehow, not sure how but we will. Sharing your sadness x
Hello Everyone,
Your words are very comforting. I am getting with life, going out regularly but it is so hard-going to come back to an empty house. Like you Joystur, I often feel like I am going through the motions, but I guess there is no option but to keep going. Today for some reason I felt tears coming to me in the middle of Tesco’s, which was inconvenient to say the least. I am still finding mornings really difficult and anything new that I have to do without my late partner is fraught with panic. At least the sun is out today, which is unusual for a bank holiday. It is a challenge to find pleasure in things but I do enjoy the sunshine. May you all have as good a day as possible in the circumstances. xxx
Tears in supermarket are so upsetting and unexpected Susy, know what you mean. Has happened to me a few times and I felt so stupid, just wanted to drop the shopping and get home quickly. I find wearing a mask does help that situation as there’s somewhere for your tears to drain to, plus not all of your face is showing so not so noticeable! Hope your sun’s still shining, ours has gone home, and hope you get through the day okay. x