My mum passed away this Monday. My brother phoned me to tellā¦i ran straight to my mum.i lay ,stroking and kissing herā¦
Im heartbroken.cant stop crying.cant sleep.i need my mum.oh god this hurts so much. 
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Im so sorry x I lost my mum on the 6th January and itās really hard. Iām here if you need to talk xx
Iām here too.
I lost my Dad in July and my Mum in November last year.
Iām so exhausted , I have a sinking feeling in my stomach all the time, canāt sleep, concentrate or eat.
I feel like this will never end .
Here if I can help anyone .
I donāt know about anyone else on here, but 1 day fades into another. Not much changes really. Iām still in the same flat that I shared with mum since 82. Canāt go to work or get full financial support. Life just hell!
Hi Keith66
That sounds so tough. I hope positive change comes your way soon. Itās so hard to see a way out when we are stuck in this cycle of grief and hurt. Youāre not alone.
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Yea I know, all we can do is live day by day and hope things improve for us in all sorts of ways. Itās not just grief but thereās a whole raft of things that come with it. We just donāt think or realize what the full fallout is when we lose someone really close to us.
Finding life hard today. Grief comes in waves for me, the silent phone is a killer.
I spoke with my parents every day. Lost them both within 4 months.
No idea how to process this.
Hiding in a book today.
I think doing things to distract you is without a doubt a key element. I took that same thinking on board. You have to do whatever is important to get you by.
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I understand how you feel, its so difficult to comprehend, my mum died yesterday morning and I really donāt know what to do?if you want to connect with me and maybe we can help each other?all i want to do is see my mum again and tell her how much I love her 
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Hi im new here.I lost my parents 9 days apart before xmas.I just dont know how to act or cope at moment.
Give yourself plenty of time to grief and to get on top of things. Lifeās not a race, so you go at your pace, no one elseās. If you got good people round you then use them. Failing that thereās always here but dealing with death is a personal journey tailored made to the individual.
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You going to think about them, you canāt avoid that. Someone told me once that your parents live in in you and I think there might be some truth to that. Keep posting!
@Annie139 I totally relate to what youāre saying. I lost my mum on 6th January and although the initial shock has subsided now, Iām still finding it hard to adapt to this new life Iāve been handed. I lived with mum and am an only child so everythingās been on my shoulders and itās overwhelming.
Most of the practical informing people stuff has been done now and i really donāt know how i got through but think i was on autopilot.
Grief coming in waves is exactly how it is for me as Iāll be reasonably ok, then it will hit me from nowhere. That happened yesterday evening. I still havent cleared mumās stuff from the bedroom as i canāt face it yet.
Iām actually registered disabled and dealing with the DWP as my situation has changed has been stressful in itself. The way ive explained it to people is that my brain is like a fairground carousel at the moment with all these things going round and round saying ādeal with me, deal with meā, but my brain will only allow me to do a couple of things
Hi @Keith68
Iām in pretty much the same situation. I lived with mum since 1997 and am an only child. My mum passed on 6th Jan and since then ive just been in a foggy blur. I managed to deal with the practical informing people stuff and i really dont know how i got through that.
For me, the grief comes in waves which make me feel completely lost and alone. I recently got notification from the council that ive been awarded tenancy succession. This was bitter sweet for me as it means ive got somewhere to live but itās also highlighted the fact that mumās not here and that Iām alone
I really understand you, My mum passed in August 23, like you I had lived with mum since birth basically. I like you took this property on after mum had passed. I didnāt know how to respond to becoming the tenant. I remember telling a neighbour about it and she was happy for me. At the time there was a lot of work needed doing and I saw that as a mountain to climb. But yes itās not the same since mum passed, it never will be either for me or you. I think I said earlier you do need to give yourself plenty of time. Do things when you can, gradually deciding what you going to keep and what you notā¦ Itās going to take though! Iāve had to deal with quite a serious health thing too so my life been turned upside down.
I totally understand. I have rheumatoid arthritis and dealing with the dwp for myself let alone all the stuff to do with mum has been so stressful.
At the moment, my brain is only able to deal with a couple of things a day before i get totally stressed and exhausted but Iām kind of working out what my new limitations are.
For me itās building my life what I got left and then dealing with the consequences. They say we get a life review when we pass. I belong to a spiritual group on FB.
So sorry for your loss. All I can say is take each day as it comes and do whatever you feel is right. There is no right and wrongs .
Take care .
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Hi CatDaddy71
Iām so sorry for your loss.
There is no right or wrong way in grief, and no rush to clear your mumās room. Do things at your pace , and do what feels right for you.
Iāve started staying in bed a wee but longer, just to shorten the days .
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