my brother was murdered

Hi everyone, my name is Rudi

i’m a little lost. I was at an age where i started to walk away from friends not intentionally mainly down to me spending all my time with my family and work . as a result of that a lot of my time was invested in my little brother. which i’d not change for the world. we’d go to the gym together, days out with my children. I’d talk to him every day, messaging , funny videos or on the phone. i was 35 and he was 21. i served in the british army and i used everything i was taught to help educate him and inspire him to be the best he could be

unfortunately he was taken away from me, unexpectedly. He was killed by a friend the morning after boxing day in said friends home . it’s plain as day what happened. he had no self defence marks on him and he was beaten badly and didn’t survive. no marks on the friend. It was only him and the individual who is being invested together in that house and is on bail whilst the investigation is still on. even though it’s 2 years in December.

so much too my story and his. we have been met with a ridiculous amount of police incompetence. from them telling passers-by it was a young man who had passed because of a cardiac arrest. — completely wrong, but fuelled a fire around our small town.

i’m not sure what i want or need from talking to others but i have such a weight on my back i’m slowly losing my mind.

thank you for reading a small part of my story. if anyone one has any advice or been through something similar. thank you


Hello @bryceRb,

I can see that you’re new to the community so I wanted to say thank you for reaching out - I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. You may want to connect with @blackheart whose sister was sadly murdered. You can read her thread here: My sister was murdered

You may be in touch with them already, but if not, you might want to get in touch with SAMM (Support After Murder or Manslaughter). They offer support by phone and by text on 0121 472 2912, or you can text them on 07342 888570.

We also offer free counselling if you feel some one-to-one support might help. You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

I just wanted to share these resources with you - I hope you find the community to be a support to you, too.

Take good care,