Hi Lee Lee,
Was just going to reply to you when your message came through.
Hope today has been good to you.
I sensed a relief in your previous message about your parents house…like you have been holding your breath and now can exhale a little easier…having said that though it’s such a emotional thing to go through not just the never ending paperwork but all the emotions it brings up…I’m so glad that part you have been able to put some closure on it now - do forgive if not quite wording I’d hate to be insensitive at all .
I got a small tree out and lights but it came to a holt as I ended up in hospital with kidney infection…was waiting in A& E for over 12 hours just to see the doctor ( my own gp sent me there as said I looked dreadful and needed more bloods etc that only hospital can do ) I was being sick so wasn’t able to keep medication down…I’m home now but feeling very tired…I’ve also been given a steroid inhaler that have to take am and pm…so few health things have been up in the air …sorry if I’ve already told you this ramble I can’t remember what said and haven’t…this was 2 weeks ago on Friday.
I am thinking of getting tree or just decorating the small one tommorrow or Friday…I think if I don’t do it soon I will think won’t be worth it…as I always take decorations down news year eve ( I’m not a new year eve or new year day fan ) gosh do I sound like moaning on hope not…sometimes atm it’s laugh or cry.
I managed to do the 2 hour volunteer work that I do this am but gosh I feel exhausted so quickly…have to really pace myself…I always find the loneliness can hit more the next day when been with people…I find that very uncomfortable…the silence becomes even more louder if that makes sense ? I’m the only one in volunteer group and few friends that is on their own and very little family…I hope I’m making sense I feel I’m rambling everything out so tired.
I read how you put about going to places by yourself…I think that’s amazing! I took myself to a show in September drove there by myself ,went into 2 pubs my myself ,watched the show then drove back ( got very lost though ! 2 hours turned into nearly 3 and half …but main thing is I did it! Was a very big thing for me to do that and somedays I think did I really do that by myself, so glad I did though.
Today ( so far ) has been a better grief day but tomorrow it could be another storm grief day where I feel I’m really struggling with it…I think more get near Christmas eve and day I will get more storms …guess I need to just keep adjusting the sails to it …or some saying like that ??.
I find baths a good way try to ’ Just be’ too…have to have music podcast on though …never silence…I can struggle with the self care thing though … I too now understand what means by being kind to yourself it’s so important but not always easy to do…my self esteem isn’t great at all…trying to work on it…I’m very much a work in progress.
Have a rambled too much ? Do say…I know I can really ramble.
Will leave it here for now.
Again, I hope you found some kindness and comfort in your day-s xx