I know how you feel. We were married 34 years, no children and now I’m totally one. Completely understand your feelings - I feel just the same.
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Hi. I have adult children , and still have people living with me .so I am not alone . But still feel very lonely without my hubby . We were always US . now I’m nobody . I miss and love him more and more each day . And always will . So sorry for your loss . It does help posting on this site . People understand without judging . Thinking of you xtake carex
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So sorry for your loss too. I feel I don’t want to go on living x
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I know how you feel . And one day we will be with our partners . Till then we just have to plod on and take it a day at a time . Or an hour at a time . Sending a big hug . Xtake carex
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Thank you and I believe that, but my late husband was an atheist unfortunately.
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Hi that doesn’t matter . We will be with them one day . when it’s our time to go . We have to believe that. Only thing that helps us to keep on keeping on . Xtake carex
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It’s all just so sad for us all… I’ll pray we find a little peace from the utter devastation…x
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I am now having horrible thoughts like I shall never hear his voice again or see his smile. Having real trouble coming to terms.
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I’ve learnt a little trick: I attach 2 words to a really good memory of her and then use those as a mantra: mine are horses and dogs. If I say that over and over the sadness ebbs away. I don’t know why it works but for me it does.
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Hi . Yes it is so hard thinking of what we have lost and how do we survive . Our partners will always be with us in our hearts and thoughts . I know that is not enough . We want them here with us . I didn’t think I would survive a day without my husband . Now nearly a year and I’m still here . It’s not easy , or nice, or what I want . But surprisingly we find the strength from somewhere. Hopefully we all find a way . And some peace to get through each day . Thinking of you ALL. Sending hugs x xtake carex
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I will try your trick. My husband was an engineer and loved all jobs around the house and it may sound silly but I shall therefore think of a hammer and chisel.
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I hope that works for you, I say mine out loud. I think it might be a form of CBT not that I ever studied that.
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I’m the same…. I just can’t believe my life as I knew and loved it, is over. My baby and had plans that will never happen…. It’s a crushing realisation every day… sending you love x❤️
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I am having a total meltdown this morning why has god let me wake up again I do not want to be here. If he cannot join me I have to join him I am so lonely and have no one to talk to I have tried everything talking to various help lines I feel I cannot go on everyday like this. I am to old to work and I cannot face anyone as the panic attacks start I am on medication but this does not seem to be helping I have contacted the GP but he says stay on the same medication. As I have said no point being here.
Jessica
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Jessica, I know exactly how you feel. My husband of 34 years passed last Friday and I want to be with him. He needed me here and he needs me there, and I him. This is so cruel. I have no other family and just don’t want to be here. Christine
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My partner died last October 2021 there was a farm accident but he lived for 4 months and died of heart failure. I cry all day and am glad when my bed time comes as I can lie where he laid and medication gets me to sleep. I think I am to much of a coward to do anything but I do come very close as my life was his life. I just sit here everyday thinking of him I am lucky one friend rings me every night to make sure I am ok but I would like to say it gets easier some seem to cope with time on this sight but I am worse. I am letting everything go as no energy to do anything and cannot afford labour to help with things. I am so sorry for your loss you are still in the early stage and I do wish things improve for you.
Jessica
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You sound absolutely at the depths of despair and my heart goes out to you. It is a terrible feeling to be left like this, especially due to an accident. Do you have any religious faith which could help you through it x
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I woke up this morning thinking of you all here. It was at that time of day when dawn just makes itself known, A passing from darkness to light. The light always comes, totally reliably and somehow that gave me hope that one day I might find my way out of this dark place into the light. I tried visualisation, of being lost in a dark forest looking for the path but seeing dawn’s early light in the distance guiding me towards hope.
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Hi@IanWilson @Nigel2 I believe in some sort of god but I am unable to go out much as the the tears never stop. The only place I have to go is the supermarket. I live a mile from anyone so see know one and have to drive to get anywhere. I may move when probate comes through as there are so many complications where I live and cannot share them on here
Jessica
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