Hi Gtracer, sorry for your loss. I do exactly the same, we have cinema seats, 2 together with storage in the middle. Just recently when I doze off while watching tv, I wake up and its like he’s still there, but he’s not. Its devastating, its only been 6 weeks, just don’t know how I’m going to do it x
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Hi Willow112, sorry for your loss. Ah that’s awful. I woke early hours when my husbands cold arm fell across me, it was terrible but on the other hand a blessing that he just drifted off and wasn’t suffering. My husband had a history of heart problems and had 4 stents in but hadn’t been poorly and not seen a doctor for ages, so still so sudden and a shock.
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Hi Jae1604, sorry for your loss. Even though it is so sad, also a lovely way to go. Yes we did everything together too. I can relate to everything you’re saying and experiencing, and it is hard to try and think of a way to move forward and get to some kind of normal, whatever that is, but then I think it can’t be because he isn’t here anymore. I can’t think past the next day either. I’ve been trying to keep myself busy, but night times are hard. It’s nice to chat to people and no that others share similar thoughts, worries etc. There are so many questions now that I can’t answer, and not being able to say goodbye. I just feel empty, like I’ve lost my sparkle, and can’t see a way forward x
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Exactly the same for me Willow.
In bed, Saturday morning, after a lovely relaxed day in Salisbury. Fit and well, active, no history of heart problems, not overweight, never smoked. Its so hard to come to terms, with even now nearly 20 weeks on.
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So very sorry xx
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Oh my, We had just got home from a couple of nights staying in a little house on the river in Salisbury!
How strange. My husband had his cardiac arrest on Sunday 5th May. He went to hospital but never came out of the induced coma, and died 3 weeks later on 25th May.
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For us it happened the following Saturday, the 11th. I can’t get my head around it. I have lovely pictures of us in the grounds of what was my old college ( in the Cathedral close) that we took on Friday 10th.
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It’s just so hard however it happened, even if you had the chance to say goodbye, my husband wasn’t expected to die, and by the time the doctors told us, he had deteriorated to the point where he was on a lot of pain relief and wasn’t capable of having a coherent conversation. I feel for all of us that are going through this unbearable pain, I hope that one day we’ll all be able to look back at the good times without feeling the pain. Love to you all x
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I can’t bear to look at the photographs taken during our break. They are still on the SD card next to his laptop. We walked from our accommodation through Cathedral Close to the cathedral and had coffee sitting at the tearooms.
A beautiful place, now spoiled by sad memories. I can’t see me ever returning.
Xx
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Hello everyone. What am I to do? It’s going to be a year on 16th October since I lost my gorgeous loving husband Kev. It’s all a blur the first 6/7 months. Where has the time gone. I’ve been in my black hole as I call it now (the grief hole). I’m slowly, slowly emerging from it but it’s so hard to carry on without him by my side. One minute I’m going to do this the next I’m going to that and I never achieve anything. My brain isn’t what it was, I’m forgetful, clumsy I’m just not me. Will I ever come back I ask myself over and over again. You all understand how I’m feeling and it’s good to write it down. Oh dear what are we now empty shells of what we were once.
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It’s going to be a year for me on the 23rd October it doesn’t get any easier does it .I spend a lot of time on my own on the odd occasion when I’m with others it’s a bit better I am 68 and don’t work it’s very hard to keep busy
I just keep dragging myself along in hope that one day I might feel better with my own company
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I feel your loneliness, my husband passed 6 weeks ago, We were each others world and did everything together. It is lonely now and I also struggle with this
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So sorry you have had to join this sad club,the people on this forum have been so supportive at times I was so down it was almost impossible,but some lovely people took my virtual hand and helped me along,I hope we can help you too.
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So very sorry.
Sending a big hug xx
7 weeks for me Sharon, and the same as you we did everything together, it’s so lonely. I miss him so much. Please reach out if you want to chat. Sending love and hugs x
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Hi gtracer I’m so sorry for your loss, I totally understand, I lost my husband 14 weeks ago he was 52 I don’t have much family and no friends either, feeling very lonely …
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It’s so hard, I’m happy to chat if ever you want to.
Thank you, how are you getting on?
Sorry for your loss
Sending you a hug
I feel like I’m just existing, I’m doing all the things I’m supposed to but that’s it. How are you?