The same as you really, do you work ? I just get through 1 day at a time,weekends are the worst
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No I don’t work, I was lucky enough my husband had a very good job so I never needed to, I totally understand the weekend thing I dread them too.
It’ll be a year for me on 13th October. I just can’t believe that a whole year has passed. I’ve kept myself busy for much of it, sorting out problems and possessions, but can’t bear it that the nights are getting longer again.
That’s something I’m so worried about, the long nights.
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Yes, they are hard. I try to go to bed earlier and just sleep through them.
I’m really not sleeping much at the moment, I’ve been to see my GP and she has given me something to help, but I don’t feel like it’s doing much.
They take a while to kick in; cumulative effect. I’m on mirtazapine, and it took a while for it to start working.
Yes that’s what I’m taking, only been on them just over a week so maybe need some more time. Do they help?
They’ve literally changed my life. I was missing up to 3 whole nights of sleep a week, and now I get 7 hours every night. Miracle-workers. But it took a fortnight before they worked properly.
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This is such a hard road to tread Sharon. You are not alone. Many of us here are going through this agony. It is so lonely. We have to keep going but it is so lonely.
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Yes I know exactly how you are feeling. It is 2 months since I lost my beloved Peter. We had 28 wonderful years together he was my husband, ny best friend and my soul mate. Like you my life revolved around him. In fact I nursed him for 6 years so every day was full of ensuring his needs were met and he was happy. It was a privilege to care for him. So life now is completely empty but I am trying to do what I know he would want. I am forcing myself to go out with friends and hopefully one day I will find I am enjoying it. That is all we can do really, try snd move forward as our loved ones would want. But know you are not alone in how you are feeling.
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8 weeks today, it’s crazy it feels like yesterday and so long ago, that I saw his face light up when our 2 year old grandson came to visit him in hospital, the day before he died. I miss him so much it’s unbearable. Everyday that I don’t see his face, hold his hand, hug him is torture.
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I lost my husband suddenly to heart attack in April he was my 3rd time lucky hubby after 2 previous crap marriages ! We were together nearly 24 years but only had 17 months of marriage after we eloped secretly to Gretna Green .
I didn’t think I would be a widow age 56 and I didn’t think I would be collecting anti depressive tablets with my HRT patches ! The pharmacist must really think I am over reacting to the menopause !
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My husband died of a heart attack in March. He was 52, fit and no illness beforehand. The shock still takes my breath away every day x
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I have lost two fit and healthy husbands, both to cardiac arrests. Neither had any history of heart conditions. My first husband was an athlete who ran competitively and trained every day, he died whilst out running. My second husband died 4 months ago, he had a cardiac arrest in bed, next to me. I was married 28 years, met my second husband four years later, he was a widower, we were married for 16 years.
I should be better at being a widow, but I am not.
Xx
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I understand.
My husband was older but it was March, sudden, died almost instantly, and unexpectedly next to me.
It still seems unbelievable. I still cry and want him back.
Sending hugs xx
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Just wondering if anyone feels the same, I feel like as the days and weeks go by I’m finding it harder to cope, is this normal?
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Totally. My husband passed away 12 weeks ago. We were married for 24 years but together since we were students 46 years ago. I had no children and my family is a long way away. I feel terribly lonely …
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Totally understand what you say. My husband was my everything - his passing was so fast and unexpected that there was mo time to process or talk. It is nearly 13 weeks for me. I know he has gone, but it is still difficult to believe.
I’m coming up to 7 months after my husband died of a heart attack with no warning. So sorry you have to here. Sending love x
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