My son died on the 1st of march 2025
It was suddenly of a heart attact only 28 years old i wake up with chest pains i cant think or eat well or sleep i sit in darkess in my room as soon as my eyes open it painfull
What can i do
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Dear Alan
So sorry. So young and so recent. There are no words.
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Alan,
So sorry for your tragic loss of your wonderful son…
I lost my son at 27, 18 months ago, sudden Arythmic.
You are in the rawness now and all you can do is take it minute by minute and then hour by hour. You cant rush grief.
You will cry many rivers.
Just do what you feel comfortable with, no rules.
This site helps and there are others who know the pain sadly.
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It’s very early days for you.
I’m very sorry for the loss of your son. There are no words to help.
I lost my eldest son on 8th November. We’ve just found out he had ischaemic heart disease but it hadn’t been diagnosed. He was 40.
I still cry most days.
I would say that at first it just didn’t seem real, it does now but sometimes there’s a flash of thought where it’s like oh he’s away somewhere I’ll speak to him later …
Grief is different for everyone, just do what you need to to get through 1 day at a time.
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Alan
I lost my beautiful 31 year old daughter on the 9.2.25 nearly a month ago . I feel like you can’t function properly eat or sleep . I sob most days it just doesn’t seem real that I will never see her again . I feel so angry at the world and wonder how I will learn to live again without her . It’s the most awful feelings .
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I’m very sorry.
It will be 17 weeks tomorrow that I lost Ben.
I’m still angry.
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Thank you . I can actually hear my husband sobbing upstairs. The grief is getting worse by the day .
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Oh bless him and you, it’s so so hard and raw and unbelievable in the beginning.
The human body and mind is an amazing thing. You have to go through it sadly as we all have and are still but to me it’s like being in a never ending ocean of massive waves and you have to learn to swim. You wont believe you will or can at the moment but take the time you need, grief has no timeline, it becomes part of you.
Be gentle with yourselves.
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Thank you for your kind words .
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Dear Alan so sorry , i lost my son in December 24 and its like a part of you has been pulled out of your chest isnt it , explaining the pain is always difficult and all i can say i’m thankful there’s sites like this to exchange feelings with other like minded people. Keep chatting it helps a little which is better than nothing at all . God bless .
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I lost my 41 year old daughter on 26/11/24. I found her dead, she had a spontaneous intracranial haemorrhage. I cry every day I miss her so much . We spoke 3 or 4 times a day and saw one another at least 3 or 4 times a week usually every day. The more you loved the person the deeper the grief. I feel like there is a massive hole in me. I can feel okayish until a wave of grief comes and knocks me over and I sob and wail. The one thing that has helped me is talking on this site.
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Hi Bam my deepest sympathies on your loss .
The phrase it’ll get better over time from people who have no idea what its like does become tedious but completely understand that’s all they can think to say , wouldn’t my deepest sympathy be better .
Keep coming on here Bam it’ll help a little im sure
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Hi Alan.
My son Alex died suddenly in October 24. He died in Turin. His heart stopped. His partner phoned for the ambulance, But he didn’t make it to the hospital. He was 34. Fit and active. It’s the hardest thing imaginable. But would our loved ones want to see us sitting in misery, our lives ruined? I don’t think so. I am getting through it by keeping busy. I am retired, I have a wife a daughter and 3 grandkids. I had. Lots of hobbies, but the joy has gone out of them. I still do things, because it’s better than not doing things. I’ve always liked gardening. This year I’m going to make it sparkle for my son. Dedicate your life to him… We are not going to get over it. We just learn to cope. Sometimes when you think you’re coping the pain ambushes you. But you have to carry on , particularly if you have other family members who are suffering. You don’t want to make their life worse by having to worry about you. Sorry, I just realised that I am saying YOU this YOU that. I mean myself. The joy has gone from my life but I feel I have a duty to cope for the sake of my wife , daughter, and my son’s partner. Best of luck Alan. I feel your grief.
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You’re talking a lot of sense.
I know exactly what you mean by the pain suddenly ambushing us. Completely random.
I try to keep busy but my concentration has gone at the moment.
I have 3 other sons and my son has an 8 year old. My focus now we have a cause of death is trying to establish why no drs picked up his heart disease.
I know it won’t change anything but I also know my son didn’t back down from a fight so I’m doing it for him.
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