I’m so very sorry for your loss, @Lin22. I lost my husband in November. He went downstairs in the morning to make a phone call, I was less than a minute behind him and found him sitting on the settee unconscious. No warning, no pain, no breathlessness, no sound. It was as if someone literally pulled the plug out of the socket. The pain when it hits is agonising and I sob and sob then feel better afterwards. I’m glad he didn’t suffer at all but it’s difficult seeing my children and grandchildren in so much pain. Luckily we are very close and have been a great support to each other along with my sister. You will always have support on here so please keep posting and reading. Love to you all. Jean.
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Youre very lucky jean you got that support ! I wish i had thst 
my sisters ran a mile after he passed away ! I feel like everybody put an effort in before he passed and since then they just left me to fend for myself My mum has been very good recently though and is supporring me ! I have a nice neighbour too who is keeping an eye on me as she knew my husband . What a shock you must’ve tve had finding your husband like that so sorry xx
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I loss my husband of 46 years 8 months ago
I am not the same since my husband died and I still feel like crying and I am sad most of the time . I am in counseling but is not helping, I get angry sometimes Because we were together a significant part of your daily life, makes hard not having him around. I missed him.
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I agree - its like some strange new world you have been thrust into !!! A world that you didn’t want either ! I miss him every day cos he was my sweetheart ! Its so sad isnt it ? Think we’re part of the “can’t sleep” brigade ? xx
It’s nearly 8 weeks since I lost the love of my life my heart is aching so much seems to be getting worse some days I just want to curl up and die when I’m outside people ask how I’m coping and I say I’m getting there but I’m not, I loved him so much the pain is unbearable x
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I know Lin22 - about same tome for me too - about 10 weeks for me ! He passed on december 16th … i will never forget that date now its so lonely without them isnt it ? I miss his voice , his presence, his care every single blinking thing about him xxx
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My heart goes out to you my husband died 3 January we had one of the best Christmas’s ever he was taken I’ll on the 29 December was rushed to hospital but seemed to be getting better , we were texting each other back and forth both saying how much we loved each other that’s one good thing being able to look at what we said to each other until 30 mins before he died which came as a shock he had a massive heart attack and didn’t recover 
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I also lost my wife in January, after being together 47 years,and married for 40 years,I have the same feeling of not wanting to go on without her, life just seems a waste of time now, my family have made me promise to stay, but I am finding it hard to keep that promise.
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@Deb5
Hi, when it comes to counselling do you find you’re any where near getting any, I have tried and got nowhere, it’s hard when you have no one to talk to and all the thoughts go round and round and nobody you know wants to talk about it, my brother lives down the road but not close, losing my mind
@Phil.3
Hi mate, it stinks, I know it’s life but never thought it would be this tough, met my wife I was 18 she was 16 and together ever since, just feel so lost
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About the same,we met when we were 25 and had been together ever since,I find myself walking in to the house and still find her there,but sadly she never is, look after yourself
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They said 6/8 weeks with sue ryder … waiting list you can always go private e you know if u can afford it ? Works out about £50 a session. And i know with family ! They really dont help do they ? it is crazy all thoughts u have. Im reading a really good by sasha bates called language of loss - she describes perfectly how we feel. I ordered it from wh smiths and got a few weeks ago xxx
Aw liin22 ;(
I’ve never felt grief like it even to messaged I’ve tears in my eyes just want him back and I know that’s impossible x
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In a way we are counselling each other nobody knows what we’re going through unless they have experienced it them self just to read your posts makes me feel I’m not alone and I can say what I need to and that I thank you all x
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I know @Lin22 I would never have imagined how painful losing my husband would be. We knew we didn’t want to be without the other one but I still could not imagine this level of loss.
I agree with you that we are counselling each other on here. We can write whatever we are feeling and gain knowledge and understanding from each other.
Hugs xxx
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Hi i am still waiting for counselling through heart of kent Hospice seems to be taking so long my husband was under their care and he passed away 4 months ago
I feel for you i lost my lovely wife of 52 years in June.I find it hard to cope at times but try to involve myself with any social invitations i am asked to.
One suggestion on Facebook there are groups of people who meet weekly for a coffee and a chat. Most are bereaved so understand how you feel. My group is called Talking Tables and meets in Costa coffee. We have become friends its not sad we have a laugh and are now doing other things together like quiz nights. These types of groups are setting up all over see if there is one near you join your local Facebook group. Give it a go i really enjoy it and it has lifted my spirit. Good luck.
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So sorry for the loss of your wife i have facebook and will have a look on there . Take care of your self
Chase it up sue … thsts a long time xx