That’s exactly what I do. I can tell people here anything and it helps immensely. Otherwise I would just bottle it all and I doubt that would be healthy
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No tts definitely not good to bottle things up
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@Sherbet10
I have a slightly different view of Mail addressed to my wife and I mention it in case it helps, but I accept we are all different.
When I lost my wife I spent several weeks informing the various organisations and agencies which had to be notified so they could erase her from their records. It broke my heart to think that her precious life could so easily be deleted and forgotten.
She always received catalogues and other advertising Mail but I haven’t done anything about those because, for me, it keeps her existence alive.
In fact I renewed a subscription to one of her magazines recently because it maintains a sort of normality. It has crosswords and puzzles which I enjoy and she always passed it on to a friend which I continue to do.
Take care.
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That is actually lovely mate
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I must admit I hadn’t thought of it that way . The mail I am getting is main financial stuff . It just reminds me my husband no longer here .
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How’s it going Whisky? Days can be so long….. I think I’m turning into a grumpy old woman already - I want to see people but once I am with them, I just want to be on my own talking to Mick…. So good to have this group x
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The days can be long I try to keep busy and go out . It’s the weekend s I find hard especially Sunday I never know what to do with myself. This group is so good for letting your feelings out
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How you day going
Thinking of you
I definitely will Eddie, yours and everyone’s support means so much 
I’ve just had another dip - or wave. My nephew, who I adore and Mark adored and who adores us back, is starting a new job and has to go away on a training course first. I’ve just found out it’s next week so, as it stands he will miss the funeral. He is one of the main people I wanted alongside me for support. And I was going to ask him if he would sleep over afterwards, so I wasn’t on my own. I’m so sad about this. It’s been another busy day and I really could have done without this news.
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Sorry to hear that Helren, a big disappointment for you. Stay strong, we are all here for you. Sorry I’m having a major dip this evening. At 6.15pm this evening it was exactly 12 weeks since my darling Ray left us… I’m so sad and heartbroken all over again. I didn’t mean to hijack your post and make it all about me, but please know I’m thinking of all of us on this awful path we’re on..
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Thats so sad for you and for him too.he must be feeling really upset about it .
Im sure he will do his best to be there.
It must be something he cant rearrange.
I always think when youve slept on it ,it wont seem so bad .thinking about you.
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Sorry to hear that I am sure if he could find a way to be at the funeral he be there as he would as he will know how much it means to you both . Try to stay strong
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Do you know what, nearly every time I reply to a post I worry that I’ve made it all about me. I think it’s because we can feel each other’s pain that we tend to respond with our own
I’m so sorry that you are struggling tonight too. You think of me, and I’ll think of you x
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Eddie I am just like you…I go to bed and I think of our honeymoon in Wales our Cornish holidays and the Dales and I relive going in the shops whilst Selwyn stands outside with the dogs …and everyone would be outside talking to him and fussing the dogs. Today I went to our local country park…first time without him…I walked my dogs 2x2 but kept avoiding people as I didn’t want to talk. I stood outside the cafe and had a hot chocolate and sausage roll which we were having only 5 weeks ago and I burst into tears in front of a couple…they were lovely to me. Went in a shop and saw Easter eggs aaahhh nightmare as he loved Spring and Easter..Eddie how do we get through this…I managed quite well a couple of weeks ago but now it’s real and I feel dreadful
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It was definitely something I could have done without hearing after an emotional day. I’m hoping against hope that a miracle will happen. Probably not, but I will try not to dwell on it tonight. Our poor Jonny will be gutted himself definitely.
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Hellenic I have a niece who I am really close to and she’s had a really severe mental illness….shes never been ill before and she doesn’t even know me or recognise me so I know how you feel not to have someone close to be with you
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He would, I’m sure. He will be upset not to be there, our whole family will be.
That’s awful, I’m so sorry. Nieces and nephews are so special.
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I am glad you got out in the fresh air and went to a place you like . The first time you do anything on your is always hard . But you did and you should be proud of yourself. You are so much like me and husband . Our dogs were a big part of our lives days out with . Cottage holidays with them .
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Sorry your struggling tonight , it’s 4 months next week since I lost my husband I have been on downer today . Hope you manage to get some sleep tonight
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