Thank you Eddie. Another accurate description I use is brutal, because it absolutely is. Take good care of yourself, our signs will come 
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My husband died suddenly 3 months ago , I feel your pain and understand what you are going through .
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I also find the morning hard , I am a bit further on than you 3 months ago. For me the weekend s are the worst especially Sunday s
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Sunday my worst day too, I can’t stop the tears. It was our special day and we’d lock the door and spend all day together. I miss him so so much, my heart is aching from the pain
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Hello Yvonne, I’m so sorry for your loss, I feel your pain. My husband died in his sleep, we had no warning, he wasn’t unwell, it’s an utter shock when you wake up and the one you love has gone forever. As you say, no goodbyes, or final I love you’s, no time to prepare for the future.
Mark was 58, it’s coming up to a year soon, but it isn’t any easier for me.
I send you my love, take care of yourself xx
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We would also do that on a Sunday, we would call it lockdown. Nobody in or out just me and Gill
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Is it any easier 3 months on? I can’t bare the thought of this torture day in day out and never getting any easier
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Eddie
Three months on , I spent the first month hiding away not wanting to talk to anyone only my son and daughter in law . I was talking the dog out , although some time in tears .
I then went back to my swimming which has helped me . I also started going out and started going out . I thought the tears had stopped but they were back yesterday . As I said Sunday s are hard for me as it was our special day .
I have been told take one day at a time, and every thing at your own pace
Take care
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Eddie Just know that I am with you through this tough time.
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Thanks Peter, it has been another tough horrid day. Ive lost count on the times I have fell to pieces through the day. Im sat on sofa watching through the front window expecting her to come in from work but she dosent. I know torturing myself like this docent help but I can’t help it. I need all this to stop because its so cruel.
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Sorry you’re had tough day , I used watch the door for my husband. So I had to find a distraction . So I started walking the dogs at that time . If you don’t have dogs , if you’re up to it . How about a walk round the block the fresh air might help
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Hi Sherbet I love walking and might do that, have a walk round block now it’s dark. I can’t go in daylight in case I bump into someone I know and I have to go all over it again. I ventured to the shop at 7am the other morning and thought id be ok until the lady behind the kiosk asked if I was all ready for Christmas.
Yes a now it’s a right pain , when people ask about Christmas . And also if you see someone you know and you have to tell people . It somehow brings things back and makes it worse
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It’s like torture, isn’t it? Minute by minute torture. I decided to sit on the settee under a blanket and watch the Celebrity Masterchef final from last week. I sat through it, but it just kept reminding me of all the meals Mark used to make for me that he will never be able to do again. And now it’s dark and I don’t what to do with myself for the rest of the night. Do you find that everything you used to like to do feels pointless now?
We have to go and do a formal identification of his body tomorrow and I am terrified. A mutual friend is going to see him first and then I’ll decide at the time based on what advises. More torture.
I’m so sorry that, yet again, I don’t have anything positive to add, Eddie. But it helps me feel less alone knowing that other people are going through the same sort of feelings as I am right now. I hope it helps you too, even a little bit. Take care.
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I’m am so sorry for your pain I lost my husband on 6/12/25 I constantly cry and as you say unbearable pain and want to end it all. Reason I don’t is the pain my family would have to go through. Please take care xxx
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Hi HelRen, please don’t say sorry I’m not sure if you did have anything positive to say it would help at the moment. I find the daytime the worst, Gill always had things we had to do, I never had a moments peace and I loved it and would give anything to have that back. The night time now I try and watch something on tv but then go to bed so early because whilst I’m asleep there is no pain.
OMG im so sorry you have that tomorrow. I also would be terrified, I’m going to say a little prayer for you tonight, I don’t do many. I hope you get through tomorrow relatively unscathed. Il check on you tomorrow if you don’t mind. You take care too
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So sorry for your loss. The negative feelings are overwhelming but as you say family. Please take care
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We all have each other’s backs. Take care. We’re going to have to take baby steps to keep going
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Thank you so much, that means a lot. Please do check in, I’d appreciate it. Take care.
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I am so sorry for your loss hang in there ,take small steps . I also felt like what’s the point of carrying on . As you say family and there the ones that will help you get through this as well as the people on here . Who are also on this painful journey .
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