I dreamt about both mum and dad separately after they passed away . My sister said it was their way of letting us know they were ok . Sadly since then my sister has passed away I have never dreamt of my sister
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Hi Eddie i was like you desperate to drram about Colin, my therapist said it was because he was on my mind all day .my daughter bought me a dream catcher which we laughed about .but i think i relaxed about it and after about 6 months i started having the odd dream ..
Hope you get your dream soon x
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Took me a few weeks before i told my daughter and she had her story too ..its very personal ..be lovely to dream every night ..
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Yes it is very special and personal. My son had a dream as well. I have given one of my husband s cars to my son . My husband does have another car , which we sell at some point when probate comes through. In my son dream my husband’s was telling my son what to do with the car . It took my son a few weeks before he told me . As he has never experienced anything like that before
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I’m so sorry for your loss of lovely Gill. I hope you’re getting strength from sharing your thoughts with others.
It’s comforting to know that we’re not alone.
It’s 4 weeks since my handsome Scott passed and it just feels so hard to carry on without him. I miss him more than life itself x
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They say time heals,
but what it really does is teach us how to live alongside the ache. 
At first, the missing feels unbearable.
Like something essential has been taken
and the world expects you to keep going anyway.
Every memory feels sharp,
every reminder too heavy to hold for long.
You wonder how anyone survives carrying this much love
with nowhere obvious to place it.
Then time moves—not kindly, not quickly,
just steadily.
It doesn’t erase the longing.
It doesn’t quiet the questions.
Instead, it teaches your hands where to rest the weight.
It shows you how to breathe around the absence
without pretending it isn’t there.
You learn that grief isn’t something to overcome.
It’s something to make space for.
It becomes part of the way you walk through days,
the way sunsets feel heavier,
the way certain songs still stop you mid-step.
And slowly, almost without noticing,
you grow stronger around it.
Missing someone forever doesn’t mean living in pain forever.
It means learning a new rhythm—
one where love and loss exist together.
Where joy returns, not as a replacement,
but as a companion that knows where you’ve been.
You laugh again.
You hope again.
And still, you miss them.
Both things can be true.
Some days the weight feels lighter.
Some days it presses down hard on your chest.
Neither means you are doing this wrong.
It only means you loved deeply,
and love doesn’t disappear just because time keeps going.
Time teaches you how to carry what never leaves.
It teaches you that the heart can stretch
without breaking.
That remembering is not weakness,
but proof of something meaningful that shaped you.
So if the missing still follows you,
if it always will,
let that be okay.
You are not meant to forget.
You are meant to carry it gently,
with grace,
with patience,
with the quiet understanding that this ache
exists only because love once lived here.
And that love,
even now,
still walks beside you. 
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This is put so beautifully and eloquently, and I’m an English teacher.
You perfectly put into words so many of my feelings, and explained so much of the unknown in the most poetic manner.
Thank you!
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It was something I found and I just keep reading it I thought i would share with everyone else. I am only a month today into losing my soulmate 
. I am sorry for your loss 
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I’m so sorry for your loss too lovely.
I’m 4 weeks in too.
sending love and hope xxx
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Mandyoz
Thank you for posting these beautiful meaningful words.
The grief I feel is because I loved Keith with all of my heart even though he is not with me I still go on loving him.
Take care only early days for you.
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Thank you so much Julia. Sending hugs and strength bad to you 
Thank you so lonely
This is so lovely. And gives hope and some understanding of how the future may look. Thank you xx
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Your welcome
@Mandyoz
Thank you so much for your Post. The words mean so much and give me hope for the future.
Did you happen to see Ben Fogle’s ‘New Lives In The Wild’ last night on Ch5? It was about Dave who found solace on a narrow boat after losing his wife 10 years ago. His life fell apart and at times he was homeless, but he has now found hope and renewal living with nature on the canals of Cheshire.
There were a lot of tears on the program but it was inspiring and his journey was very much along the lines of your Post.
He found a vision of what his life could be and somehow we have to do the same.
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No I am sorry I didn’t watch TV.
But it sounds good.
I found it comforting I cried well reading the words x and I am so sorry we all have to go through loss 
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Mandyoz,thank you so much for those lovely words, all so true too, thank you for sharing them with us.Take care.
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Your welcome
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I am having a very bad day today. So many tears so much rage and anger. I cryed that much I feel too sleepy sitting in my chair. My cat jumped on me and woke me up xx
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Mandyoz,I am so sorry you are having a bad day.it really is a rollercoaster we are on, thats how i find this horrible life without my dear wife beside me.she was taken so suddenly and unexpectedly.i get angry too, asking WHY? what have i done to deserve this, losing my dear loving caring wife.She was my world, my everything, now its just a life of sadness, emptyness and loneliness.I still cry coming back to the empty house even after nearly a year.i dont think i will ever get used to it.We have to do our best on this rollercoaster of grief.Take each step at a time, moment by moment.I so hope things will get better for us.Take carexx.
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