Oh Mandyoz, sending you hugs this evening. I had such a terrible day yesterday too. We never even celebrated Valentines day, Ray thought it was a load of old cobblers, but it’s one of the worst days I’ve had since he went. I have his ashes beside the bed, I got them back on our 26th Wedding Anniversary. I saw Cadburys Creme Eggs the other day, I bought them and put them on there with his Christmas card. He loved them. I don’t know what else to do, it’s just our little connection in some way.
This damn grief path we’re on is horrendous and so painful.
I think everyone celebrates Valentine’s in our own way even for people that say it’s load of old cobbler’s my partner used to use that saying sometimes so when you said it made me laugh. We used to just do silly things that didn’t involve spending money. And thank you Hun sending hugs x
Hi Sherbet, hope you’re ok? lovely to say hello to you. Sorry not been on, have dived into work which isn’t the best thing to do as more to life than that but you know what I mean
Well we know on here it’s good to talk. Think ive said so may times how much it has helped me. Il be interested to see how you get on. I so hope it helps
So do I , I went to a bereavement cafe last week contracted to a local church but run by a local hospice. It’s only once a month I felt so much lighter when I came out . Just by talking to people who understood
I’m moving soon, like this week. And today the greaf is taking me out. I can’t even get out of bed. I keep crying. This was supposed to be our 1st Valentine’s Day in our new state. I did go out to the gay bar so it was fun to be around other people. I wanted to bring my partner there with they was fine with. It’s been hard. I’m hoping once I move I can go to some in person berivemrnt group as well as here online. This group really helps me out. Thank you all for sharing and allowing me to comment from time to time. We will always love our partners, I think they know that. I think they’d be happy we have other people to help us on our greaf journey. Anyway I’m gonna get off here, gotta pack. Thank you everyone! Many hugs!
Good luck with the move hope it works out for you . And you manage to sort counselling . You’re right our partners would want us to spend our time with people. I often think what would my husband want me to do in various situations
Hope the move goes well doing that on top of your grief is a hard thing to do but do take care of yourself and be kind to yourself i know how hard valentines day is although its been 5yrs it still hurts we moved into our bungalow on valentines day 17yrs ago so that is why it can be hard on us but we need the memories to keep us going and keep us strong i am glad you went out and hope you has a good time .
Good luck in your move and always remember we are here for you
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