Hi Lynne,
I hope you are well. No worries, I know what you mean about feeling like you are stuck in a rut. I feel in some ways that I am stagnating and feel like I need a goal to work towards.
I hope between the sadness you get some days where you feel a bit better? I think it’s great that you are keeping up with the classes. It’s so difficult to feel motivated sometimes but I know I always feel worse when I’m in the house and not getting out.
I don’t blame you not going on the holiday. It would make me feel awkward if a friend had been upset that I wanted to do something for myself. Friendships can be complicated which is probably why I don’t have many! I just have select few people but more than happy to go off on hols on my own.
It must be really tough with work and deciding what to do. I can understand why you wouldn’t want to do that job after what happened with your dad. I think losing someone to terminal cancer is very traumatic and I don’t think I’m even fully aware of the impact that watching dad die has had on me. I know everyone will lose parents and loved ones but it isn’t something that many people I know have experienced. It is a big decision with work and I hope you find some peace with whatever decision you make.
My Dad would totally be shaking his head at my running, knee feels normal now but don’t want to chance it so just long walks for now.
Mum is very much more dependent on me. At Christmas I said I was fine with her staying as I thought we had plan for house and I said you need to do more independently like driving, go to the shop etc, it’s just not happened but my brother is more involved as he said he doesn’t want it affecting me negatively so we will see what happens.
It sounds like you have had lots of lovely family time recently. My brother and nephew arrived on wed and he ran straight over to me at the airport with a big hug, I thought he might be a bit shy but we picked up straight where we were at Christmas and I am definitely top aunt . The safari was fab, huge rhino Infront of the car, lions. Went through the baboons and only one jumped on the roof, my little nephew loved it. We also went for trip out to beach and for some lovely walks and meals. The weather has been lovely and warm so a really nice weekend. Going to book to visit them in July as he is off school so should be a really nice week.
This week I have to tackle mums hedge as it’s far too high. My aunty lives right behind her and suggested I do it so it doesn’t scratch my car but it felt like a low level complaint so I’ll try and get onto it this week. This is one of those where I feel clueless, dad said to get someone to do it but it’s not happened so looks like it will be my job!
The picture of your Dad is lovely. I love old photos.
Just remembered I saw work start on the new section at the cemetery and asked when I can select a plot for Dad. She said they were taking names and numbers of interested people as they have had lots of interest. Very frustrating as I have been going in since Nov to enquire! Hope I get a place for Dad.
I hope you have a good weekend. I’m going to get to bed, can’t believe how tiring it is chasing around a nearly 3 year old.
Sending lots of love.
Xxx