Hi Mike,
You are correct - it comes from within.
Definitely a mindset change. Acceptance is difficult but its what we need to do or get stuck in the quicksand! One positive thought in the morning can change your day.
G. X
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@Marg1 @JaneD and @Grandma. I’m not at the going away by myself stage yet but I have promised I’ll visit my daughter and her family for a few days which is a 4 hour drive. You are all an inspiration. xx
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Hi All
Yes my life ended when Paul passed away
How on earth do we register that
We ‘ll never speak,hear, see, our loved one again
I keep saying it but for all of us it’s horrible horrendous and lonely
Thank you all for being her for me
Xx
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@Bess1 It’s hard to bear the loss and I agree how do we register it? I still find it difficult after nearly 3 years. I think all of us on here will be there for you whenever you need to reach out to us. Because we all understand how it is. Take care and stay safe x
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People can be hurtful without realising…nobody knows what this is lije until it happens to them 
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Hi Lonely loved your post. myMy hubby and I met 1968 by which time I had seen the Beatles 3 times.Chris was singing playing guitar in the pub where we met" I saw her standing there".God I thought hes for me!!.Hey Jude was number 1 in the charts .Yes wish we could do it all again.Happy memories.x Our boy Mark who was 51 passed a year ago on 9th March.Music was totally his life his knowledge his vinyl collection unbelievable.Me and his music where his life.God my poor boy suffered.He had put a wonderful collection of cds for me over the years Bob Dylan Beatles Elvis Pink Floyd unfortunately I still am unable to play them.I cry alot of the time for my boy unbearable at times.I do so hope one day I can play his music because I know thats what he would want.
Continue to listen my love and think of the wonderful memories you and your hubby had.Yes we were young once happy times.Love Marg xx x
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@Lonely oh my, I know exactly what you mean. I was out for my walk today, thinking of when I was in my senior year of nursing school, and my beautiful husband to be was in Vietnam. We engaged before he left for a year. Brought me to remember the day he came home, such a glorious day. He was home. Then 10 days later we got married, such happiness, joy. Yes such precious memories, but makes me miss him even more. All this agony and pain.
Love and peace, Karen
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@Jan271 I think people say stupid things without thinking. Like my neighbor who decided she would give me a tutorial on grieving. Seriously. That is pure stupidity and not giving a second as to how her “insight” would be received. I understand there are some folks that just don’t know what to say. How about this——-say nothing!!
Karen
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@Lonely I am absolutely still thinking I’m in my 20’s although I will be 65 this year and have now decided I am starting to look like my Dad. I’ve even bought a cardigan but I remember the late 50’s and early 60’s because my siblings were older than me so I grew up with the Beatles and the Stones and my Dad was always into music so I have a lot of memories of 60’s music. I remember , after my Mother passed away in 2009, talking to my dad about when they met. He said they talked and then just danced and danced all night. A memory I will always treasure.
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My hubby loved his 50/60’s music. He is in the green burial site in Buddy Holly t-shirt with the other Eddy Cochrane shirt and a Beatles cd. He is tons of pictures , letters and cards from all of us in with him and 2 small canvas’s of our cats.
I am having a double size ashes willow casket for all the rest of our little personal keepsakes including all the jewellery he bought me and loads more pictures etc. Home from home when I am out in with him. He is buried and I have to be cremated to go in the same plot. He is now wearing my wedding ring and I am wearing his. Together always and I always cover the plot in beautiful wreaths, scattered flowers and bulbs. It really does look beautiful xxx
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@Charm that is beautiful. All the memories, all the quiet times we lost ourselves in each others love. Intertwined souls forever.
Peace and love Karen
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Makes me think when we went to a sock hop!! There is nostalgia for you
Karen
@Lonely
How right you are about not believing how that time had gone. I was born in 1961 and it seems no time at all since my Richard was following me around on his bike when I came to this village on holiday. My brother said ‘I think he fancies you but you don’t like him do you?’ I wouldn’t answer as I had been brought up not to tell lies but I knew if I admitted I did my brother would have teased me. Teenage love which led to a wonderful marriage.
Love to all xxx
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@Charm
That sounds beautiful. I’m going to dig up some bluebells from the woods in one of our fields to plant on Richard’s grave. He .loved his farmland so that would be perfect in his eyes.
Hi Johnch
Having a ‘moment’ when all I want is to have a hug and say goodnight to Paul…… properly
Sadly never again
Xx
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Sometimes I feel like all this, his Alzheimer’s, subsequent death is just an awful nightmare. How could it be? My precious husband who loved and adored me as I did him. How can it be???
Karen
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Hi
You are so right
How can this be!
Xx
@Bess1, bless you, I’m having a complete sad day today for a reason out of the blue that I don’t know why. My animals are always there for me though, they know how I feel. Take care, Here’s a virtual hug from me for what it’s worth x
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Hi Johnch
Thank you
Actually I means a lot:+1:
Xx
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