I appreciate that I am late to this thread, but I also met someone 8 months after my wife died, but she was very clear that I should be happy and move forward.
We have a very loving, strong realtionship, and my grown up children are very happy for me. It just works and I think the most important pont is that if you have a great connection and it feels right, then take small steps and move forward carefully. being sensitive to eath other’s emotions - that is how we have managed it and it’s great! How are things now?
I have met a lovely man who thinks works of me … not the same guy i liked btw. Its going good and he is so affectionate. I feel i am still guarding my heart a bit after all the pain of the last 18 months after losing my husband. Im taking it slowly but i think the world of him i really do and nice to know we have a life still to live after losing our beloved partner x
Well i was looking tbh. Really needed someone to share my life with. Its really nice and im happy but its scary too sometimes - i think all new relationships are a bit scary but im happy im where i am. Each to his own and it was a choice i made as did @ScottC … feel i spent enough time by myself and i dont particularly enjoy my own company x
I can’t face a new relationship at all. I had 22years together with my gorgeous beautiful late wife sue. I don’t feel i could ever be happy again with another relationship.
Same I was only with my fiancé 3 years and he was 51 died suddenly such a heart break I’ll never get over losing Steve but I won’t be replacing him either yes I get bored and lonely but I go bingo sometimes just for few hours get out and about z
hello Everyone. I can’t believe it been 8 months since I started this thread with my original question. Certainly it raised a lot of thoughtful comments and debate based on your own experiences, and I am very grateful for you taking the time. Alas things got worse for me since my last update in spring. I now find myself healing from that as well as dealing with the loss of Stephen. I am going to spend the weekend looking back over all of your thoughtful comments and reflecting. much love to you all xx take care
Sorry to hear that you’ve gone through even more turmoil; your original loss would have been more than enough, without this, too.
Yes, take some time out to spend on yourself, away from others. Hopefully it will do you some good and give you a fresh perspective.
Hi deb5 glad things are working out for you i dont think our hubbys would have wanted us to be on our own and unhappy. I always said i wouldn’t find anyone else when jim died 3 years ago thought i would be single and unhappy forever but it all changed and couple of months ago i met a very gorgeous and loving man we have been out together alot and even spent a weekend away. I’m fallen in love at my age didn’t expect to feel like this he’s 5 years younger than me (toyboy) . Without a crystal ball i don’t know what the future holds but I’m sure jim would approve. We have to make a life for ourselves and find happiness where we can most of my friends have been supportive apart from one who said its disgusting and disrespectful made me question if i should be doing this but at the end of the day it’s my life and doesn’t mean I’m forgotten jim. Hope things work out for you x