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Hi Marie. I hope you find what you are looking for here. Xx
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I dont really know what i am looking for, i am just broken
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Hello @Marie66
I hope you get comfort on here
We are all here to help you.
We all understand
You are not alone
we are here
Big hugs
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I am struggling being in our house on my own, i feel like i have to move to have any future. All i see here at home is things we planned to do and i cant bear it
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Thank you to all of you for being so kind
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Hi Marie, I recently lost my wife and can relate to that
We worked so hard to to get out home and raise our family, but now kids are grown up and left, since my wife died our home just feels so empty
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Hi Marie,
When my wife died fifteen weeks ago I toyed with the idea of moving,but then I realised everything we did/built together was in this home,and the thought of moving to a place she had never been in,laughed in,cried in,lived in wasn’t acceptable to me,so here I stay,good luck.
Ron.
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I lost my husband 9 weeks ago tomorrow. And I understand your pain. But dont do anything rash, I look around what once was our home now just feels like a shell. I see him in every place the memories are painful and comforting at the same time. I hope in time those memories bring me happiness. None of us know what the future holds none of us ever invisged that we could hurt so deeply. Byt I also try to hold on too hope. Hugs Jo xxx
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Thank you for your kind words. I lost my wife five weeks ago and yesterday I went to her wardrobe to see if I could still smell her on her clothes . Silly I know. Sadly I couldn’t, it upset me so much.
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Its not silly I have done the same thing, we all take comfort from anything anyone we can. Nobody knows until they have lost someone so close the intense pain. It is early days for us both, and grief is raw abs so bloody painful. I cry when i need too which is often. But i do find a little joy in been with my 3 year old grandaughter. I hope with all my heart that we all find peace and happiness at some point. I hold onto that. Hugs Jo xxx
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Hi Jo, Everything I do just reminds me of my wife, buying groceries, doing dishes, sweeping the floor, driving the car, even changing loo rolls. One of my saddest moments was when the N.H.S. came to collect her bed and the equipment she had and I walked into her empty room. I am going to redecorate the room and turn it into a playroom for our grandchildren, that’s what Irene would’ve wanted.
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Yes its awful painful unbearable i am sorry for your loss as I hate to think others are in so much pain. Its all the little things that are so painful. Gra had a bed in our living room I hated it when they came to collect it. It felt like they where taking him away I felt robbed all over again. I wanted to scream at the poor blokes who came to collect the stuff. Yes i would decorate the room how many grand children do you have. Hugs Jo xxx
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No it’s not silly at all,I have done the same with the same results,I found a little comfort sprinkling a few drops of her favourite perfume on my pillow.
Take good care Ron.
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We have four granddaughters, Millie 7, Maci 6, Rosie 4 and Freya who is 2. Because of Irene’s M.S. she was never the nana she wanted to be, she couldn’t take them to park, swimming ect. Irene loved kids, we had three of our own and when we foster carers we ended up adopting a wee girl 2 months old, she is in her last year at uni. Every one has left home and the house once full of chatter and laughter is silent now bar our two cats. Do you see your grandchild a lot ?
Not as much as i would like . I have anotherc2 grandaughters one almost 15 one 13 I dont realky see them .maybe 2 or 3 times acyear. My son moved to Scarborough and his wife is over possessive only wanting them all to need her. I live in Hull and like your dear wife cant do as much as I would like. I suffer from agrophobia and only go out in a small area close to home.what a beautiful thing you and your wife did. Yes I understand that emptiness. When the kids where young the house was filled with fun and laughter. Then there wasbjust Gra and I . Nowvits just me. Do you see your family often. Hugs Jo xx
Yes I see them most weekends and I do school drop offs too. We stay in Dumfries in south west Scotland population about 50,000. It really is a lovely part of the country. Such a shame you don’t see your grandchildren very often, they really are a pleasure to be around. It must be difficult for you suffering from agrophobia and not getting out and meeting people, your days must very difficult and now you’ve lost your husband even more so.
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Yes the days are so very hard, butvi do try and stay as positive as one can in our situation. Where you live sounds beautiful my late husbands late wife came from Scotland. Yes its hard not seeing my grandaughters and my son , but families are a complicated matter. I am pleased you get to see yours they will give you hope i am sure.hugs Jo xxx
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I dont really know what to do re moving. I am so torn